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Validation, Everyone Needs It

When is the last time someone said something encouraging to you as a person?

You are very good at that.

You are so strong!

You are beautiful.

I hope it was this morning that someone validated you as a person, but I know that in reality it may have been a long time since you have heard a positive statement about your looks, strengths or qualities. For some reason, most of us hold back from “speaking life” over each other.

“Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live!-Deuteronomy 30:19 

I was just making a bitmoji with my daughter. We were cracking up as we picked the shapes, sizes and colors of my facial shape and each facial feature. (btw, I need someone to make an app like that for me to help people figure out their Img.ID, if you know a creative IT guy, please send him my way!) It got me thinking, how many teens are creating their emoji and laughing like this? Tori knows the six styles and, although I’m sure there are things she doesn’t like about herself but they don’t seem to bother her the way they did me at her age. I didn’t understand that my long, straight nose and thin lips were part of my Personal Image Identity, I just thought they were ugly. If I’d been choosing lips, cheeks and chins at seventeen I may have gone into an identity crisis, not having a blast.

Someone once told me that my nose was “too long” and my lips “too thin” and I believed it as a kid. When I learned about clothing personalities I gained a new understanding of the word “too”It’s an opinion! And it’s relative to that which it is compared to. My nose is not long compared to some; it is to others. So what on earth does “too long” mean?

No two people are the same, so who has the right to say which features are “too” anything? Is only one nose be “just right” since there’s no other nose like it? 

Yup, this is where my mind goes when I play with teens and apps.

Wouldn’t it be nice to see more girls laughing and enjoying the fact that some facial features are quite funny (and funny looking) when we focus on them intently, but that doesn’t mean they are not beautiful. It just means that our Supreme Stylist is very creative.

If you have features that you don’t like about yourself, I encourage you to laugh a little. No one is focusing as intently on that flaw as you are. Let it go. It is what it is and it is what your Creator wanted it to be-a beautiful characteristic of His beautiful girl.

You don’t have a big, ugly nose. You have a strong nose and that is part of who you are and, by the way, I LIKE who you are!

Validation, it can change the trajectory of a girl’s self-esteem. Go tell someone she’s beautiful today.

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As an author and speaker, Catrina’s passion is in helping women and girls overcome confidence conflicts, especially those involving rejection, betrayal and loss. After 30 years in the beauty industry as both a cosmetologist and an image consultant, Catrina now uses her profession, her own powerful stories and her training as a Biblical life-coach to reach the heart in a way that is relatable, encouraging and inspiring. Her message is balanced with both fashion and faith and is making a difference  in the lives of women and girls all over!  To be part of this movement, connect with her on FacebookTwitter PinterestLinked In, Goodreads  and consider having her speak at your next event. Visit http://catrinawelch.com for more information.

What’s Your Img.ID?

Florists know how to care for each kind of flower in order for it to exude its greatest beauty. Movie stars and supermodels have image consultants who know which outfit is best on that girl’s figure; that’s why they always look so good.

CB FlowersSo, what kind of beauty are you? Are you a delicate flower or an exotic one?

No one fits in a box. Just as we each have unique fingerprints, so do we each have a blend of Img.IDs, but understanding which type of beauty we are is like knowing the culture your family comes from. If you are Italian, well that explains why conversations around your house are so animated. If you are Greek, well that might explain why Momma wants your wedding to be so big. Generalizations can be limiting, but analyzing your general beauty can be extremely helpful in understanding yourself and others, not to mention how much easier your shopping and daily preparation will be!

Your physical attributes indicate which culture or family you belong to. Your body frame is the foundation of all your image decisions. Basically, there are four body types: straight, curvy, full and sleek. Each body type is one of the five figure frames: A, H, 8, 0, and V (defined below); and each figure has its own strengths and challenges. You probably know your figure flaws already, but knowing your figure frame helps you to balance out any disproportions. There are lots of tips available (you can find some in my book of guidelines in the shop tab) to help you with this.

You cannot give yourself a fair makeover without knowing your physical stature. Your height is the greatest indicator. If you are tall, you are either a Dramatic or a Natural. If you are short, you are an Ingénue, a Romantic or a Gamine. If you are of average height, you could be any of the personalities.

To further determine which personality you are, it is best to assess your coloring. Depending on your seasonal palette of coloring, you may have to tone down or play up your Img.ID with a secondary clothing personality. For example, Gamines and Dramatics with a Summer or Autumn palette are often a combination of another clothing personality since the soft, muted colors make it difficult to be bold or create drama. Also, the softer-natured Img.IDs—Romantic, Natural and Ingénue—with bold coloring may have a secondary personality to balance them out.

The third most important factor in determining your Img.ID is your facial features. This part, like the coloring, is hard to do without a professional face-to-face assessment, but I encourage you to do your best with my Img.ID Survey, anyway–the pictures certainly help. Whatever you do, though, please do not stress over this. Have fun with it! Tomorrow I will walk you through a more detailed assessment.

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their image issues. It is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Loosing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available soon.

If you are interested in getting these books or having Catrina come speak at your event, you can contact her at www.CatrinaWelch.com or on facebook.