God is a God of balance. He wants us to be a people of balance in all areas of our lives even in the area of beauty. When we walk in balance, we walk in great peace and joy. Our enemy is no fool, he knows that, and he does not want us walking in that place. He wants to throw our lives out of balance, so that we will be miserable and stressed out.
Satan is very good at throwing us off balance by distorting our understanding of the truth. He takes one side of the truth or the other and blows it out of proportion. When we believe these distorted truths we are left off balance and confused … and God is not glorified in our stressed and striving lives.
The truth about beauty is that God designed it; He loves it, He wants it to reflect Him and to draw others to Him. He wants to be sought after for His beauty, and He made us to feel the same way. Unfortunately, most women have fallen for the lie that they have to have a perfect body to be somebody or at least that their beauty is their worth so they hide, hate or get hung up on their appearance instead of being women of confidence who radiate the glory of God with the image He gave them.
Which side of the truth is the enemy of your soul blowing out of proportion for you? Is his attack on your beauty causing you to be ashamed of who you are? Or do you tend to idolize your desire to be beautiful? Have you given up on ever being lovely and do you walk in shame and self-contempt? Or have you determined in your heart that you will be lovely, no matter what the cost; do you believe that is how you are valued?
We all get thrown off balance at some point. There are a lot of powerful traps set to ensnare us with confidence conflicts. The bait is different for each Img.ID, though.
The Classic’s desire to have things done properly can drive her to perfectionism and her true self may get hidden in busyness.
The Natural’s desire for comfort may drive her to denial and her practical and unpretentious nature may get hidden in laziness.
The Dramatic’s desire for popularity may drive her to demand attention to the point where it may swallow up her independent nature. Rejection and neglect may discourage her to the point of defeat.
The Ingénue’s desire for peace may drive her to desperation or determination and self-reliance or codependency may engulf her beautiful complacent nature.
The Romantic’s desire for acceptance may drive her to flaunt her beauty or focus on pleasing others and her compassionate nature may get swallowed up in selfishness or selflessness.
The Gamine’s desire for justice may drive her to control others and herself so much that she may lose her fun, bubbly nature … and her friends.
For all of us, life is a continuous battle between shame and pride. It takes time to find the balance. This is the “beauty battle” but it is one worth fighting for because when you finally find victory, you find that place of peace and joy and with it comes a confidence that doesn’t wear off like makeup does!
Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Losing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available in book stores this spring. All of these books are available now at www.CatrinaWelch.com
If you are interested in having Catrina come speak to your friends, colleagues or ministry you can contact her on facebook or by email at firstname.lastname@example.org.