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Are you Confident they Love You?

When my little boy was acting up, I would often ask, “Do you need a time-out or a hug?” I was learning the ropes of parenting as a single mom and I was never really sure how to discipline correctly. Sometimes kids act up because they are hungry or lonely. It’s hard to know what they need unless we really study them. After all, sometimes I act up and I don’t even know what I need!

A time-out please. In the tub. Continue reading Are you Confident they Love You?

Are you Just Like your Mother?

Social Skills 101: Never tell a woman she is old, overweight or just like her mother.

While not every woman is sensitive about all of these areas, we do all have an emotional attachment to each of them. Personally, I would love to be just like my mother–she’s beautiful inside and out. Not all moms, however, are as great of a role model as mine. When I catch myself doing or saying something like my mom would, I chuckle. You might cringe. If you never knew your mom, you might wonder if you are like her. Our moms are a big part of our identity.

family-515530_640It is not strictly genetics. Continue reading Are you Just Like your Mother?

Beauty: the Eyes have it!

I’m sure you have heard the well known cliché:

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

How sweet to have a husband, father or friend tell us that we are “beautiful” no matter what we look like but, honestly, sometimes I find this statement a bit appeasing. Don’t get me wrong, I believe it is absolutely true. Beauty is more than skin deep and true love looks into the heart it beholds and if the heart is lovely, the woman is beautiful. Period.

But in reality, Continue reading Beauty: the Eyes have it!

Removing the Tags from the Garments of Your Identity

IMG_1363“A rose by any other name would smell as sweet”

The blind passion between Romeo and Juliet may have lead to tragedy, but this famous quote from William Shakespeare’s beautiful play made a valid point.

Yes, we may be a product or our heritage, highly influenced by our environment and persuaded by our temperament, but the truth is: there are times in life when it is appropriate to remove the tags from the garments of our identity.

While it is wise to read the label on a blouse you wish to purchase, once you Continue reading Removing the Tags from the Garments of Your Identity

Serenity–the Secret to Finding Confidence

“Stay on the sidewalk,” the father told his toddler as she proudly waddled her way onto the grass toward the traffic I was sitting in. I halted to a complete stop, nervous that she would keep coming, but her daddy was watching her closely and quickly came to scoop her up when she giggled and increased her speed in disobedience to his words, “no, no, honey, come back here.” I had to chuckle at her screaming with frustration in his arms as he calmly continued on his way. I’ve been there, done that.

serenity prayerMonday night I am going to talk with some ladies who have recently served time in Barnstable County Jail House. I don’t know their stories yet, but I am not afraid to assume that long before they broke any law their heart was broken.

Hurting people hurt people.

Some of us are hurt when we don’t get our way–like the little girl who just wanted to enjoy her new mobility. We may respond like she did: “Don’t tell me I can’t do this! I’ll show you.” As we run into dangerous areas. Or we may succumb to the restrictions put on us and never really become independent.

Unfortunately, some of our hurts and frustrations are more severe–like emotional, sexual, and physical abuse or neglect–and our response may be to kick and scream and hurt others. Or it may be to shut down our spirit and trust no one.

We respond to life’s challenges according to our personality. I believe that the key to overcoming the pain we have endured and finding the confidence to go on is in understanding our response and that the secret to experiencing true healing is found in the age-old Serenity Prayer.

Maybe you, like the little girl constrained in her daddy’s arms–or girls once in jail–want to get back on the right path and walk on your own again. Breaking free isn’t easy, but it is as simple as asking your Father to put you back down and then listening for His direction as you try again.

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

 

Misunderstood

Dramatics tend to be very animated; that’s why they do well in the fine arts. With their passionate nature they have a way of convincing you that their story is real. Because of their love for acting, sometimes reality can get blurry for them and they need someone to keep them in line with the truth. These women need to be careful that deception doesn’t become an addiction, because they can get caught up in the power of changing someone’s mind, or they may fall prey to a substance addiction in order to change their own mind in an effort to avoid reality.

But Hannah wasn’t avoiding her reality; she couldn’t get away from it. I believe she handled it in a way God would love all of us to: she sought Him for help. Maybe it was because there was enough drama in her situation; or perhaps it was because by then she had done all she could to try to control conception, and she had come to grips with the fact that final decision on this matter is God’s. Maybe Hannah was controlling and manipulative in other areas of her life, that’s a very real possibility, and maybe she was using her passionate nature in prayer with the purpose of manipulating God into giving her what she wanted. But I doubt it.

In Hannah’s case, being very upset, it wasn’t just her attitude that was misunderstood; her priest thought she was a drunk! (1 Samuel 1:13)

I don’t know about how you feel, but most of us have a really hard time with being misunderstood, especially if our character is being judged as unrighteous when our passion is to do good. Poor Hannah. She just wanted to have a baby. Dramatics want to take charge of their own life and live their dreams. It’s hard for them to be held back by anyone, not because they are pushy control freaks, but because they are go-getters.

In fact, you will find that most Dramatics are business owners or professionals of some kind, because they are go-getters and they are very influential. But as we have talked about, whenever we have an ability to bear great influence in our world, our enemy will actively try to lead us astray. Satan tends to sidetrack Dramatics by making them blinded to their strength or leading them to be obsessed with it. Very often, even in a crowd of friends, this woman feels excluded or alone and she may not know why. People like to be around the Dramatic; she is fun. But she can be aloof because of her fear of being misunderstood and her independent nature, so as much as her friends love her, they tend to feel she doesn’t need them, and so her relationships tend to be superficial or one-sided.

Dramatics who make a decision to guard their hearts, but still be vulnerable by making the first move in their relationships, are able to radiate balanced beauty in a way that is very inspiring to others.

If you are a Dramatic of either type, you are creative and influential. Your image should reflect who you are.

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Loosing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available in book stores this spring. All of these books are available now at www.CatrinaWelch.com

If you are interested in having Catrina come speak to your friends, colleagues or ministry you can contact her on facebook or by email at catrina@catrinawelch.com.