Category Archives: Confidence

What to Wear for the Bold Beauty

The Gamine Beauty is a strong, witty, hardworking, witty woman who is driven by justice. She has an eye for detail and a passion for purpose. No grass grows under her feet. If there is work to be done, the Gamine girl will get it done. Or she will tell someone to do it. If there’s fun to be had, you can’t hold her back there, either. “ALL IN” that’s the Gamine mantra.

The Beauty Battle for the Gamine is often fought within her own heart. Her strong presence and apparent convictions put up a front that protects her from most outside attacks, but Continue reading What to Wear for the Bold Beauty

What to Wear for the Delicate Beauty

There’s something very attractive about the innocence of a child. Just being around a joyful little girl enjoying her playtime can lift the dreariest of attitudes and encouraged the depressed. That’s what it’s like to be around a Confident Ingénue.

ingénue | ˌanjəˈno͞o, ˈänjəˌno͞o |
noun
an innocent or unsophisticated young woman, especially in a play or film.

The Delicate Beauty has a sweet, gentle way about her. She’s considerate and kind and she has a positive outlook on life–at least until someone takes advantage of her and she finds herself in a Beauty Battle. Because of her petite frame and soft voice, she is often an easy target for a “big bully” and because this girl feels things so deeply, when she is mistreated it may very well send her into an identity crisis. Continue reading What to Wear for the Delicate Beauty

What to Wear for the Romantic Beauty

Many women wish they had a figure 8, but those with a full figure frame may not appreciate it. A strong bust line draws a lot of attention and can become a big frustration. This is a common problem for the Romantic Beauty. It doesn’t matter what her weight is; with or without extra pounds, a true figure 8 always has the full bosom with a waistline ten inches smaller. The full, balanced figure with rounded hips along with long lashes and round eyes make the Romantic’s outward beauty appealing, but her heart is also very attractive.

A Romantic has rich coloring and fine hair, which represent her deep heart and gentle ways very well.The practical, self-sacrificial nature of the Romantic, however, presents a challenge when it comes to her image. She loves fashion and enjoys shopping, but it’s hard for her to spend money on herself–unless it’s shoes, because that’s “her thing.” Continue reading What to Wear for the Romantic Beauty

What’s “In Style” for the New Year?

My only resolution this year is to blog more about what to wear (#What2Wear). While my greatest passion is helping women to understand their heart and find their confidence, I also feel it is very important to represent your heart accurately with your image so that other people can put their confidence in you.

There’s something very suspicious about a person who looks one way and acts another.

Continue reading What’s “In Style” for the New Year?

3 Questions to Reset your New Year

The start of a new year is a great time to reflect and reset. As you reflect on 2017, do you recognize the changes in your life? Surely there were some good and some bad experiences. Perhaps your character was strengthened; maybe your hope was defeated. Was your patience tested, your confidence challenged? How did these thing affect your how you feel about yourself? Experiences are a big influence in our identity, but they do not need to define us. Perhaps this is why I love new beginnings so much. There have been many times in my life when I have allowed experiences in my life to become who I was.

After experiencing a divorce, I took the identity of “throw away wife” and was not able to build another healthy relationship until I was able to find the truth about who I was.

Some experiences require an identity check in order to move on. It is not wise to risk your heart for a future relationship (or job, location, etc) when it is still wounded from a past one.  We have a choice in how experiences affect us. They can defeat us and deter us from growth, or they can become our personal exercise program as we work through the difficulty and become stronger for it. Continue reading 3 Questions to Reset your New Year

Confident About the Beauty of Christmas

How many Christmas pageants, plays or recitals did you go to this year? Children add so much life to this season, don’t they? It doesn’t matter if their costumes are professional or pathetic, when a child is on a stage being recognized, it is beautiful.

Or at least entertaining.

A few children who play their part with a calm, strong confidence can make a silly program truly impressive, but the children who are timid, shy and awkward–or the ones who are boisterous and showing off–are still adorable.

When children have the guts to get up on a stage, we have grace for their fears, and when they get up there and enjoy themselves, we give them the right to be proud of what they were doing. The older we get, however, the less leeway we have between timidity and arrogance. Continue reading Confident About the Beauty of Christmas

3 Reasons Your Style May Be a Combination Img.ID:

A little girl had  dream to become a gardener. She loved the many shapes, sizes and textures of flowers and wanted to grow them herself. It can’t be that difficult, she thought. “I will keep them in rich  soil, make sure they get lots of sun and water them every day.” 

It didn’t take long before she realized she couldn’t treat all flowers the same, so she began to educate herself on the many types of flowers and their various needs. Quickly she became overwhelmed, “There are too much to learn, this is complicated. I can’t remember all their names and what to do. I will just pick my favorites and focus on them.”  

Are you overwhelmed?

Feel awkward in clothes you chose?

This blog is dedicated to all the girls and women who want to learn about clothing personalities, but just can’t get their mind around it.

“Forget it! Who cares which style I am? I will dress however I want to dress!”

If you have said this, but were then unsure how you want to dress because when you put on clothes you chose, you feel uncomfortable, awkward and phony. My advice:

Figure out your style, make that your favorite and focus on that.

“Picking a favorite” is really not hard for most women, because most women are only one clothing personality, but for those of us who have a combination Img.ID, discovering which style you really like can be complicated. My advice to you?

First figure out if you are one style or two.

You know you are a combination Img.ID if:

  1. 1.You have the physical attributes of two clothing personalities. Do you have the facial features of a Natural, but are not tall? Or are you very tall, but have a turned up nose like a Gamine? You are more than likely a combination Img.ID 
  2. 2.Your natural coloring competes with your primary style. Are you one of the sensitive clothing personalities (Dramatic, Ingénue, Romantic) with strong coloring (Winter, Autumn)? Or one of the strong personalities (Classic, Natural, Gamine) with soft coloring (Summer, Spring)? You are more than likely a combination Img.ID.
  3. 3.You have the physical appearance of one style and a strong agreement with the preferences of different style. Do you have the physical attributes of one clothing personality, but your only desire is to look or act like another style? You may very well have been raised by a strong woman who you feel you must emulate. You have two options: be set free from your oppression and BE who you were designed to be, or find a way to blend the two styles so that your appearance reflects your authentic heart. 

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As an author and speaker, my passion is in helping women and girls overcome confidence conflicts, especially those involving rejection, betrayal and loss. After 30 years in the beauty industry as both a cosmetologist and an image consultant, I love to use my profession, along with my experiences and training as a Biblical life-coach to help others  who are struggling. I’d love to connect with you on Facebook, Twitter Pinterest, Linked In, Goodreads  Click the butterfly image or visit http://catrinawelch.com to learn more about my Supreme MakeOver Image Assessment events.

Thanksgiving, the Key to Confident Beauty

Liz hated her blonde hair. Someone once called her a bimbo and she couldn’t let go of the insult. With a mission to look more intelligent, she dyed her hair very dark, but as it grew out her light roots gave the illusion that he hair was thinning and suddenly she was convinced she was going bald. Now she hated her hair even more, and couldn’t stand how she looked.

I am not making this up. This was a major Confidence Conflict that one of my clients faced, and her story is not unusual. When Liz came to me for a Supreme MakeOver, she had already been through two hair implants and had treatments scheduled for the rest of the year. After learning that she was an Ingénue, with delicate coloring and dainty features, she realized that dying her hair was a major mistake. Not only did it cause this awful illusion of thinning, but the deep, dark color was competing with her skin and eye coloring causing her to look drawn and tiered all the time.

Many beauty treatments are completely unnecessary for certain people, yet they are highly successful because they are marketable to those people anyway if they are vulnerable. Liz had plenty of hair, she didn’t need to start implant treatments, she needed stop tint treatments.

Transition takes Confidence

When you are deep into a difficult Beauty Battle, however, making a change is not easy. Sometimes recognizing your style may cause another Confidence Conflict. because being advised to alter how you represent yourself may be considered another insult. Like growing out your hair, major change is a difficult process, which will happen if a decision is made to push through the awkward transition. You must feel confident to get through it.

It took liz a very long time to work through her battle. With scheduled appointments and big investments already made, she was not confident she wanted to change. She could not go back to her natural beauty until she could appreciate her beauty.

Gratitude changes attitude

Think of any Confidence Conflict that you have faced. When did the transition begin to happen? I’m willing to bet that it started with a change in your heart.

  • You feel unsure about stepping out, but then you realize the value of the end result, and suddenly it’s worth the work.
  • A relationship is strained, but then you recognize something in that person that you appreciate and the door to reconciliation is suddenly open.

The same must happen with your relationship with yourself. Until you recognize that you do have something to offer and you begin to appreciate the way that you were created, your self-confidence will always be strained. The good news is that, if you do come to that place of appreciation, you can find peace with yourself.

In honor of this Thanksgiving weekend, I encourage you to be thankful for how God made you. I know it sounds cliche, but He doesn’t make mistakes. If someone has insulted you, don’t receive their opinion as your identity. More than likely, they were only trying to feel better about their own Image Issues. When we are grateful for what we have, it is easier to brush off rude remarks and BE who were were designed to be.

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As an author and speaker, my passion is in helping women and girls overcome Image Issues, so that they can become women of Confident Beauty, which doesn’t wear off like makeup does!

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Does your Beauty Fit into a Box?

One of the biggest push-backs I get as an image consultant comes from the fear of bing analyzed. It seems that many people assume that being told which style they are is like being put into a box. In truth, however, knowing which “box” you fit into breaks the walls that can hold you back from being true to yourself–like the Ugly Duckling that I blogged about last week.

Many of us are brought up in a culture that confines us to the definition of beauty that our influencers hold us to. It may be that your mom likes things done “properly” but you don’t notice details and feel as if you just didn’t meet the standard set before you.

Maybe you do care about details and love to make things beautiful, but your family does not. Perhaps they belittled you for your concerns and to this day you hold back from being a woman of excellence because you feel as if it is selfish or prideful?

Altering your appearance is exhausting.

Continue reading Does your Beauty Fit into a Box?

Do you Feel Like an Ugly Duckling?

The primary factor in determining your Personal Image Identity (Img.ID) is your physical appearance. Just as a rose by any other name is still a rose, so are you the style of beauty that your physical attributes indicate that you are. Anyone could say that a rose is just a flower, or they could call it ugly, old, deformed or anything else, but it is still a rose.

People may point out your commonality, or they may critique your every attribute, but when you get down to the core of who you are, the truth is, you are beautiful.

Every flower is beautiful, no matter which species, whether it is budding or beginning to dry out. It doesn’t matter its size or color. This is also true of you. You may feel as if you are too old, have gained too much weight, or hate your coloring, but you are still beautiful. People may have told you that your nose is too big or picked on your differences, but focus on anything too closely and you may miss it’s beauty, too. In order to make peace with your beauty, you must take a step back and focus on the bigger picture.  Continue reading Do you Feel Like an Ugly Duckling?

Take this LifeSTYLE Quiz

You are invited to a formal event. How does your heart respond? Some women (and men) enjoy dressing up and socializing. Others feel quite the opposite.

The way you respond to certain lifestyle choices has a lot to say about which style of beauty (or attractive) you are. While your physical attributes are the major indicator of which of the six styles (your personal image identity or Img.ID) you are, your personal preferences are the confirmation. If your physical style does not fall in line with your personal preferences, then you likely have a secondary style or you are in the midst of a Beauty Battle. 

A number of factors come into play when it comes to our personal preferences. The culture, economy and standards of our formative years are certainly strong influences on how we feel about certain lifestyle choices, especially if we have a compliant nature. It is natural to choose that which we are comfortable with, but sometimes we follow the examples set before us without even considering other options because it is all we know.  Continue reading Take this LifeSTYLE Quiz

The Overlooked Solution for Acne

When acne blows up, does you confidence deflate?

Google is betting on it, which is why ads for suicide prevention are often linked to your search on this common skin condition.

Acne affects about 50 million Americans a year.

Obnoxious blemishes have a way of rearing their ugly head at crucial times in life–not only in adolescence! Consider that important event in your life when you woke up to a big zit between your eyes. Why is it  the photo-op days when they suddenly appear to taunt us?

Stress causes acne

  • Emotional stress can cause the oil glands to be more active.
  • Physical stress (including hormones, diets, circumstances and genetics) are major contributors to break outs.

Blemishes happen Continue reading The Overlooked Solution for Acne