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Overcoming Image Issues

figure flaws copyImage issues often start with a simple opinion.
Sometimes a child’s taunting “your ugly” still rings in a woman’s ears 40 years later. I have counseled girls with obsessions over things about their body that they felt were huge issues. In reality their image issues were minor flaws that were like a juggler vein that the bully on the playground naively severed. Of course there are times that the offense wasn’t naive at all; jealous or mean people sometime purposely hurt us. It doesn’t just happen in our childhood either, but somehow these Confidence Conflictsmake us feel childish. As adults we don’t want to feel like a kid, so this isn’t always an easy question, but I’m going to ask it anyway.

What is it about your image that is an issue to you?

Is it a vertical challenge, do you feel like you are too tall or short? A structural one, do you hate being big boned or having a frail figure? Or is it a weight issue or a facial feature that you do not like? If you were to ask a trusted friend, would she agree that this is a “figure flaw” or could this physical trait be something that characterizes you and most people have no problem with your [crocked nose]?
Today I want to remind you that the very thing you do not like could very well be your greatest asset. Any defining trait doesn’t have to define you, but it can be the thing that makes you outstanding. Don’t let anyone (or any memory) steel that from you. BE and LET BE.

There are ways to balance your disproportions and imperfections illusionally. You can find them in my book of guidelines for your personal Image Identity. My advice is to do what you can to accentuate the beauty you have and then forget about your flaws. Think about others. There are so many other women and children (and a few men) out there who need help battling with their own image issues, go show them what Confident Beauty is all about.

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Losing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available in book stores this spring. All of these books are available now at www.CatrinaWelch.com

Some Rules of Illusions

Confidence is freedom from self-consciousness and the joy of others-consciousness.

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For us women, that freedom is found more easily if we fell like we are lookin’ good, wouldn’t you agree?

Find your freedom by learning how to look your best everyday without thinking about it any more!

Ideally, you want your outfit to hang well on your figure without clinging to any bulges and for your hairstyle, make up and accessories to accentuate the style of beauty you are. (to learn more, click “Get  your Img.ID here” on the right of this site, or check it out in my book: Know Who You Are: Guidelines for your Personal Image Identity)

Your whole look, not just your clothing, should be considered part of your image. Everything about your beauty should be in balance, and consistent with who you are. If you have discovered the best wardrobe for you is straight and dramatic lines, but your hairstyle is round and full, you may find yourself frustrated with trying to put things together that you feel good in.

As a teaser for what is in the book, here are some of the general rules of disguising your figure flaws with some rules of illusions:

  • Dark lines are sliming, deepening
  • Solid, dark, unbroken colors are sliming
  • Lighter lines create the allusion of fullness
  • Solid, light, unbroken colors, especially if shinny or bright, add fullness.
  • Simple, vertical lines are slimming and create height but it can also add the allusion of width if it is drawn in the right place.
  • Many close vertical lines, however create width; as do many close, horizontal lines or shallow angled lines.
  • If the angle of the line is steep, however, it will give the area it is drawn on the allusion of more height
  • Horizontal lines will add width, and create the illusion of a shorter figure.
  • A single horizontal line however will create the illusion of more height if it is drawn high or low on the body, and not centered.

In general: any line that hides or disguises a figure challenge is a flattering line. If it draws attention to the challenge or flaw, it is a negative line.

 

Patterns and textures also create illusions:

  • Large patterns make a figure appear smaller
  • Small patterns make a figure appear larger
  • Large accessories dwarf a small figure (or face)
  • Small accessories are lost and out of place on a full figure (or face)
  • Contrasting color patterns add fullness
  • Soft, muted colors (in a pattern or not) reduce the figure size
  • Bulky, coarse fabrics add weight to a figure
  • Light, crisp, stiff fabrics that stand away from the body hide some imperfections, but can add the appearance of more weight
  • Shiny fabrics add fullness
  • Matted textures are good for full figures
  • Drappy fabrics are best for rounded figures
  • Crisp fabrics are best for straighter figures

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their image issues. It is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Loosing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available soon.

If you are interested in getting these books or having Catrina come speak at your event, you can contact her at www.CatrinaWelch.com or on facebook.

 

 

 

Illusions: Dressing the Neck

            Clothing lines create illusions. The choices we make with our attire will either bring balance to our image or draw attention to our disproportions. What you wear around your neck, whether it is your blouse line, hair style or your accessories, creates a frame around your face. Like fine art, the frame should compliment it’s goods it should not overpower it’s attraction.

If you have a long neck, short hair and v-neck shirts or long necklaces will only draw attention to it’s length, and become the focus of those looking at you. If you have a short neck, however, the same choices will open up your face and draw the attention upward to your face.

To determine if you neck is proportionate or not look into a mirror and with your pinky finger resting in the dip of your collarbone, point your fingers straight toward your neck. Your pointer finger should be just under your chin. If your fingers need to spread uncomfortably wide, then you have a long neck, if your fingers have no room to spread at all you have a short neck.

If your fingers do not spread wide, nor squish together to fit between your collarbone and your chin, then your neck is proportionate. You do not need to focus on these illusions, your Img.ID guidelines should determine what kind of hairstyles, collars, and accessories you should wear.

Here are some suggestions for the not-so-average neck: 

Long Necks:

Best choices:                                               

High collars, turtlenecks, cowl necks           

Stand up collars                                   

Accessorize with chokers, necklaces, ribbons, scarves

Medium to long hair with layers.

 Side or zigzag part.

Poor choices:

Low necklines, especially v-necks

Short hair

Straight, center part

High up do’s with no fringes around the neck.

 

Short Necks:

Best choices:                                               

Open collars, Shawl collars,

Square or V-necklines

Short hairstyles, especially when full at top

Poor choices:

Clutter around the neck

 Any high-neck styles

Medium length hair that fringes the face

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their image issues. It is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Loosing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available soon.

If you are interested in getting these books or having Catrina come speak at your event, you can contact her at www.CatrinaWelch.com or on facebook.

Illusions: More Tummy Talk

When you stood sideways in a mirror, was your silhouette widest at the waist? Then you have a rounded waist. Some of last week’s advice above may be very helpful to you, but let’s consider some more illusions that you may find liberating.

Some other factors to consider are undergarments. If the foundation is distorted, even a beautiful outfit will appear unsightly. If your bra or panties are too tight, it can cause your flesh to bulge, which only causes others to notice the extra weight. Subconsciously this says to them that you are trying to be a size that you are not.

I know this is a sensitive subject, in fact, I find it very hard to tell clients to their face, but you are quietly reading in the privacy of your own home, or perhaps on your phone at the spa, so let’s be open about it.

Keep in mind that you simply have an oval frame. It is likely that the first place you ever gain weight is your midriff and that you may never have had a thin waist. That is who you are, and that is okay, Barbie is not the only kind of beauty in this world! You can work with what you have; don’t give up on your whole image because you cannot get rid of your belly.

First of all, don’t let the size discourage you. The numbers on your outfits are only there to help you shop. Thank God you don’t have to sort through all those tiny sizes… think of how hard it would be to find modest clothes then! Women tend to be their own worst critic. Do not be. Others don’t really care about what size you are; why should you?

Secondly, buy the size that fits. If your clothes don’t fit properly, you may be more apt to be thinking about yourself because they are either uncomfortable, or you may feel self-conscious. In either case, you discomfort, will not only tend to keep your mind on yourself, but it may make others uncomfortable around you.

Once you purchase clothing that fits correctly, you may not think of what size it is again, but you will be more apt to wear it because it’s comfortable- physically and emotionally. Physically because the garment won’t be cutting off circulation; emotionally because when your outfit isn’t bulging anywhere, others look into your eyes!

 

Best choices                                                                                   

Thick belts same color as garment

Garments with pleats and pressed creases

Garments with high waistline

Garments with dropped waistline

Loose, long blouses and jackets, vests

Straight, one-piece dresses with high accessory as focal point

One piece, one color bathing suits

Poor choices:

Thin belts

Contrasting colors at the waistline

Blouses ending at the waist

Full gathered skirts