When is the last time someone said something encouraging to you as a person?
You are very good at that.
You are so strong!
You are beautiful.
I hope it was this morning that someone validated you as a person, but I know that in reality it may have been a long time since you have heard a positive statement about your looks, strengths or qualities. For some reason, most of us hold back from “speaking life” over each other.
“Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live!-Deuteronomy 30:19
I was just making a bitmoji with my daughter. We were cracking up Continue reading Validation, Everyone Needs It
As Easter approaches, let’s consider how Mary’s mamma-heart must have felt during Jesus’ persecution and death.
As moms, we believe in our kids. Sure, we see their faults and we get frustrated when they don’t follow our wishes, but we see beyond the present day; we see their potential future. If anyone should point out their imperfections, we defend them because we know that, one day, each of them will be great!
I imagine that this must have been especially true for Mary. Granted, her son was perfect–but she was not. Surely she got anxious about the expectations she had for Him. After all, she was told (directly by an angel!) profound promises about His future yet she had to wait thirty years before He began His ministry. Continue reading Confident for Our Children
The Beauty of Branding your Image is that when you know your style, you know your general guidelines for what to wear… even when it comes to nail polish. Colors trend and services change, but just as with your wardrobe or makeup, there are specifics you should always follow.
Here are the general guidelines for each of the 6 styles:
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Not all Confidence Conflicts are Beauty Battles. Attacks on our identity come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. Most of these conflicts are mountains–whether we made them out of molehills or not.
Nineteen years ago today, my husband and I faced one of our biggest mountains: the loss of our daughter.
Grief is a very real and very difficult Confidence Conflict, which leaves you feeling small and overwhelmed. Emotions are raw, vision is blurred and the path to peace is hard to find. There were many times during our journey when we lost our way, broke down, gave up or separated from each other emotionally. We did, however, make a decision to reunite and help each other over the mountain of grief. Eventually we found our way through the woods, but I don’t believe we would have made it to higher ground if we hadn’t called out to God for help. Continue reading Finding Strength in the Confidence Conflicts
The way you feel about makeup is a big indicator of your personal Image Identity (mg.ID). The way you wear your makeup should accentuate your authentic beauty in a way that represents your Img.ID with honesty and dignity. Continue reading Makeup Tips for Each Style
The Classic woman (AKA the Refined Beauty) is a well-organized manager. She’s a take-charge kind of gal who excels in administration with great authority. Instruction and correction come naturally for her and she takes the time to study the details of her interests.
She is tenacious and determined.
Many Classic are highly Continue reading What to Wear for the Refined Beauty
The Natural woman is a laid back, kind and considerate friend. She doesn’t draw much attention to herself, but she pays great attention to others. She is loyal and committed, even when treated poorly. She sees the other side of the picture and when people mistreat her, she considers where they are coming from and tends to give them grace quickly.
This doesn’t mean she’s a pushover, because she is definitely not. In fact, she will hold you accountable just as quickly as she will see your motive. Her compassionate nature will not condemn you for your wrongs, but nor will it let you off the hook easily. She knows you are not perfect but she also knows you need to put in the work just like she does. Best of all, she truly believes you can do what it takes, probably because she knows she can do what it takes. Continue reading What to Wear for the Casual Beauty
The Dramatic woman is just that: passionately expressive. Conversations with her are very deep and theatrically infused with emotional word-pictures. She’s a rather private person, but somehow doesn’t mind the spot light. In fact, many Dramatics take up their profession in the fine arts and are often found in the theaters or on television. These girls (and guys) put their whole heart into their performance and their long, lean physique is easy on the camera.
For the same reasons, many Dramatics are Continue reading What to Wear for the Exotic Beauty
The Gamine Beauty is a strong, witty, hardworking, witty woman who is driven by justice. She has an eye for detail and a passion for purpose. No grass grows under her feet. If there is work to be done, the Gamine girl will get it done. Or she will tell someone to do it. If there’s fun to be had, you can’t hold her back there, either. “ALL IN” that’s the Gamine mantra.
The Beauty Battle for the Gamine is often fought within her own heart. Her strong presence and apparent convictions put up a front that protects her from most outside attacks, but Continue reading What to Wear for the Bold Beauty
There’s something very attractive about the innocence of a child. Just being around a joyful little girl enjoying her playtime can lift the dreariest of attitudes and encouraged the depressed. That’s what it’s like to be around a Confident Ingénue.
ingénue | ˌanjəˈno͞o, ˈänjəˌno͞o |
an innocent or unsophisticated young woman, especially in a play or film.
The Delicate Beauty has a sweet, gentle way about her. She’s considerate and kind and she has a positive outlook on life–at least until someone takes advantage of her and she finds herself in a Beauty Battle. Because of her petite frame and soft voice, she is often an easy target for a “big bully” and because this girl feels things so deeply, when she is mistreated it may very well send her into an identity crisis. Continue reading What to Wear for the Delicate Beauty
Many women wish they had a figure 8, but those with a full figure frame may not appreciate it. A strong bust line draws a lot of attention and can become a big frustration. This is a common problem for the Romantic Beauty. It doesn’t matter what her weight is; with or without extra pounds, a true figure 8 always has the full bosom with a waistline ten inches smaller. The full, balanced figure with rounded hips along with long lashes and round eyes make the Romantic’s outward beauty appealing, but her heart is also very attractive.
A Romantic has rich coloring and fine hair, which represent her deep heart and gentle ways very well.The practical, self-sacrificial nature of the Romantic, however, presents a challenge when it comes to her image. She loves fashion and enjoys shopping, but it’s hard for her to spend money on herself–unless it’s shoes, because that’s “her thing.” Continue reading What to Wear for the Romantic Beauty
My only resolution this year is to blog more about what to wear (#What2Wear). While my greatest passion is helping women to understand their heart and find their confidence, I also feel it is very important to represent your heart accurately with your image so that other people can put their confidence in you.
There’s something very suspicious about a person who looks one way and acts another.
Continue reading What’s “In Style” for the New Year?