It’s Memorial Day Weekend. A lot of preparations have been happening on Cape Cod to prepare for the start of our busy season. Many businesses have reopened, restaurants have restocked and summer homes have been completed.
Yet, as the tourists arrive, the excitement is clouded because the warm weather has not yet made it’s full transition. Our beach parties and backyard barbecues will likely need relocating out of the cold, wet wind.
Confidence and expectations
Life is full of delayed transitions. Consider the times you have worked hard to accomplish something but one thing after another interrupts the progression and stalls the grand goal. Maybe it was your graduation, certification, the permitting of your business or occupancy of your home. Some goals we only have partial control over, like training our children, healing relationships, or motivating change.
Some transitions will never come without our conscious effort. Others we have no influence over.
Like the weather.
I’m quickly approaching fifty and I have experienced Summer each year of my life, haven’t you?
We can find confidence in consistent transitions.
I feel bad for the people arriving “on Cape” right now. This may be their only weekend to visit our beautiful area of the world. Yet, in reality, the damp weather doesn’t change the beauty of our beaches.
Unrealistic expectations clouds our vision of beauty in the transition.
Those of us who are blessed enough to be here longer than the holiday weekend ought to find peace in knowing that this is not our only chance to enjoy Cape Cod’s scenic landscape.
Expecting beautiful days makes difficult ones easier to endure.
How you handle delayed transitions is a big indicator of your Img.ID, what do you do when you are disappointed?
C: Learn more, work harder
N: Stay steady, wait
D: Feel devastated... or more determined
I: Feel insulted and insecure
R: Shut down, feel discouraged
G: Take charge, make it happen
Click the letter to learn more about that Image Identity, including What2Wear.
Confidence gives resilience in delayed transitions
As a new mom, I felt like a failure when my toddler took time to potty train. After my own mom reassured me that my boy would not be in diapers forever, I began to relax and enjoy the process.
As a wounded divorcee, I was anxious about dating my future husband, until he reassured me that if our relationship was God’s will today, it would still be God’s will tomorrow and we should take one day at a time.
When I was writing Confident Beauty, I was also running my business, being a bookkeeper for my husband’s business, leading a women’s ministry and raising three active children. I wasn’t sure if I would ever get an agent or a publisher; but if I didn’t expect it to, I wouldn’t have continued writing. It took me four years to complete my manuscript.
If you are you running hard after a goal and experiencing Confidence Conflicts because of delayed transition, I encourage you to find the strength to keep going. There will be dreadful downpours–they may even happen on the days you expected to celebrate–but if you don’t allow unrealistic expectations to cloud your vision, you will eventually see that every type of beauty finds its strength by persevering through the damp and dreary days.
And let us not grow weary while doing good,
for in due season we shall reap
if we do not lose heart. -Galatians 6:9
As an author and speaker, Catrina’s passion is in helping women and girls overcome confidence conflicts, especially those involving rejection, betrayal and loss. After 30 years in the beauty industry as both a cosmetologist and an image consultant, Catrina now uses her profession, her own powerful stories and her training as a Biblical life-coach to reach the heart in a way that is relatable, encouraging and inspiring. Her message is balanced with both fashion and faith and is making a difference in the lives of women and girls all over! To be part of this movement, connect with her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Linked In, Goodreads and consider having her speak at your next event. Visit http://catrinawelch.com for more information.