It seems obvious that the tendency to compare your life with others’ is second nature and cannot be stopped.
No wonder the social media has created such an epidemic of self-consciousness. With each visit to Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest… we find ourselves faced with the temptation to compare our lives to the pictures we see. We know, of course, that what we are only shown the “postable” parts of our friends’ lives, but we still compare what we see to the parts of our lives that we would never post.
And they compare their “un-postables” with our “postables”. Continue reading 5 Practices for Overcoming Self-Consciousness
Imagine how the friends of Jesus felt the day after His crucifixion. They were so sure He was the Messiah, the One sent to become their king and free them from Rome. He called Himself the Way, the Truth and the Life, yet in the reality of that moment, it looked like His “way” was to suffer brutal judgment and death!
Faith: the substance of things hoped for
Reality is sometimes rocks our faith and twists our beliefs with doubt and confusion. Perhaps you, too, have had a dream suddenly become a nightmare? Has your hope ever turned to despair? Maybe your future was looking bright but then crisis hit, confusion came or tensions arose and now you’re not sure what is true anymore.
I am a mother who has grieved the loss of a daughter and suffered the emotional turmoil of having a son ensnared in addiction. I know this dream-gone-bad feeling.
As difficult as life gets, the most painful seasons are the times when the truth gets twisted. Continue reading Easter Changes Everything
I can almost hear you protesting my blog already…
If you’re like most women, you love to wear black and it is the dominate color of your entire wardrobe and my suggestion that black could be killing your confidence already has you irate, doesn’t it?
“If you take my black away, I will have nothing to wear!”
This is, by far, the biggest push back I get as an image-coach.
There are many reasons people love to dress in dark, dull clothing:
Black is seen as professional
Continue reading Why Wearing Black Could be Killing your Confidence
I had just laid my newborn baby down to rest and knew I should close my eyes until she needed me again, but I couldn’t resist the overwhelming urge to write the thoughts that were running through my head. It was strange, the words I was hearing were directed to me, not from me. It was as if the voice of God was thundering a very personal message and I had to capture it.
Once my pen hit the page, the words kept coming faster than I could write.
I knew Rebecca would not live long, the doctors were adamant about that; and her physical impairments were obvious, so I felt foolish doubting them, but it felt so wrong to believe she would die!. There were so many questions and such confusion causing fear and anxiety. I needed a “word from God.”
When the student is ready the Teacher speaks.
I can’t help but wonder if this is why God allows difficulties in our lives. It makes us ready to learn. Writing down “God’s Comfort” empowered me, like the embrace of a warm, soft blanket in front of a beautiful fire His voice was protecting me from the fierce storm outside. I felt His love and wisdom and it brought certain peace, which is still hard to explain, even eighteen years later.
Every year around this time, I like to share those words somewhere. On March 5, 1999 (just a few weeks after I wrote them) we shared them–unedited–at our daughter’s funeral. Today, I want to share them with you. My prayer is that you, too, will gain a new perspective on the goodness of the heart of God, even if goodness seems far from your reality. Continue reading Finding Purpose in Pain
By definition, an Ingénue (pronounced: änjəˌno͞o) is an innocent or unsophisticated young woman, especially one in a play or film. The Ingénue Image Identity is the Delicate Beauty. She typically has tight skin, a petite figure, softly feminine facial features and a sweet, gentle voice. Ingénues are almost always assumed younger Continue reading When Beauty Triggers Ugly
By definition, anything dramatic is theatrical, obvious, exciting, exaggerated, striking.
The Dramatic Image Identity has a penchant and passion for the arts, fashion and beauty. Because of this woman’s strength is her eye for detail and gift in creativity, she also does well in areas of architecture and design.
Dramatics are tall women with long, straight features and bold coloring (unless they are a combination Img.ID) who have a strong presence about them. They are exciting, inviting and highly influential.
Yet they seldom know it. Continue reading Your Strength is the Battlefield for your Confidence
Today I share with you a special guest blog that I wrote for my friend Rachel Britton, who asked me to testify about becoming bold in the journey of life.
My son's addiction had a way of training me in boldness. I hope this story is an encouragement to you.
Please share with anyone you know facing similar struggles.
Some women are strong and naturally bold; their journey to maturity includes becoming more sensitive. Others, like me, are sensitive and by nature far less bold; our journey to maturity involves finding courage.
In the years of helping women dress according to their personal image identity (or Img.ID), it has become obvious to me that we must first understand our authentic clothing personality–there are six of them. Three of them are strong, while the other three are sensitive. While many of us are a combination of two styles (being both strong and sensitive) none of us really mature until we discover our true nature.
TO BE BOLD, WE MUST KNOW WHO WE ARE
If you are uncertain whether you are strong or sensitive, consider… to read the rest of this post, please click here to visit Rachel’s blog at https://rachelbritton.com/overcoming-fear-boldness/
By definition, anything classic is the definitive, authoritative, long-lasting example. A Classic wardrobe is exactly that– at least for the professional look–just think of how long the blazer has been in vogue.
If you have a lot of “proper pieces” (fitted jackets and skirts, button down blouses, slacks, basically: business attire) in your closet and they have been there a long time, then you may be a Classic. The simple, traditional style of the Refined Beauty is not greatly inclined to change; neither is her nature.
Because she prefers quality clothing Continue reading The Mature Classic Woman
Don’t you just admire disciplined women, who guard their schedules and take care of themselves without neglecting their responsibilities? Their home is in order, their finances are planned. They workout, rest well, eat right and take time to play.
And they don’t feel guilty about it.
Who do you know that meets that description? There’s a good chance that person is a Classic or a Gamine–or any style of beauty who is committed to self-improvement.
Self-discipline does not come easily.
Although it looks different to each of us, we all want our lives to be in order. Yet few of us actually get there. According to my own observations, it seems that some personalities struggle with this more than others.
By nature the Classic and the Gamine are simply more organized and task oriented. Some of us admire self-discipline; these girls desire it. This is why they often attain it quicker than the rest of us.
Truth be told, in the end, we each do what we really want in life. Continue reading The Beauty of Self-discipline
- When a woman believes she looks beautiful, she feels confident.
- When a woman is confident, she radiates beauty.
It really doesn’t matter which style she is nor how tall, slim or old she is. The color of her eyes, hair or skin do not change the fact, nor does her nationality, upbringing or experiences in life.
A woman’s beauty is far more about what she believes than what she wears.
- A young, buff, high-fashioned, fully-serviced diva who is mean and rude is not beautiful at all.
- An old, wrinkled, out of shape, compassionate woman of wisdom is absolutely lovely.
- A supermodel who hates herself is not beautiful.
- An abused and neglected woman with strength and hope is stunning and inspiring.
I’ve spent 30 years teaching women and girls how to accentuate their beauty–that’s easy. Guiding her through Image Issues is not–mostly because it is so rare that she wants to deal with the mirror and the soul at the same time.
- A girl who feels ugly, unwanted, invisible and inadequate may strive to perfect her image, or she may loose all confidence of ever being beautiful.
- A girl who feels her image is her worth may strive to keep her confidence with beauty which is never satisfied and constantly changing. Or she may hate the attention she attracts and the pain beauty causes.
These women either love me (as an image coach) or avoid me because beauty can be a painful and embarrassing topic.
It takes a brave and mature woman to Continue reading How Confidence and Beauty Intertwine