Favor is Deceitful and Beauty is Vain

“Favor is deceitful, beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30 As a little girl growing up in the church I understood this verse to mean that it was wrong to be beautiful, that I shouldn’t want the favor of anyone, but should be afraid of God. Wow was I off!

Many other times in Proverbs it is said that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge. I know now that the  fear I had then is not the kind of fear God desires of us. When we don’t really understand His heart, we tend to shy away from God and work with all our might to be approved by Him. That’s how I was. And with beauty being my passion I really had to wrestle with God about what this verse meant.

I wanted to be beautiful, but I had a false understanding that it was wrong. So I tried to fulfill my own desires by making other women look their best. I loved being a cosmetologist, I didn’t mind standing in front of a mirror while I served beautiful women, I think I was numb to the disappointments of my reflected image brought me… until I began to experience that “favor is deceitful.”

Ten days after finding out I was pregnant, my ex-husband decided he would rather be with other women than me, and I felt the pain that favor-turned-bad brings. Being betrayed by the man I loved dearly was a deep rejection, and it began a beauty battle within me. I couldn’t help but compare myself to the others he had chosen. That’s when I began my experience with vanity…

vanity |ˈvanətē|

noun ( pl. -ties)

1 excessive pride in or admiration of one’s own appearance or achievements

2 the quality of being worthless or futile

 

I began to understand what God’s Word meant by “beauty is vain.” It can be make us prideful, but it can also blind us to the value we have as God’s design. I think the thing this verse is really saying is that seeking after beauty is like chasing the wind: vain.

vain |vān|

adjective

1 having or showing an excessively high opinion of one’s appearance, abilities, or worth

2 [ attrib. ] producing no result; useless • having no meaning or likelihood of fulfillment

I no longer think that the God who created so much beauty disapproves of it; I believe He not only loves it, He longs to be known for it. I think He wants us women to stop putting so much hope in our image. Just like people’s favor of us sometimes changes quickly, so does our beauty. Chasing after it is futile, instead we should chase after the One who created us, and fear Him only.

 

Lord, Thank you for putting so much beauty in Your creation. Help me to be a reflection of your glory without becoming obsessed with my image or others’ opinions. It is you only that I fear, and your favor alone that I seek. You do not look at my outward appearance, but at my heart. Help me to do the same with others, and with myself. Amen

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their image issues. It is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Loosing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available soon.

If you are interested in getting these books or having Catrina come speak at your event, you can contact her at www.CatrinaWelch.com or on facebook.

6 thoughts on “Favor is Deceitful and Beauty is Vain

  1. Blessings to you girl…for reading the wise man’s book. And more blessings for seeking God ‘s way . The way of love. God love beautiful trees, skies, homes, birds, islands, and God love ugly things too.

    1. Appreciated. Yes, God does not see things the way we do. He looks at the heart and He makes all things beautiful in His time. Consider the Bird of Paradise… awkward and ugly or absolutely beautiful? 🙂

  2. Most people want to be attractive men and or women but how do we stop caring if this world is so consumed with appearance. I personally have to connect to God asking Him to see me myself as He sees me, then I see my self for Who I truly am. Beautifully looking at God look right back at me in the mirror regardless of. I’m still learning to not care or hold in high regard the negativity thrown at us as women by sad to say a lot of time those we are close to.

    1. Milly, You are right, it is not easy, our human heart longs for man’s approval, but the more we allow our spirit to be filled with the Word of God and understand His love, the more we will overcome that longing and find our satisfaction in Him.

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