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Coming Out of the Closet

nose in airWomen with confident beauty are content with who they are. This does not mean that they have no need to improve, nor does it mean that there is nothing that they are ashamed of. In fact, they usually have a very good perspective of both their strengths and their weaknesses. Confidence is the ability to hold your head high without sticking your nose in the air. It’s all about balance.
Perhaps you are struggling with balance today. I struggle with it all the time and I help women with this struggle as well–especially when it comes time to go through their wardrobe! “Coming out of the closet” may be a term coined by those dealing with gender identity, but in my opinion it’s something we all need to do with our personal identity.
Your closet represents your true self. Sometimes what you wear is a facade, a false-identity. This doesn’t necessarily mean you are a phony, in fact it seldom does. Usually this simply means you are still trying to understand yourself, and if you are like the majority of our society, then you know this doesn’t just happen. But when it does, it is exhilarating. I experienced this liberation the day I was told my clothing personality, and enjoying the enthusiasm my clients have when they suddenly recognize their Img.ID is still my favorite part of being an image consultant.
Confidence is not just about how you look, it’s about coming out of the closet. I always loved fashion but was too shy to BE who I was designed to be. I wanted to wear all the makeup and accessories, but until I was told it was right for me I thought it was only for the beautiful (and vain!) girls. I’ve seen many women experience the opposite: they are relieved they do not have to wear all that “junk” once they know they are a casual beauty or they are thrilled to know they just need to add color or texture or lace…
Sometimes it takes a small glance inside your own heart to release you from all the expectations placed on you from men, media and mom.
Before we go any further with your wardrobe rehab, let me ask you the most important question of all:
Are you ready to come out of the closet and BE who you were designed to BE?
Well then, who are you?

  1. Classy, refined, proper, professional, calm, poised, warm, gracious, refined, polished, elegant, cultured, meticulous.
  2. Casual, unpretentious, conservative, practical, reliable, dependable, responsible, loyal.
  3. Exotic,unique, imaginative, independent, sophisticated, artsy, stylish, friendly, fun.
  4. Delicate, gentle, sweet, soft spoken, graceful, youthful, modest, shy, considerate, supportive.
  5. Glamorous, feminine, charming, sensitive, sympathetic, accommodating, sensual, alluring, glamorous, flirtatious.
  6. Bold, animated, fun, energetic, enthusiastic, opinionated, bold, bouncy, snappy, spunky, charmer.

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

 

Is Fashion Foolish?

Confident Beauty respects herselfMy grandmother was known around Wellfleet as, “the lady with the hair.” She died at 67 still having a long, red mane, which was always tied back loosely with a simple scarf. As a little girl I was in awe of her confident beauty.

Some people think it is shallow, selfish or vain that so much of a woman’s confidence is rooted in her beauty. But how many of those people feel the same way about a man’s need for strength?

Men are respected for their desire to be strong. Women are expected to be beautiful, yet they are considered foolish for following fashion and assumed conceited when do they look good. This confusing message causes an inner turmoil that I call the “Beauty Battle” and it wages war within every feminine heart starting at a young age. The battle climaxes in our teens and twenties and continues throughout middle age, when we find on a means of coping with it. Some of us decide to hate our beauty and hide it, others strive to attain it, determined not to give up, but very few do not get hung up on it somehow. Studies show that most women don’t really feel confident until they are about 60 years old. It seems that maturity is the key that settles the heart and allows for a peaceful balance of emotions. Mature women no longer consider beauty:

  • So important that they are consumed with it.
  • So shallow or foolish that they are ashamed by it.

Instead, they enjoy beauty (even their own!), and respect the human nature with all its confusions.

Maturity releases the trap of comparison because life has a way of developing proper perspective on what really matters. No wonder wisdom teaches us to learn from our elders! I wish my grandma were still around to help me with my confidence conflicts.

If you have a confident woman in your life, be sure to invest some time with her. If you have experienced victory in the Beauty Battle, be sure to share your wisdom with the younger women in your life and have grace for them while they work their confidence out.

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Losing our Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available in book stores this spring. All of these books are available now at www.CatrinaWelch.com

 

Becoming Confident About Convictions

batman faceWhat a joy it was to help Faith Assembly of God with their celebration of Palm Sunday! I learned so much while painting the adorable faces of children from all over Hyannis. Some of their requests cracked me up. These kids were either adamant about having me create what they struggled to communicate, or they were timid and fearful to ask for what they wanted. I especially loved the little boy who wanted to be a vampire (even after I reminded him that Easter is about good defeating evil) and the older girl who asked her mom for permission to get a heart on her hand and then needed mom’s approval for the color it would be. Precious.

These kids made me think of my life as I have grown in my faith. There was a time that I thought face painting might be wrong and I was like the older girl–fearful of doing anything that might break the rules. I also had convictions–or desires–like the little boy (although mine were more in line with my nickname of “goodie two shoes”) that I would put my foot down and speak my mind about as if I knew it all. Take divorce, for example, I used to make people feel so guilty for their failed marriage. “You can always work it out; have some faith!” Then my (first) husband left me and, after I did all I could to keep him, I learned that I have no jurisdiction over anyone else’s choices and what happens in my live does not have to define me.

Life has a way of tweaking our convictions, doesn’t it? I know we can become more judgmental, bull-headed or timid if we allow our circumstances to build our fear, but I prefer to believe that if we are learn from life and work out our faith, confidence begins to conquer those fears and we become more balanced and peaceful. Kind of like the little boy who decided he didn’t want to be scary after all and had me paint Batman on his face instead.

If you are feeling the pressures of other people’s developing convictions, be careful to guard your heart from taking offence to their immaturity. Think of them like you would a child who is still figuring out what he believes and give them the grace to grow. After all, someone was patient with you in your developing years.

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Losing our Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available in book stores this spring. All of these books are available now at www.CatrinaWelch.com

Beauty in Balance is Peace and Joy

Peace-and-JoyGod is a God of balance. He wants us to be a people of balance in all areas of our lives even in the area of beauty. When we walk in balance, we walk in great peace and joy. Our enemy is no fool, he knows that, and he does not want us walking in that place. He wants to throw our lives out of balance, so that we will be miserable and stressed out.

Satan is very good at throwing us off balance by distorting our understanding of the truth. He takes one side of the truth or the other and blows it out of proportion. When we believe these distorted truths we are left off balance and confused … and God is not glorified in our stressed and striving lives.

The truth about beauty is that God designed it; He loves it, He wants it to reflect Him and to draw others to Him. He wants to be sought after for His beauty, and He made us to feel the same way. Unfortunately, most women have fallen for the lie that they have to have a perfect body to be somebody or at least that their beauty is their worth so they hide, hate or get hung up on their appearance instead of being women of confidence who radiate the glory of God with the image He gave them.

Which side of the truth is the enemy of your soul blowing out of proportion for you? Is his attack on your beauty causing you to be ashamed of who you are? Or do you tend to idolize your desire to be beautiful? Have you given up on ever being lovely and do you walk in shame and self-contempt? Or have you determined in your heart that you will be lovely, no matter what the cost; do you believe that is how you are valued?

We all get thrown off balance at some point. There are a lot of powerful traps set to ensnare us with confidence conflicts. The bait is different for each Img.ID, though.

The Classic’s desire to have things done properly can drive her to perfectionism and her true self may get hidden in busyness.

The Natural’s desire for comfort may drive her to denial and her practical and unpretentious nature may get hidden in laziness.

The Dramatic’s desire for popularity may drive her to demand attention to the point where it may swallow up her independent nature. Rejection and neglect may discourage her to the point of defeat.

The Ingénue’s desire for peace may drive her to desperation or determination and self-reliance or codependency may engulf her beautiful complacent nature.

The Romantic’s desire for acceptance may drive her to flaunt her beauty or focus on pleasing others and her compassionate nature may get swallowed up in selfishness or selflessness.

The Gamine’s desire for justice may drive her to control others and herself so much that she may lose her fun, bubbly nature … and her friends.

For all of us, life is a continuous battle between shame and pride. It takes time to find the balance. This is the “beauty battle” but it is one worth fighting for because when you finally find victory, you find that place of peace and joy and with it comes a confidence that doesn’t wear off like makeup does!

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Losing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available in book stores this spring. All of these books are available now at www.CatrinaWelch.com

If you are interested in having Catrina come speak to your friends, colleagues or ministry you can contact her on facebook or by email at catrina@catrinawelch.com.

 

Silent Night

 

Silent Night, Holy Night; all is calm, all is bright

‘Round yon virgin, mother and child

Holy infant so tender and mild

Sleep in heavenly peace, sleep in heavenly peace

 We’ve all heard the song. We sing it with reverence as we think about Baby Jesus sleeping soundly in a manger while His sweet young mother adores Him. Often we close our candlelight services on Christmas Eve with it’s soothing tempo, and it brings great warmth and comfort, no matter how difficult the season can sometimes be.

Life wasn’t really all that calm and bright that Christmas Day, though. In fact there must have been chaos all ‘round that mother and child. After all, the nursery was a barn, with animals bleating and sharing their aromatic pleasures with the people everywhere. Remember there was no room for Mary and Joseph at the Inn because there was a major census going on. This was a large family reunion. Everyone had to come; Aunt Martha’s tiff with her sister was not going to excuse her from this one.

There were also uninvited guests. I don’t know, were the shepherds even part of the census? They weren’t in the city when the angles appeared to them, and after they found the baby they told everyone about what they had heard and seen. Luke says the people marveled about it; surely crowds went rushing in to see Jesus for themselves. I imagine everyone there at least knew about the new mom who put her baby in a feeding troth.

I’m not sure Jesus really slept with all that going on. I know He was an infant, but don’t forget, He was Holy; yes, He was tender and mild, but He was still the Lord of all creation. He came to that manger to seek and save the lost, but as a newborn baby He couldn’t do that. Man, it must have been hard knowing the hearts and hurts of all those around Him, but having to wait until the time was right before He could act.

This year, with all the hurting hearts around us, let us do our best to be tender and mild and know our place. Sometimes there is nothing we can do for those around us, except be the sure and steady security that they need. When it is not right to act, ask Jesus to help you to sleep in heavenly peace like He did, and I believe when the right time comes, the victory will come as well.

Merry Christmas, my friends. May God bless you with sweet peace and fill you with great joy.

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Losing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available in book stores this spring. All of these books are available now at www.CatrinaWelch.com

If you are interested in having Catrina come speak to your friends, colleagues or ministry you can contact her on facebook or by email at catrina@catrinawelch.com.

 

 

Walking on Water

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Oh, what I would do to have the kind of faith it takes to step out of this boat I’m in, onto the crashing waves…

 

Maybe you remember the popular Christian song, “Voice of Truth” by Casting Crowns? It was always one of my favorites, especially after watching two of my children do human videos (two separate ones) to the powerful lyrics years ago. The tune has been running through my mind for days now, and I simply must share my thoughts with you.

This is for you if you have ever wished you could be better, stronger, more successful. Especially if right now you feel like life is tossing you to and fro and you can’t catch your breath, never mind handle the storm you are in.

The churning seas I face right now is joyous, but still disrupting to my usual life. Confident Beauty has just been released and I am on the move to figure out book signings etc. My daughter has been performing with an elite group of artists and her dreams are soaring with mine. All the men in our lives are being amazing supporters and are helping with all the details that we should be handling-you know, like cooking and cleaning… oh, and decorating, shopping, wrapping…. It’s the most wonderful time of the year, yes, and for us Welch girls it’s the most wonderful time of our dreams, too.

Maybe your storm isn’t so fun. Maybe the waves causing you stress are finances, relationships, employment, weight or hurts, habits or hangups. Is there something you want to get under control, but The waves are calling out [your] name and they laugh at [you], reminding [you] of all the times [you’ve] tried before and failed. The waves they keep on telling [you[, time and time again, “boy[girl], you’ll never win!”?

I want to encourage you today that you do not have to listen to the waves!

of all the voices calling out to [you]… choose to listen and believe the Voice of Truth which (Who) says, “do not be afraid” and “this is for my glory” Trust Him who is able to make all things work together for your good (Romans 8:28)

But there is more.

I’ll share that with you tomorrow.

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Losing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available in book stores this spring. All of these books are available now at www.CatrinaWelch.com

If you are interested in having Catrina come speak to your friends, colleagues or ministry you can contact her on facebook or by email at catrina@catrinawelch.com.

 

Women’s Issues

I have heard many sermons about the woman with the issue of blood. Usually the preacher awkwardly explains her 12-year ailment the best he can, and effectively gives an encouraging Word for anyone listening–male or female; but it seems to me that this is a topic for us girls to really dive into.

  Proverbs 14:10 

The heart knows its own bitterness,
 and a stranger does not share its joy.

A woman’s heart lends itself to different issues than a man’s does. This doesn’t make any man’s preaching less valuable to those of us of the opposite gender, but it is a factor. I imagine it was a huge factor for this woman found in Matthew 9, Mark 5 and Luke 8. She had spent all her money trying to get the help she needed, but her health was only deteriorating further. It seems everyone had given up on her.

Jewish people were commanded to separate themselves from anyone or anything “unclean,” and a woman’s menses made her and anything she touched “unclean.” If anyone touched her, or something she had touched (like her seat or bed) that person became unclean as well. This term didn’t mean that she needed to wash her hands or that others should wear rubber gloves around her. It meant they had to take a full bath and do their laundry. Then they had to wait seven days and go to the temple to make a sacrifice for their impurity. (You can find all this in Leviticus 15)

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Understanding this custom brings depth to this woman’s “issue”–it wasn’t just pain and sickness, this woman was suffering from twelve years of being an untouchable outcast.

Have you ever been in that kind of a place, where you felt helpless, hopeless and unwanted? Shame comes in all sorts of packages. It may be brought on by a habbit you have, something you did, or something that you were born with or was done to you–but generally shame makes you feel disqualified for society. Maybe you have sought help for your “issues” from doctors, rehab or therapy, but you only find yourself getting worse and worse. Glean from the experience of this woman who sought out Jesus for her healing.

It is often said, “check the fruit on the tree” before taking advice from someone. That’s just good wisdom, right? If a man is stressed out and in horrible debt, it may be better to leave his financial advice on the table. If a woman has never lost a child, it may be best not to take offense to her clueless console. This doesn’t mean that if a pastor has never had a period he cannot preach on it, nor does it mean that if he has never lost a child he cannot help you (Trust me on that one!). It does mean, however, that if the people all around you make you feel outcast and ashamed and all the help they have to offer you only drains and discourages you, then maybe it’s time to use what little strength you have left to crawl through the muck and mire to get to the One who can heal you–inside and out.

Jesus didn’t have a menstrual cycle, but He understood exactly what this nameless woman needed–physically, spiritually and emotionally. She was bleeding internally and externally and He cared very much about both sides of that. Read all three accounts of the story and you will see that after she touched His robe, He sought her out and had her speak about her problem. I don’t believe His questions were a casual concern for where His power went. I believe He not only cared deeply, but He knew she needed to be heard. She needed to speak. Too often we try to fix our own problems; we seek help from professionals or priests, but we don’t expose it all–we hide the details of our shame. We keep our issues silent. Perhaps we fear more rejection or no validation or that the one we are sharing with will not come through for us. We guard our hearts and try to pretend it is no big deal. But it is.

And Jesus cares about your issues.

He might not have suffered the same way you do, after all, He never fall into the shame that comes with addictions and sin–but He felt the weight of it when He hung on the cross to set us free from ours. He certainly knows the shame that comes with someone else’s sin. Maybe He wasn’t raped–but He was betrayed with a kiss, His clothes were ripped off of Him and He was beaten badly and then put in a parade for all to gaze at His shame. Yea, He has fruit on the tree, and He welcomes you to partake of it freely. The woman with the issue of blood did, and after twelve years of suffering, she was healed instantly. Instantly.

Sometimes it just takes a word from the Master to be set free from our issues. Take time today to listen for that life-altering Voice.

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Jesus, you understand my issues. Please help me with them. Others have let me down, but I believe you can set me free. Speak to my heart and show me what I need to share with you. I don’t even know what I’m feeling sometimes, but you do. I am so glad I don’t have to find all the words because you know the depth of what little I do say. God, this is what I’m feeling right now…. 

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their image issues. It is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Loosing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available soon.

If you are interested in getting these books or having Catrina come speak at your event, you can contact her at www.CatrinaWelch.com or on facebook.

 

Marked: Bright and Beautiful

I was watching my girlfriend’s children for the day while she recovered from surgery when she suddenly slipped into a coma. Three of her four children were the same ages as my two boys. She had twins in preschool with Billy, and her oldest was in 4th grade with Andrew, she also had a 2nd grader that went to the same school as all the others. I was a stay at home mom (My daughter was a baby.) and I lived close to the school, so it seemed easy enough for me to blend the extra children into my life while we all waited to for their mom to wake up.

They stayed with me for nine months.

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Caring for seven children under the age of 10 was like hosting a long, loud birthday party where the parents forget to return for their kids. I imagine that if they were all my own–and I had gradually trained each of them with my rules and routines–that it would have been a little easier, but disciplining someone else’s children has its challenges. For me, the hardest part was watching them all at the beach. I couldn’t relax for a moment; I was constantly counting heads to make sure no one was missing.

One beautiful summer day, a girlfriend met me at a pond (the ocean was not a wise option). As she sat with me, she calmly kept track of her four children and I stressed and struggled to count all of mine. 1- 2- 3- 4- 5—oh, oh… Oh, Phew! 6-7.  Her advice that day that not only changed my beach-life, but also it taught me something very powerful about image.

“Put them in bright colors, then they are easy to find. That’s why my girls wear ribbons in their hair and I make them all match–so they stand out and anyone can help me pick them out of a crowd.”

Before that I thought my friend was a bit particular about making sure her kids looked good. I was wrong. The time she took to tie those bows wasn’t about impressing anyone­–it was about her love for those kids and her desire to keep them.

 

So, what makes you stand out in a crowd?

Is it your height, weight, color, or characteristics? Do you stutter, twitch or have a birthmark you cannot hide? Are you deaf, blind, or in need of assistance to get around? How do you feel about that?

Does it feel unfair when people stare?

I wonder if God wanted you to stand out in a crowd. Maybe He wanted others to stare at you so that they would see that you are His and you could help them find Him.

If you struggle with an image issue that robs your confidence, I challenge you today to accept your physical challenge as an honor, not a flaw. You’ve heard it said, “God doesn’t make junk.” Believe it. Perhaps that [scar] was His way of putting you in bright colors. Consider it a mark of love from the One who created you, and let people stare­–for His glory, and not your own.

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their image issues. It is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Loosing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available soon.

If you are interested in getting these books or having Catrina come speak at your event, you can contact her at www.CatrinaWelch.com or on facebook.

Balancing Confidence Conflicts

Have you ever been thrown off balance by a distorted understanding of truth? It’s easy to take one side of the truth or the other and blow it out of proportion. When we believe a distorted truth, we can be left off balance and confused … and it is not beautiful to live a  stressed and striving life.

The truth about beauty is that God designed it; He loves it, He wants it to reflect Him and to draw others to Him. He wants to be sought after for His beauty, and He made us to feel the same way.

Satan wants us to be ashamed of our beauty and to hide it … or to seek after it with an ungodly obsession.

Let’s be careful not to fall for distorted truths by walking in shame and self-contempt or by believing that our beauty is our worth.

We all get thrown off balance at some point. There are a lot of powerful traps set to ensnare us with confidence conflicts. The bait is different for each Img.ID, though.

The Classic’s desire to have things done properly can drive her to perfectionism and her true self may get hidden in busyness.

The Natural’s desire for comfort may drive her to denial and her practical and unpretentious nature may get hidden in laziness.

The Dramatic’s desire for popularity may drive her to demand attention to the point where it may swallow up her independent nature. Rejection and neglect may discourage her to the point of defeat.

The Ingénue’s desire for peace may drive her to desperation or determination. Self-reliance or codependency may engulf her beautiful complacent nature.

The Romantic’s desire for acceptance may drive her to flaunt her beauty or focus on pleasing others and her compassionate nature may get swallowed up in selfishness or selflessness.

The Gamin’s desire for justice may drive her to control others and herself so much that she may lose her fun, bubbly nature … and her friends.

For all of us, life is a continuous battle of confidence conflicts. It takes time to find beauty in balance, but when you do, you will radiate Confident Beauty, which doesn’t wear off like makeup does!

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their image issues. It is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Loosing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available soon.

If you are interested in getting these books or having Catrina come speak at your event, you can contact her at www.CatrinaWelch.com or on facebook.

Some Rules of Illusions

Confidence is freedom from self-consciousness and the joy of others-consciousness.

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For us women, that freedom is found more easily if we fell like we are lookin’ good, wouldn’t you agree?

Find your freedom by learning how to look your best everyday without thinking about it any more!

Ideally, you want your outfit to hang well on your figure without clinging to any bulges and for your hairstyle, make up and accessories to accentuate the style of beauty you are. (to learn more, click “Get  your Img.ID here” on the right of this site, or check it out in my book: Know Who You Are: Guidelines for your Personal Image Identity)

Your whole look, not just your clothing, should be considered part of your image. Everything about your beauty should be in balance, and consistent with who you are. If you have discovered the best wardrobe for you is straight and dramatic lines, but your hairstyle is round and full, you may find yourself frustrated with trying to put things together that you feel good in.

As a teaser for what is in the book, here are some of the general rules of disguising your figure flaws with some rules of illusions:

  • Dark lines are sliming, deepening
  • Solid, dark, unbroken colors are sliming
  • Lighter lines create the allusion of fullness
  • Solid, light, unbroken colors, especially if shinny or bright, add fullness.
  • Simple, vertical lines are slimming and create height but it can also add the allusion of width if it is drawn in the right place.
  • Many close vertical lines, however create width; as do many close, horizontal lines or shallow angled lines.
  • If the angle of the line is steep, however, it will give the area it is drawn on the allusion of more height
  • Horizontal lines will add width, and create the illusion of a shorter figure.
  • A single horizontal line however will create the illusion of more height if it is drawn high or low on the body, and not centered.

In general: any line that hides or disguises a figure challenge is a flattering line. If it draws attention to the challenge or flaw, it is a negative line.

 

Patterns and textures also create illusions:

  • Large patterns make a figure appear smaller
  • Small patterns make a figure appear larger
  • Large accessories dwarf a small figure (or face)
  • Small accessories are lost and out of place on a full figure (or face)
  • Contrasting color patterns add fullness
  • Soft, muted colors (in a pattern or not) reduce the figure size
  • Bulky, coarse fabrics add weight to a figure
  • Light, crisp, stiff fabrics that stand away from the body hide some imperfections, but can add the appearance of more weight
  • Shiny fabrics add fullness
  • Matted textures are good for full figures
  • Drappy fabrics are best for rounded figures
  • Crisp fabrics are best for straighter figures

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their image issues. It is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Loosing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available soon.

If you are interested in getting these books or having Catrina come speak at your event, you can contact her at www.CatrinaWelch.com or on facebook.

 

 

 

What Not To Wear

imagesI’ve said it, and I’m sure you have too: “I have nothing to wear.”

My husband responds to my whining like he does when our teens say,  “there’s nothing to do!” He laughs and says “oh, of course not.” After a number of changes in attire I immerge from the closet and Ron will respond, “I see you found, ‘this ol’ thing’.”

Putting an outfit together can be a dilemma, and I’m afraid it’s just hard for our husbands to understand. It’s not that we don’t appreciate our luxurious American closets; it’s just that… well, honestly, we just don’t want to wear most of what is in there. Why?

  • The items stand alone, with no complimenting garment
  • The color / texture / style drains us, and zaps our energy
  • We lost (or never found!) the accessories to finish the outfit
  • They are uncomfortable
  • They are too big, baggy, bulky
  • They are too tight, short, revealing
  • They are stained, stretched, worn out
  • They are missing a button, have a snag, broke a zipper

Or how about this one, which no husband seems to understand:

  • “It’s just not me, I love it, but I feel [phony, old, boring] wearing it…”

imagesAs an image consultant, I love to do wardrobe assessments; it’s kind of like doing undercover marriage rehab. I know it seems a bit shallow to say that an organized wardrobe could help a couple get along, but like cleaning house, there is a certain liberation that happens when clutter is removed. Sometimes less is more. Less to choose from can bring more power if all the choices are good ones.

If you are looking to have a more simplified wardrobe, and are willing to let go of things that need to be passed along or thrown away, then follow these simple (but not necessarily easy) steps:

  • Look through all draws, shelves and hangers for what not to wear. Pull out anything that robs your confidence or breaks the guidelines for your personal image identity. Don’t forget to go through your accessories.
  •  Physically remove these items from your closet. Yes, even those comfy sweats that you don’t want to be caught in, but somehow think your husband doesn’t mind seeing you in. Make a “give away” pile and a “throw away” pile and then do just that – and do it right away before you decide to wear it one more time.
  • Put together as many complete outfits as you can with what is left. Make sure you have adequate attire for your lifestyle. (How many casual outfits do you need? How many professional? Dressy?)
  • Document the missing pieces (i.e. “If I had a white tank top, this could be another outfit.”) Sometimes it helps to take a picture of the incomplete outfit so you can look at it when shopping for what it needs. (This can help you find the right color too.) Other times a list is all you need.
  • Shop. That’s right, I give you permission (sometimes we need that, don’t we?) Seriously, check your budget and go out on a mission to invest in your marriage (ok, I am being obnoxious here, I know, but just play with me.) Remember the saying “if mamma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy”? Well if your wardrobe is all about what NOT to wear, and it is robbing your joy, then please, spend a little money for your family’s sake! Do not worry, a woman with a list is not nearly as damaging as a frustrated one who only knows she has nothing to wear.

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their image issues. It is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Loosing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available soon.

If you are interested in getting these books or having Catrina come speak at your event, you can contact her at www.CatrinaWelch.com or on facebook.

 

Clean and Beautiful

Matthew 23: 25- 27 “What sorrow awaits you teachers of religious law and you Pharisees. Hypocrites! For you are so careful to clean the outside of the cup and the dish, but inside you are filthy—full of greed and self-indulgence! You blind Pharisee! First wash the inside of the cup and the dish, and then the outside will become clean, too. “What sorrow awaits you teachers of religious law and you Pharisees. Hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs—beautiful on the outside but filled on the inside with dead people’s bones and all sorts of impurity.”

Jesus’ words are strong, and may not be considered politically correct, but they are full of truth and bold love. We live in a society that cares more about who they appear than how they are. I suppose I should blog a great image message here, you know my heart is to help women be confident and sincere. I love to teach each Img.ID how to dress according to her physical stature and personal preferences; but my true desire is to bring that message even deeper. I believe our Lord is addressing so much more than our wardrobe in this scripture, and I don’t know about you, but I need His strong words right now.

I’ve been guilty of craving “self-indulgence” lately. I think about making a spa appointment nearly every day! Why? Because I am running on empty. I have not allowed myself the things I crave, like that full body massage, (which is a whole different blog…) but “as a gal thinketh in her heart, so is she,” right? I kinda feel like a whitewashed tomb… and I am well aware that I am not the only one feeling empty and numb.

Women who are hurting are a bit like a wounded animal. We may know how to look beautiful on the outside, but Jesus is right: inside we are full of “dead people’s bones and all sorts of impurity.” Stress is eating away at our very souls. Life and love have disappointed us, and we tend to respond with a bitter determination to just “do it myself!” In our desperation to survive on our own, greed takes over. All that is left is pretense and evidence of a life that was.

 

It’s especially hard around Christmas time, isn’t it? All the shopping, and so many sales tempting us to charge our own wish-list instead of the family’s. I suppose spending our own money on our own needs is not really “impure,” but for me: I know what’s in my wallet, if you know what I mean.

I believe Jesus wants us to have an abundant life, not one without peace and passion. He desperately wants to meet our needs – that’s why His words are so strong. A life that doesn’t need Him is lifeless and selfish. This season, let’s be careful not to focus on how we look, let’s not go through the motions of caring for others, let’s take the advice of the One we celebrate: let’s first empty ourselves and let Him cleanse us, then our beauty will radiate inside and out.

Dear God, would you cleanse me today? I do not want to live a life of pretense, and I am tired of trying to fill my own needs and desires. Fill me with your Living Water, and give me your passion to live life to the fullest. Amen. 

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their image issues. It is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Loosing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available soon.

If you are interested in getting these books or having Catrina come speak at your event, you can contact her at www.CatrinaWelch.com or on facebook.