Romantics are full-figured women, or at least they have a curvy structure, very often a figure 8. I would say that about 75% of the Romantics I know developed their beautiful curves at a very young age. Some hit puberty when they are still children, although they are not the only Img.IDs that may develop young; for these girls, because they are sensitive emotionally, it becomes an issue. A Natural or Gamine who has boys gawking at her and girls cruel with jealousy toward her may say, “stupid kids!” but a Romantic feels things deeply and when the battle she is facing is a more mature issue than her years have granted her wisdom for, she makes vows to herself that are often very strong by the time she recognizes them.
For example, I have a friend who developed a great figure at age 9. Her girlfriends felt awkward around her, like they were left behind and she was too old to play with them, so they began excluding her. While girls paid less attention, boys paid more attention to her–especially the older boys, and we all know where that can lead. Her mother’s worse nightmare came true. Someone she looked up to and should have been able to trust raped her. My friend vowed to never be vulnerable to anyone again.
I wonder if rape was the wickedness that Er was guilty of? Onan’s sin toward her was quite the opposite: he wouldn’t make love to her. Well, at least not completely. He did have his way with her. I’m not as explicit as God’s Word, but you can read the details in Genesis 38:9. The point I want to make is that she must have been desirable, or he would have just let her live in his house untouched and pretended she was infertile.
Romantics are elegant, feminine women with flirty eyes and full lips, and a full bosom. Boobs are simply irresistible to some men. Right?
Let’s look further into Tamar’s story. Eventually Judah (her father-in-law) loses his wife and Tamar waits while he goes through his time of mourning, but he still does not give the third son to her as a husband. When she hears he is making a trip to have his sheep sheared, she takes off her widow’s clothing, puts a veil over her face and goes ahead of him to wait along the road he will travel. Clothing says a lot about the person wearing it. It always has, it always will. A veil meant she was available… if you know what I mean.
Now in the process of time the daughter of Shua, Judah’s wife, died; and Judah was comforted, and went up to his sheepshearers at Timnah, he and his friend Hirah the Adullamite. And it was told Tamar, saying, “Look, your father-in-law is going up to Timnah to shear his sheep.” So she took off her widow’s garments, covered herself with a veil and wrapped herself, and sat in an open place which was on the way to Timnah; for she saw that Shelah was grown, and she was not given to him as a wife. When Judah saw her, he thought she was a harlot, because she had covered her face. Then he turned to her by the way, and said, “Please let me come in to you”; for he did not know that she was his daughter-in-law. Genesis 38:12-16
Tamar didn’t offer herself, but Judah asked to have her for the night; and I’m sure that was her plan. Romantics are no fools. They have a certain power that comes with their kind of beauty. Their curvy figure, rounded features and gentle nature is captivating. I talk about this a lot when I do Supreme MakeOvers: some women love the power beauty brings, others hate it, many vacillate between both emotions.
More on Tamar’s story tomorrow.
Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Losing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available in book stores this spring. All of these books are available now at www.CatrinaWelch.com
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