Children are generally sweet.
Kids aren’t hostile or defensive; they don’t guard their heart until they have been hurt. Instead, they trust people and they believe what is said to them. Some children, however, have a part of their personality that remains naive much longer than others.
Typically, the Delicate Clothing Personality is very trusting. Many kids trust adults, but if your child has a way of giving everyone else the benefit of the doubt, she or he may be a Ingenue Image Identity.
Youthful kids blame themselves.
Ingénues are imaginative kids who believe in others and doubt themselves. They are very compassionate and usually have a sweet, high voice and gentle nature. They are very creative and make great friends because they want the best for everyone else. If they feel someone else is mistreated, they want to fix it–at their own expense. If they are mistreated, they tend to believe it is their own fault. As we study our children, we would be wise to look deeper than their words or actions. Let’s look at their heart.
The way your child handles hurt is a big indicator of his or her Img.ID: C: reasoning, seeing other's faults for what it is N: understanding, sees both sides D: personally wounded, but internalizes pain I: blames and/or punishes self R: compassionate, but shuts down own heart G: speaks up / fights back with passion Click the letter to learn more about that Image Identity, including What2Wear.
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I liken the Ingénue to the Baby’s Breath. Girls with this clothing personality (or Image Identity/Img.ID) have a Delicate Beauty. Like the flower, with petite blossoms that are used to cover the stems of the other flowers, this clothing personality also brings dignity to those around her. The flower, and the child, may look frail, but in reality they are each very strong. Unfortunately, this contradiction may cause the child a lot of Confidence Conflicts. Because she looks young and frail, she is often treated with “kid gloves” and this can be very frustrating to her strong nature.
Beauty isn’t as important to boys as it is too girls. Even boys who like fashion would typically prefer looking strong over looking good, so I use a tree to represent each of the male clothing personalities.
Boys who are the Ingénue style are also petite and powerful. The “Youthful Attraction” is like a Dogwood Tree, which also has delicate flowers but is very strong. Whether a boy or a girl, children with a youthful nature are very creative and compassionate.
Ingénues are short in height and have petite features.
There is a reason why each Img.ID has a motto for What2Wear. It’s a bit of a catch 22: Your clothing personality is determined by what you look like, your best look is determined by your clothing personality.
Ingénues sound young are sweet and appear to be delicate, but they have amazing tenacity. They may get caught in a need to prove their strength when others talk down to them, but when they feel valued and respected, they grow up to be highly influential mentors and friends.
I once did a Supreme MakeOver event for a group home for young girls suffering with various addictions and self-harming habits. After doing the image assessments, I was not surprised to learn that each girl was an Ingénue. It was then that I decided to write Know Who You Are–for Kids!
Most children will struggle with their identity at some point in their lives, but it makes sense that the Ingénue, and those with combined styles, are the ones who struggle the most because the search for their identity is already complicated.
Your image should express your personality.
The Youthful Img.ID has a delicate body and a strong character.
In my new children’s book, Katy Finds the Confidence to Be Her True Self. It is my greatest desire that every Ingénue finds the confidence to be the creative, caring person they were designed to be without feeling they must prove their strength or punish their weakness.
Anika and Sam have soft, petite features and creative talent, they are each Youthful kids.
Would you join me in telling moms, dads and educators about the various clothing personalities so that more kids will find the confidence to be his/her true self? Please share this any way you can.
Catrina Welch has been helping others with their image for more than 30 years. As a licensed cosmologist, certified image consultant and Biblical life-coach, she is well aware that image issues are far more difficult for some styles than they are for others and that the greatest antidote is to know who you are. She has developed a systematic way of doing image assessments for large groups, which she calls a “Supreme MakeOver.” Catrina has written three books about image for women, including “Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul” and is about to introduce her first children’s book, Know Who You Are–for Kids!, which will be published on July 3, 2019 and will soon be available for pre-order.
Catrina is offering free Supreme MakeOver Image Assessment events during her book launch campaign. For more information, Contact firstname.lastname@example.org or connect with her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Linked In, Goodreads and consider having her present at your next event. Visit http://catrinawelch.com for more information.