Category Archives: Confidence

What to Wear for the Refined Beauty

The Classic woman (AKA the Refined Beauty) is a well-organized manager. She’s a take-charge kind of gal who excels in administration with great authority. Instruction and correction come naturally for her and she takes the time to study the details of her interests.

She is tenacious and determined.

Many Classic are highly Continue reading What to Wear for the Refined Beauty

What to Wear for the Casual Beauty

The Natural woman is a laid back, kind and considerate friend. She doesn’t draw much attention to herself, but she pays great attention to others. She is loyal and committed, even when treated poorly. She sees the other side of the picture and when people mistreat her, she considers where they are coming from and tends to give them grace quickly.

This doesn’t mean she’s a pushover, because she is definitely not. In fact, she will hold you accountable just as quickly as she will see your motive. Her compassionate nature will not condemn you for your wrongs, but nor will it let you off the hook easily. She knows you are not perfect but she also knows you need to put in the work just like she does. Best of all, she truly believes you can do what it takes, probably because she knows she can do what it takes.

Most Naturals are very athletic, or at least enjoy sports. I suppose the “go, fight, win!” mentality supports the core of who they are. Unless they feel defeated. Then they may prefer the bench or the bleachers or coach (because they are great fans, too).

The strength of the Natural is her impromptu nature, but like any strength, it can become too much at times. The major area of caution for this gal is that, if she allows herself, she can slip into depression or laziness. Very often, the first place this starts is with her wardrobe.

The Casual Beauty (my nickname for the Natural) tends to feel fashion is foolish and she really does not like to dress up. Comfort is her major desire when making wardrobe choices, so makeup, accessories and heels are just not her thing. To be honest, it’s better that way. The formal look only works for the Natural when it is not complicated. Anything frilly or fancy contradicts her simple nature.

Natural Motto: Keep it simple. Less is more.

The Natural is Authentic

The Natural is a tall, broad boned, rustic girl who puts on no pretense. She is who she is. If you have a problem with her, well then it’s your problem, not hers. She’s not going to judge you for that, though. You have the right to your opinion and she respects non-conformists, so you are not going to feel threatened by her.

Her image should reflect her heart.

When considering an outfit or store, think to yourself, “does it say, ‘sporty,’ ‘casual,’ ‘simple’?”

Natural Wardrobe:

The best look for the Casual Beauty is just that, casual. Jeans and a t-shirt, Athletic gear, country girl looks, oversized sweaters, sneakers or flats.

  • Unstructured looks; avoid tailoring.
  • Textured fabrics (woven, knitted, rough, nubby, tweeds, flannels, linens, denims).
  • Mix and match styles.
  • Minimal, subtle jewelry and makeup (lip gloss or mascara only or none).
  • Simple elegance for formal occasions (microfiber, crepe or velvet dress with little details).

Confident Beauty

It is not unusual for a Natural to get very frustrated with her wardrobe. In fact, she may give up on trying to look good. Creativity is just not her thing–although she enjoys beauty just as much as the other styles. When she goes out with her girlfriends and they are all decked out– even if she does dress up–she just doesn’t feel like herself, so it’s hard for her to enjoy herself.

Having said that, let me tell you that many other styles  feel that same struggle if they have no idea which style they are, but that doesn’t mean they are a Natural. For most styles, knowing how to “brand your beauty” is the secret to overcoming this Confidence Conflict, but for the Natural, this is a even bigger challenge because her “brand” is casual even on those more formal occasions.

If you are a Casual Beauty, I encourage you to BE who you were designed to be. Don’t hide your beauty by dressing down too much, but realize you can  also hide your greatest beauty with too much formality. You are a woman of balance find that balance in your formality and you will find that your beauty is absolutely desirable because it is authentic, relatable and inviting without being intimidating.

To learn your style, take the Img.ID Quiz here.

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What to Wear for the Exotic Beauty

The Dramatic woman is just that: passionately expressive. Conversations with her are very deep and theatrically infused with emotional word-pictures. She’s a rather private person, but somehow doesn’t mind the spot light. In fact, many Dramatics take up their profession in the fine arts and are often found in the theaters or on television. These girls (and guys) put their whole heart into their performance and their long, lean physique is easy on the camera.

For the same reasons, many Dramatics are Continue reading What to Wear for the Exotic Beauty

What to Wear for the Bold Beauty

The Gamine Beauty is a strong, witty, hardworking, witty woman who is driven by justice. She has an eye for detail and a passion for purpose. No grass grows under her feet. If there is work to be done, the Gamine girl will get it done. Or she will tell someone to do it. If there’s fun to be had, you can’t hold her back there, either. “ALL IN” that’s the Gamine mantra.

The Beauty Battle for the Gamine is often fought within her own heart. Her strong presence and apparent convictions put up a front that protects her from most outside attacks, but Continue reading What to Wear for the Bold Beauty

What to Wear for the Delicate Beauty

There’s something very attractive about the innocence of a child. Just being around a joyful little girl enjoying her playtime can lift the dreariest of attitudes and encouraged the depressed. That’s what it’s like to be around a Confident Ingénue.

ingénue | ˌanjəˈno͞o, ˈänjəˌno͞o |
noun
an innocent or unsophisticated young woman, especially in a play or film.

The Delicate Beauty has a sweet, gentle way about her. She’s considerate and kind and she has a positive outlook on life–at least until someone takes advantage of her and she finds herself in a Beauty Battle. Because of her petite frame and soft voice, she is often an easy target for a “big bully” and because this girl feels things so deeply, when she is mistreated it may very well send her into an identity crisis. Continue reading What to Wear for the Delicate Beauty

What to Wear for the Romantic Beauty

Many women wish they had a figure 8, but those with a full figure frame may not appreciate it. A strong bust line draws a lot of attention and can become a big frustration. This is a common problem for the Romantic Beauty. It doesn’t matter what her weight is; with or without extra pounds, a true figure 8 always has the full bosom with a waistline ten inches smaller. The full, balanced figure with rounded hips along with long lashes and round eyes make the Romantic’s outward beauty appealing, but her heart is also very attractive.

A Romantic has rich coloring and fine hair, which represent her deep heart and gentle ways very well.The practical, self-sacrificial nature of the Romantic, however, presents a challenge when it comes to her image. She loves fashion and enjoys shopping, but it’s hard for her to spend money on herself–unless it’s shoes, because that’s “her thing.” Continue reading What to Wear for the Romantic Beauty

What’s “In Style” for the New Year?

My only resolution this year is to blog more about what to wear (#What2Wear). While my greatest passion is helping women to understand their heart and find their confidence, I also feel it is very important to represent your heart accurately with your image so that other people can put their confidence in you.

There’s something very suspicious about a person who looks one way and acts another.

I’ve been looking through some old pictures lately and getting a kick out of how badly I used to dress. Granted the styles have changed. Most of us look back at old pictures and laugh at the awkward styles. Yet, when you chose styles that fit your clothing personality, you don’t look awkward even when that style is no longer “in.” My favorite example of this is a picture from my senior prom. In a line up of five of us girls–all looking “stylish” in our Romantic gowns, there is only one girl who truly shines out now with the “Wow Factor“–Jen, the Romantic! The rest of us may have looked great that day (well, the bad haircut I gave myself may have killed that for me, but that’s a blog for another day), but when what’s “in style” is not YOUR STYLE, it is rather embarrassing to look back on years later. (Which is the real reason why I can’t seem to find that picture to show you.)

Don’t let the trends determine what you wear.

There are a lot of image consultants who would fight with me on this, but I feel that we should not focus so much on the pressures of the media. My advice is to pay little attention to what’s in Vogue–unless you are a Dramatic, who’s style needs to be current (and who’s figure and personality likes the camera and therefore is often the one modeling the new styles that look great on them but not everyone else!).

Sure, we need to keep our wardrobe updated but there’s a difference between being current and being trendy. Current is a matter of maintaining good condition. Trendy is chasing after fashion, which is fine if that’s who you are, but if it stresses you out it a very high probability that it’s not your style anyway.

Some styles hate fashion

  • Classics and Naturals don’t like to spend money on new when the old is perfectly fine.
  • Ingénue’s and Romantics feel guilty about spending time, effort and especially money on themselves.
  • Gamines and Dramatics actually like shopping for themselves.

The thing is, we all need to find the balance of staying up to date without stressing out about the trends.

Take the “cold shoulder” sleeve of last spring, for example. How many of you Naturals, Classics and Gamines bought into that feminine look and felt very awkward but wore it anyway? You are going to look back at photos in that blouse and wince! Sure, you looked fine when you were wearing it because what it said was “I’m in style.”

But it wasn’t your style.

Sorry.

Well let’s leave that mistake in the  past;  the cold shoulder is way out of style now with these crazy temperatures! If you are wearing the open sleeve today you won’t be looking fine not matter which Img.ID you are, because the statement you would be making would be “I’m FREEZING!”  Looking beautiful isn’t all about style; it’s also about intelligence–and the cold shoulder in New England would show a lack of it.

Sorry. Again.

See why I would rather talk about confidence?

I will try not to be so harsh as I keep going with my new year’s resolution, but I do plan to take the next 6 weeks to blog about what will always be “in style” for each  clothing personality.  For now, here is a summary of #What2Wear according to your Personal Image Identity.

The style that makes you feel confident will compliment your Img.ID:

C: Quality, refined, classic clothing and accessories with a professional look. (The Classic)

N: Practical, casual, simple, textured clothing and (few) accessories with a no-pretense appearance. (The Natural)

D: Stylish, extravagant, detailed clothing and extreme accessories with an exotic facade. (The Dramatic)

I: Petite, dainty, youthful, clothing and accessories with a feminine impression. (The Ingénue)

R: Lavish, graceful, quantity clothing and accessories with a ladylike influence. (The Romantic)

G: Animated, bold, fun clothing and accessories with a strong, influential image. (The Gamine) 

Click the letter to learn more about that Image Identity, including What2Wear. To take my Image Assessment Quiz, click here.

 

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As an author and speaker, Catrina’s passion is in helping women and girls overcome confidence conflicts, especially those involving rejection, betrayal and loss. After 30 years in the beauty industry as both a cosmetologist and an image consultant, Catrina now uses her profession, her own powerful stories and her training as a Biblical life-coach to reach the heart in a way that is relatable, encouraging and inspiring. Her message is balanced with both fashion and faith and is making a difference  in the lives of women and girls all over!  To be part of this movement, connect with her on FacebookTwitter PinterestLinked In, Goodreads  and consider having her speak at your next event. Visit http://catrinawelch.com for more information.

3 Questions to Reset your New Year

The start of a new year is a great time to reflect and reset. As you reflect on 2017, do you recognize the changes in your life? Surely there were some good and some bad experiences. Perhaps your character was strengthened; maybe your hope was defeated. Was your patience tested, your confidence challenged? How did these thing affect your how you feel about yourself? Experiences are a big influence in our identity, but they do not need to define us. Perhaps this is why I love new beginnings so much. There have been many times in my life when I have allowed experiences in my life to become who I was.

After experiencing a divorce, I took the identity of “throw away wife” and was not able to build another healthy relationship until I was able to find the truth about who I was.

Some experiences require an identity check in order to move on. It is not wise to risk your heart for a future relationship (or job, location, etc) when it is still wounded from a past one.  We have a choice in how experiences affect us. They can defeat us and deter us from growth, or they can become our personal exercise program as we work through the difficulty and become stronger for it. Continue reading 3 Questions to Reset your New Year

Confident About the Beauty of Christmas

How many Christmas pageants, plays or recitals did you go to this year? Children add so much life to this season, don’t they? It doesn’t matter if their costumes are professional or pathetic, when a child is on a stage being recognized, it is beautiful.

Or at least entertaining.

A few children who play their part with a calm, strong confidence can make a silly program truly impressive, but the children who are timid, shy and awkward–or the ones who are boisterous and showing off–are still adorable.

When children have the guts to get up on a stage, we have grace for their fears, and when they get up there and enjoy themselves, we give them the right to be proud of what they were doing. The older we get, however, the less leeway we have between timidity and arrogance. Continue reading Confident About the Beauty of Christmas

3 Reasons Your Style May Be a Combination Img.ID:

A little girl had  dream to become a gardener. She loved the many shapes, sizes and textures of flowers and wanted to grow them herself. It can’t be that difficult, she thought. “I will keep them in rich  soil, make sure they get lots of sun and water them every day.” 

It didn’t take long before she realized she couldn’t treat all flowers the same, so she began to educate herself on the many types of flowers and their various needs. Quickly she became overwhelmed, “There are too much to learn, this is complicated. I can’t remember all their names and what to do. I will just pick my favorites and focus on them.”  

Are you overwhelmed?

Feel awkward in clothes you chose?

This blog is dedicated to all the girls and women who want to learn about clothing personalities, but just can’t get their mind around it.

“Forget it! Who cares which style I am? I will dress however I want to dress!”

If you have said this, but were then unsure how you want to dress because when you put on clothes you chose, you feel uncomfortable, awkward and phony. My advice:

Figure out your style, make that your favorite and focus on that.

“Picking a favorite” is really not hard for most women, because most women are only one clothing personality, but for those of us who have a combination Img.ID, discovering which style you really like can be complicated. My advice to you?

First figure out if you are one style or two.

You know you are a combination Img.ID if:

  1. 1.You have the physical attributes of two clothing personalities. Do you have the facial features of a Natural, but are not tall? Or are you very tall, but have a turned up nose like a Gamine? You are more than likely a combination Img.ID 
  2. 2.Your natural coloring competes with your primary style. Are you one of the sensitive clothing personalities (Dramatic, Ingénue, Romantic) with strong coloring (Winter, Autumn)? Or one of the strong personalities (Classic, Natural, Gamine) with soft coloring (Summer, Spring)? You are more than likely a combination Img.ID.
  3. 3.You have the physical appearance of one style and a strong agreement with the preferences of different style. Do you have the physical attributes of one clothing personality, but your only desire is to look or act like another style? You may very well have been raised by a strong woman who you feel you must emulate. You have two options: be set free from your oppression and BE who you were designed to be, or find a way to blend the two styles so that your appearance reflects your authentic heart. 

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As an author and speaker, my passion is in helping women and girls overcome confidence conflicts, especially those involving rejection, betrayal and loss. After 30 years in the beauty industry as both a cosmetologist and an image consultant, I love to use my profession, along with my experiences and training as a Biblical life-coach to help others  who are struggling. I’d love to connect with you on Facebook, Twitter Pinterest, Linked In, Goodreads  Click the butterfly image or visit http://catrinawelch.com to learn more about my Supreme MakeOver Image Assessment events.

Thanksgiving, the Key to Confident Beauty

Liz hated her blonde hair. Someone once called her a bimbo and she couldn’t let go of the insult. With a mission to look more intelligent, she dyed her hair very dark, but as it grew out her light roots gave the illusion that he hair was thinning and suddenly she was convinced she was going bald. Now she hated her hair even more, and couldn’t stand how she looked.

I am not making this up. This was a major Confidence Conflict that one of my clients faced, and her story is not unusual. When Liz came to me for a Supreme MakeOver, she had already been through two hair implants and had treatments scheduled for the rest of the year. After learning that she was an Ingénue, with delicate coloring and dainty features, she realized that dying her hair was a major mistake. Not only did it cause this awful illusion of thinning, but the deep, dark color was competing with her skin and eye coloring causing her to look drawn and tiered all the time.

Many beauty treatments are completely unnecessary for certain people, yet they are highly successful because they are marketable to those people anyway if they are vulnerable. Liz had plenty of hair, she didn’t need to start implant treatments, she needed stop tint treatments.

Transition takes Confidence

When you are deep into a difficult Beauty Battle, however, making a change is not easy. Sometimes recognizing your style may cause another Confidence Conflict. because being advised to alter how you represent yourself may be considered another insult. Like growing out your hair, major change is a difficult process, which will happen if a decision is made to push through the awkward transition. You must feel confident to get through it.

It took liz a very long time to work through her battle. With scheduled appointments and big investments already made, she was not confident she wanted to change. She could not go back to her natural beauty until she could appreciate her beauty.

Gratitude changes attitude

Think of any Confidence Conflict that you have faced. When did the transition begin to happen? I’m willing to bet that it started with a change in your heart.

  • You feel unsure about stepping out, but then you realize the value of the end result, and suddenly it’s worth the work.
  • A relationship is strained, but then you recognize something in that person that you appreciate and the door to reconciliation is suddenly open.

The same must happen with your relationship with yourself. Until you recognize that you do have something to offer and you begin to appreciate the way that you were created, your self-confidence will always be strained. The good news is that, if you do come to that place of appreciation, you can find peace with yourself.

In honor of this Thanksgiving weekend, I encourage you to be thankful for how God made you. I know it sounds cliche, but He doesn’t make mistakes. If someone has insulted you, don’t receive their opinion as your identity. More than likely, they were only trying to feel better about their own Image Issues. When we are grateful for what we have, it is easier to brush off rude remarks and BE who were were designed to be.

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Does your Beauty Fit into a Box?

One of the biggest push-backs I get as an image consultant comes from the fear of bing analyzed. It seems that many people assume that being told which style they are is like being put into a box. In truth, however, knowing which “box” you fit into breaks the walls that can hold you back from being true to yourself–like the Ugly Duckling that I blogged about last week.

Many of us are brought up in a culture that confines us to the definition of beauty that our influencers hold us to. It may be that your mom likes things done “properly” but you don’t notice details and feel as if you just didn’t meet the standard set before you.

Maybe you do care about details and love to make things beautiful, but your family does not. Perhaps they belittled you for your concerns and to this day you hold back from being a woman of excellence because you feel as if it is selfish or prideful?

Altering your appearance is exhausting.

Continue reading Does your Beauty Fit into a Box?