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About Catrina

Catrina is the founder of Confident Beauty Image- and Life-Coaching. She is an image- and life-coach with a passion for women's issues, especially those that create confidence conflicts such as rejection, betrayal and loss. She is available for speaking engagements and can be contacted at catrina@catrinawelch.com.

What to Wear for the Romantic Beauty

Many women wish they had a figure 8, but those with a full figure frame may not appreciate it. A strong bust line draws a lot of attention and can become a big frustration. This is a common problem for the Romantic Beauty. It doesn’t matter what her weight is; with or without extra pounds, a true figure 8 always has the full bosom with a waistline ten inches smaller. The full, balanced figure with rounded hips along with long lashes and round eyes make the Romantic’s outward beauty appealing, but her heart is also very attractive.

A Romantic has rich coloring and fine hair, which represent her deep heart and gentle ways very well.The practical, self-sacrificial nature of the Romantic, however, presents a challenge when it comes to her image. She loves fashion and enjoys shopping, but it’s hard for her to spend money on herself–unless it’s shoes, because that’s “her thing.”

The Romantic has a petite feet and loves stilettos. When she wears them she comes alive.

The Romantic comes alive whenever she dresses in soft, flowing outfits that compliment her curves and accentuate her femininity. Unfortunately, she tends to see dressing up as a luxury and would rather not draw attention to herself (unless she is actively fighting the Beauty Battle). Also, her practical nature fights her desires for new clothes, saying, “I don’t really need that.”

If you love beautiful, feminine high heel shoes, yet seldom wear them, you may be a Romantic.

To get your Personal Image Identity, take my Img.ID quiz here.

If you are a Romantic, I encourage you to BE the Glamorous Beauty that you were designed to be. Don’t hide your figure and don’t draw attention to it. Just relax and BE your authentic self. Enjoy your curves. The rest of us wish we had them! But don’t let our jealousy make you uncomfortable with who you are.

Also, be careful of the temptation  to use your “girl power” to draw attention to yourself in an immodest way, your value is not in your figure frame, it is in your heart.

The Romantic is the epitome of feminine beauty but the saying, “If you’ve got it, flaunt it” is a death threat to her sophisticated, glamorous beauty.

Instead the Romantic’s image should be as pure and sweet as her true heart.

Romantic Motto: When you’ve got it, there’s no need to flaunt it

Romantic Wardrobe:

If you are a Romantic, your image will be most attractive when you wear soft, feminine looks that compliment your curves. Be careful not to reveal too much or you may distract from your greatest power, which is in your mystery. Balance is the key:

  • Avoid anything tight and clingy or loose and baggy.
  • Avoid thin or poor quality fabrics or anything revealing such as low neckline or short hemline.
  • Choose fabrics and accessories (including costume jewelry) that are feminine or floral but not too heavy, bulky or rough in texture.
  • Choose rounded lines and soft curves with sweet, ornate accents and , feminine patterns such as oversized florals and polka dots or feathery shapes.
  • Always show fluidity, head to toe, and accentuate the waistline.
  • Avoid straight, sharp, horizontal or symmetrical lines and shapes.
  • Stay away from tailored looks or anything that hangs straight on you (especially big baggy sweatshirts!).

 

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What’s “In Style” for the New Year?

My only resolution this year is to blog more about what to wear (#What2Wear). While my greatest passion is helping women to understand their heart and find their confidence, I also feel it is very important to represent your heart accurately with your image so that other people can put their confidence in you.

There’s something very suspicious about a person who looks one way and acts another.

I’ve been looking through some old pictures lately and getting a kick out of how badly I used to dress. Granted the styles have changed. Most of us look back at old pictures and laugh at the awkward styles. Yet, when you chose styles that fit your clothing personality, you don’t look awkward even when that style is no longer “in.” My favorite example of this is a picture from my senior prom. In a line up of five of us girls–all looking “stylish” in our Romantic gowns, there is only one girl who truly shines out now with the “Wow Factor“–Jen, the Romantic! The rest of us may have looked great that day (well, the bad haircut I gave myself may have killed that for me, but that’s a blog for another day), but when what’s “in style” is not YOUR STYLE, it is rather embarrassing to look back on years later. (Which is the real reason why I can’t seem to find that picture to show you.)

Don’t let the trends determine what you wear.

There are a lot of image consultants who would fight with me on this, but I feel that we should not focus so much on the pressures of the media. My advice is to pay little attention to what’s in Vogue–unless you are a Dramatic, who’s style needs to be current (and who’s figure and personality likes the camera and therefore is often the one modeling the new styles that look great on them but not everyone else!).

Sure, we need to keep our wardrobe updated but there’s a difference between being current and being trendy. Current is a matter of maintaining good condition. Trendy is chasing after fashion, which is fine if that’s who you are, but if it stresses you out it a very high probability that it’s not your style anyway.

Some styles hate fashion

  • Classics and Naturals don’t like to spend money on new when the old is perfectly fine.
  • Ingénue’s and Romantics feel guilty about spending time, effort and especially money on themselves.
  • Gamines and Dramatics actually like shopping for themselves.

The thing is, we all need to find the balance of staying up to date without stressing out about the trends.

Take the “cold shoulder” sleeve of last spring, for example. How many of you Naturals, Classics and Gamines bought into that feminine look and felt very awkward but wore it anyway? You are going to look back at photos in that blouse and wince! Sure, you looked fine when you were wearing it because what it said was “I’m in style.”

But it wasn’t your style.

Sorry.

Well let’s leave that mistake in the  past;  the cold shoulder is way out of style now with these crazy temperatures! If you are wearing the open sleeve today you won’t be looking fine not matter which Img.ID you are, because the statement you would be making would be “I’m FREEZING!”  Looking beautiful isn’t all about style; it’s also about intelligence–and the cold shoulder in New England would show a lack of it.

Sorry. Again.

See why I would rather talk about confidence?

I will try not to be so harsh as I keep going with my new year’s resolution, but I do plan to take the next 6 weeks to blog about what will always be “in style” for each  clothing personality.  For now, here is a summary of #What2Wear according to your Personal Image Identity.

The style that makes you feel confident will compliment your Img.ID:

C: Quality, refined, classic clothing and accessories with a professional look. (The Classic)

N: Practical, casual, simple, textured clothing and (few) accessories with a no-pretense appearance. (The Natural)

D: Stylish, extravagant, detailed clothing and extreme accessories with an exotic facade. (The Dramatic)

I: Petite, dainty, youthful, clothing and accessories with a feminine impression. (The Ingénue)

R: Lavish, graceful, quantity clothing and accessories with a ladylike influence. (The Romantic)

G: Animated, bold, fun clothing and accessories with a strong, influential image. (The Gamine) 

Click the letter to learn more about that Image Identity, including What2Wear. To take my Image Assessment Quiz, click here.

 

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As an author and speaker, Catrina’s passion is in helping women and girls overcome confidence conflicts, especially those involving rejection, betrayal and loss. After 30 years in the beauty industry as both a cosmetologist and an image consultant, Catrina now uses her profession, her own powerful stories and her training as a Biblical life-coach to reach the heart in a way that is relatable, encouraging and inspiring. Her message is balanced with both fashion and faith and is making a difference  in the lives of women and girls all over!  To be part of this movement, connect with her on FacebookTwitter PinterestLinked In, Goodreads  and consider having her speak at your next event. Visit http://catrinawelch.com for more information.

3 Questions to Reset your New Year

The start of a new year is a great time to reflect and reset. As you reflect on 2017, do you recognize the changes in your life? Surely there were some good and some bad experiences. Perhaps your character was strengthened; maybe your hope was defeated. Was your patience tested, your confidence challenged? How did these thing affect your how you feel about yourself? Experiences are a big influence in our identity, but they do not need to define us. Perhaps this is why I love new beginnings so much. There have been many times in my life when I have allowed experiences in my life to become who I was.

After experiencing a divorce, I took the identity of “throw away wife” and was not able to build another healthy relationship until I was able to find the truth about who I was.

Some experiences require an identity check in order to move on. It is not wise to risk your heart for a future relationship (or job, location, etc) when it is still wounded from a past one.  We have a choice in how experiences affect us. They can defeat us and deter us from growth, or they can become our personal exercise program as we work through the difficulty and become stronger for it. Continue reading 3 Questions to Reset your New Year

Confident About the Beauty of Christmas

How many Christmas pageants, plays or recitals did you go to this year? Children add so much life to this season, don’t they? It doesn’t matter if their costumes are professional or pathetic, when a child is on a stage being recognized, it is beautiful.

Or at least entertaining.

A few children who play their part with a calm, strong confidence can make a silly program truly impressive, but the children who are timid, shy and awkward–or the ones who are boisterous and showing off–are still adorable.

When children have the guts to get up on a stage, we have grace for their fears, and when they get up there and enjoy themselves, we give them the right to be proud of what they were doing. The older we get, however, the less leeway we have between timidity and arrogance. Continue reading Confident About the Beauty of Christmas

What are your holdfasts?

I was feeling a bit overwhelmed with my to do list, when a dear friend of mine presented this very powerful question. It put life back into proper perspective for me and my hope is that it will for you as well.

If you’re plate is full and you are finding it hard to be merry this season, please enjoy this guest blog from Lauri Hawley, a godly woman of wisdom who has a way of capturing the most unusual beauty in amazing pictures and relating them to deep spiritual life lessons. You can find her blogs here  

photo by Lauri Hawley

 

I found this little rock washed up on the beach a few weeks ago, with a strange growth attached. It almost looks like a coral, but we’re too far north to find that around here. I’ll venture to say that it’s seaweed. Whatever it is, I’m sure that when it got anchored to that rock, it never saw itself being washed ashore! The rock was protected somewhere on the ocean floor for quite a while to give this specimen time to grow. And then the storms came.Are you holding on to things of this world that seem super stable, reliable, and strong? What rocks are you using as a foundation? Will they remain firm through the storms of this life?Jesus told this parable, recorded in Luke 6:46-49:

“So why do you keep calling me ‘Lord, Lord!’ when you don’t do what I say? I will show you what it’s like when someone comes to me, listens to my teaching, and then follows it. It is like a person building a house who digs deep and lays the foundation on solid rock. When the floodwaters rise and break against that house, it stands firm because it is well built. But anyone who hears and doesn’t obey is like a person who builds a house without a foundation. When the floods sweep down against that house, it will collapse into a heap of ruins.” (NLT)

Jesus gives three steps to building on a solid foundation.First, we must come to Him. Talk to Him, read His Word, ask Him for guidance and assurance, and learn from Him.Second, we must listen. Asking without listening for the answer is a waste of time! Staying in the Word and listening for His voice will teach us how to live, even when we don’t know what questions to ask.Third, we must do what He says. What does He say? Here are a few starters:

“Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other.” (John 13:34)

“Love your enemies” and “Pray for those who persecute you!” (Matthew 5:44)

“Let your good deeds shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father.” (Matthew 5:16)

Take some time today to check your foundation. What are your holdfasts attached to? If it’s anything of this world, it will pass away. Your rock will be thrown around by the storms of this life, and you’ll find yourself out in the open and exposed.Instead, dig down to the solid foundation that is Jesus Christ, who is the Rock of our salvation! Come to Him, listen, and obey. Through faith in Him we are counted as righteous, and “the root of the righteous will never be moved” (Proverbs 12:3 ESV). 

 

3 Reasons Your Style May Be a Combination Img.ID:

A little girl had  dream to become a gardener. She loved the many shapes, sizes and textures of flowers and wanted to grow them herself. It can’t be that difficult, she thought. “I will keep them in rich  soil, make sure they get lots of sun and water them every day.” 

It didn’t take long before she realized she couldn’t treat all flowers the same, so she began to educate herself on the many types of flowers and their various needs. Quickly she became overwhelmed, “There are too much to learn, this is complicated. I can’t remember all their names and what to do. I will just pick my favorites and focus on them.”  

Are you overwhelmed?

Feel awkward in clothes you chose?

This blog is dedicated to all the girls and women who want to learn about clothing personalities, but just can’t get their mind around it.

“Forget it! Who cares which style I am? I will dress however I want to dress!”

If you have said this, but were then unsure how you want to dress because when you put on clothes you chose, you feel uncomfortable, awkward and phony. My advice:

Figure out your style, make that your favorite and focus on that.

“Picking a favorite” is really not hard for most women, because most women are only one clothing personality, but for those of us who have a combination Img.ID, discovering which style you really like can be complicated. My advice to you?

First figure out if you are one style or two.

You know you are a combination Img.ID if:

  1. 1.You have the physical attributes of two clothing personalities. Do you have the facial features of a Natural, but are not tall? Or are you very tall, but have a turned up nose like a Gamine? You are more than likely a combination Img.ID 
  2. 2.Your natural coloring competes with your primary style. Are you one of the sensitive clothing personalities (Dramatic, Ingénue, Romantic) with strong coloring (Winter, Autumn)? Or one of the strong personalities (Classic, Natural, Gamine) with soft coloring (Summer, Spring)? You are more than likely a combination Img.ID.
  3. 3.You have the physical appearance of one style and a strong agreement with the preferences of different style. Do you have the physical attributes of one clothing personality, but your only desire is to look or act like another style? You may very well have been raised by a strong woman who you feel you must emulate. You have two options: be set free from your oppression and BE who you were designed to be, or find a way to blend the two styles so that your appearance reflects your authentic heart. 

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As an author and speaker, my passion is in helping women and girls overcome confidence conflicts, especially those involving rejection, betrayal and loss. After 30 years in the beauty industry as both a cosmetologist and an image consultant, I love to use my profession, along with my experiences and training as a Biblical life-coach to help others  who are struggling. I’d love to connect with you on Facebook, Twitter Pinterest, Linked In, Goodreads  Click the butterfly image or visit http://catrinawelch.com to learn more about my Supreme MakeOver Image Assessment events.

3 Reasons Image is a Bigger Issue for Some than it is for Others

After 33 years of helping women with Image Issues, I have come to the conclusion that there are the three reasons that the Beauty Battle is bigger for some than it is for others:

  1. Some people are raised in an environment that challenges their authentic style and confuses their ideology (like the Ugly Duckling we have been discussing the last few weeks).
  2. Some styles are more sensitive than others. Passionate people feel things more deeply than those who are less excitable, therefore, Image Issues can be a bigger battle for them to overcome emotionally.
  3. Some Img.IDs have an internal conflict within themselves in areas that make image an issue before they even enter the Beauty Battle.

Consider the sensitive Img.IDs:

  • Ingénue, the Delicate Beauty, who has a sweet, gentle, youthful appearance and personality. Before any man mistreats her or girlfriend insults her, she already has a conflict going on with her image. Her petite frame and high voice give a false impression that often conflicts with her strong, creative and intellectual character. She has a deep concern for other people, yet her compassion is often belittled and rejected because people assume she is far to young and inexperienced to have anything to offer. When an Ingénue faces a Beauty Battle, she often fights with herself rather than her opponent. A common war plan for this girl is to try to look older and tougher. Unfortunately, this often gets her caught in a cycle of pushing people away and punishing herself as the lies of misunderstanding and rejection go deeper and deeper.
  • Dramatic, the Exotic Beauty, who is enthusiastic and expressive and rather intimidating to those she towers over. Because of her natural inclination to detail, her appearance and work ethic give the impression that she has it all together, but in her striving for excellence she seldom sees herself the way others see her. She sees the fine, unfinished details, others see the finished parts. Unfortunately, she may read the tension others feel around her as their rejection of her.  She is often completely unaware that her high standards are causing the threat. If she does recognize this, she may decide to “play it down” and then find herself feeling restricted and frustrated.
  • Romantic, the Glamorous Beauty, who has a gentle, compassionate appearance and personality. This woman cares deeply about others but has a hard time giving herself the attention she gives others. It’s important to her that others feel comfortable and loved, yet she seldom loves herself, which is (ironically) what often makes others uncomfortable around her.

Consider the combination Img.IDs.

For those whose Img.ID consists of two styles there may be areas where those styles contradict each other causing minor–or major–Image Issues.

Some styles prioritize fashion, others comfort; some peace, others justice; some privacy, others publicity.

I would say it is about half of the women I have analyzed have the Img.ID of one style the other half have two styles and about half of those have a major conflict within those two styles. If this is you, this is no cause for alarm; it only means that you have some self-discovery to do so that you can find peace and learn to blend those two styles in a way that honestly represents your authentic nature.

The Beauty Battle is emotional, spiritual, physical and logical.

It’s no secret that I think a big part of the emotional Beauty Battle is spiritual warfare. I believe that there is an enemy of God who hates the fact that a woman’s beauty is a reflection of Him, so he sets traps before us to make us HATE, HIDE or get HUNG UP on how we look. When we are preoccupied with ourselves, we do not glorify God, we do not find peace and  we do not encourage each other.

It takes time to settle things in your spirit,  but if you are willing to search your soul and learn from those who have gone before you and won the battle,  you can become a woman of Confident Beauty, which is balanced and free.

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As an author and speaker, my passion is in helping women and girls overcome confidence conflicts, especially those involving rejection, betrayal and loss. Please  connect with me on Facebook, Twitter Pinterest, Linked In, Goodreads  or consider having me speak at your next event.

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Thanksgiving, the Key to Confident Beauty

Liz hated her blonde hair. Someone once called her a bimbo and she couldn’t let go of the insult. With a mission to look more intelligent, she dyed her hair very dark, but as it grew out her light roots gave the illusion that he hair was thinning and suddenly she was convinced she was going bald. Now she hated her hair even more, and couldn’t stand how she looked.

I am not making this up. This was a major Confidence Conflict that one of my clients faced, and her story is not unusual. When Liz came to me for a Supreme MakeOver, she had already been through two hair implants and had treatments scheduled for the rest of the year. After learning that she was an Ingénue, with delicate coloring and dainty features, she realized that dying her hair was a major mistake. Not only did it cause this awful illusion of thinning, but the deep, dark color was competing with her skin and eye coloring causing her to look drawn and tiered all the time.

Many beauty treatments are completely unnecessary for certain people, yet they are highly successful because they are marketable to those people anyway if they are vulnerable. Liz had plenty of hair, she didn’t need to start implant treatments, she needed stop tint treatments.

Transition takes Confidence

When you are deep into a difficult Beauty Battle, however, making a change is not easy. Sometimes recognizing your style may cause another Confidence Conflict. because being advised to alter how you represent yourself may be considered another insult. Like growing out your hair, major change is a difficult process, which will happen if a decision is made to push through the awkward transition. You must feel confident to get through it.

It took liz a very long time to work through her battle. With scheduled appointments and big investments already made, she was not confident she wanted to change. She could not go back to her natural beauty until she could appreciate her beauty.

Gratitude changes attitude

Think of any Confidence Conflict that you have faced. When did the transition begin to happen? I’m willing to bet that it started with a change in your heart.

  • You feel unsure about stepping out, but then you realize the value of the end result, and suddenly it’s worth the work.
  • A relationship is strained, but then you recognize something in that person that you appreciate and the door to reconciliation is suddenly open.

The same must happen with your relationship with yourself. Until you recognize that you do have something to offer and you begin to appreciate the way that you were created, your self-confidence will always be strained. The good news is that, if you do come to that place of appreciation, you can find peace with yourself.

In honor of this Thanksgiving weekend, I encourage you to be thankful for how God made you. I know it sounds cliche, but He doesn’t make mistakes. If someone has insulted you, don’t receive their opinion as your identity. More than likely, they were only trying to feel better about their own Image Issues. When we are grateful for what we have, it is easier to brush off rude remarks and BE who were were designed to be.

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As an author and speaker, my passion is in helping women and girls overcome Image Issues, so that they can become women of Confident Beauty, which doesn’t wear off like makeup does!

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Does your Beauty Fit into a Box?

One of the biggest push-backs I get as an image consultant comes from the fear of bing analyzed. It seems that many people assume that being told which style they are is like being put into a box. In truth, however, knowing which “box” you fit into breaks the walls that can hold you back from being true to yourself–like the Ugly Duckling that I blogged about last week.

Many of us are brought up in a culture that confines us to the definition of beauty that our influencers hold us to. It may be that your mom likes things done “properly” but you don’t notice details and feel as if you just didn’t meet the standard set before you.

Maybe you do care about details and love to make things beautiful, but your family does not. Perhaps they belittled you for your concerns and to this day you hold back from being a woman of excellence because you feel as if it is selfish or prideful?

Altering your appearance is exhausting.

Continue reading Does your Beauty Fit into a Box?

Do you Feel Like an Ugly Duckling?

The primary factor in determining your Personal Image Identity (Img.ID) is your physical appearance. Just as a rose by any other name is still a rose, so are you the style of beauty that your physical attributes indicate that you are. Anyone could say that a rose is just a flower, or they could call it ugly, old, deformed or anything else, but it is still a rose.

People may point out your commonality, or they may critique your every attribute, but when you get down to the core of who you are, the truth is, you are beautiful.

Every flower is beautiful, no matter which species, whether it is budding or beginning to dry out. It doesn’t matter its size or color. This is also true of you. You may feel as if you are too old, have gained too much weight, or hate your coloring, but you are still beautiful. People may have told you that your nose is too big or picked on your differences, but focus on anything too closely and you may miss it’s beauty, too. In order to make peace with your beauty, you must take a step back and focus on the bigger picture.  Continue reading Do you Feel Like an Ugly Duckling?

Take this LifeSTYLE Quiz

You are invited to a formal event. How does your heart respond? Some women (and men) enjoy dressing up and socializing. Others feel quite the opposite.

The way you respond to certain lifestyle choices has a lot to say about which style of beauty (or attractive) you are. While your physical attributes are the major indicator of which of the six styles (your personal image identity or Img.ID) you are, your personal preferences are the confirmation. If your physical style does not fall in line with your personal preferences, then you likely have a secondary style or you are in the midst of a Beauty Battle. 

A number of factors come into play when it comes to our personal preferences. The culture, economy and standards of our formative years are certainly strong influences on how we feel about certain lifestyle choices, especially if we have a compliant nature. It is natural to choose that which we are comfortable with, but sometimes we follow the examples set before us without even considering other options because it is all we know.  Continue reading Take this LifeSTYLE Quiz

The Overlooked Solution for Acne

When acne blows up, does you confidence deflate?

Google is betting on it, which is why ads for suicide prevention are often linked to your search on this common skin condition.

Acne affects about 50 million Americans a year.

Obnoxious blemishes have a way of rearing their ugly head at crucial times in life–not only in adolescence! Consider that important event in your life when you woke up to a big zit between your eyes. Why is it  the photo-op days when they suddenly appear to taunt us?

Stress causes acne

  • Emotional stress can cause the oil glands to be more active.
  • Physical stress (including hormones, diets, circumstances and genetics) are major contributors to break outs.

Blemishes happen Continue reading The Overlooked Solution for Acne