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How Rhythm Affects Confidence

Consider the weather patterns and the cycles of seasons. The ocean’s tides ebb and flow aw the moon waxes and wanes. We literally schedule our lives around by the rhythm of nature. If there were ever a pause in the rising or setting of the sun, we would all panic.

It’s not just your surroundings that has rhythms. So does your body. Your breath and heartbeat have patterns; so do your physical needs, such as eating, sleeping and… getting your hair done.
When I worked in the salon, I was always fascinated by the different responses my clients had regarding scheduling their next appointment. I could always count on the Classic and the Gamine to fill my book six weeks out. The others, not so much. The Ingénue and Romantics were concerned someone else might need them and they did not want to say, “no” to anyone (or cancel on me!), so they would  shy away from rescheduling. The Natural doesn’t like to spend money and, to her, haircuts are a frivolous expenses. Besides, they do well with “wash-n-wear” styles that don’t need as much upkeep. The Dramatic, on the other hand, wants another appointment–she loves beauty treatments, but her spontaneous nature doesn’t like being committed to something that might keep her from another opportunity.

Yes, I may be generalizing. Your Img.ID is not the sole factor in how often you get your hair done–life is far more complicated than that–but, still, let’s consider why it’s so hard for most women to schedule time for themselves.


The way you feel about self-care is a big indicator of your Img.ID:

C: It’s necessary, professional and a private matter (Classic)

N: Haircuts are only worth the time or money when it’s necessary and practical (Natural)

D: Style and hygiene are important. Hair is a creative tool of expression. (Dramatic)

I: I love to be creative with my hair myself. There’s no need for someone else to fuss over me. (Ingénue)

R: I’d love to get pampered and made beautiful, but it feels selfish. (Romantic)

G: Maintaining a clean-cut appearance is vital to my identity. I like to have fun with my hair. (Gamine

Click the letter to learn more about that Image Identity, including What2Wear.

Find your rhythm

As professionals, most hairdressers will suggest another appointment before you check out of the salon. (It helps us to keep working, but more than that, it ensures that the client will be able to secure her favored stylist.) I cannot tell you how many times I’ve had a clients shocked that she needed me exactly when I wanted to schedule her.

If you have long, one length hair, you may be able to stretch out the time between your haircuts, but if you wear your hair with any kind of a style, I would recommend you figure out how often you will need a trim and plan accordingly. Most women need their hair cut every six to eight weeks. If you wear very short hair, then you may need two cuts within that time.

Hair grows. You may not be able to set your clock by the  rhythm of your follicle growth, but you can count on it enough to put some maintenance time in your calendar.

If you struggle with taking time for, or spending money on, your hair, I challenge you to consider your thoughts. Do you also feel guilty when you need to sleep or eat? I hope not! A woman with Confident Beauty knows her needs and takes responsibility for meeting them (including when that means asking for help). I think we could all learn from the rhythms of nature.

We all  take the time to sleep every day. We all buy groceries  every week. And we all have some things we need to take care of every month or so–like a haircut.

Think about it.

When we find the rhythm for taking care of our hair like we do our other cycles, we don’t have to go through the emotional torment of trying to decide if we need or deserve a little salon time  or not. Instead, when our hair starts to frizz or flop, we can rest assured in the confidence that we already have an appointment

No guilt. No shame. No need to justify, excuse or explain. Just pure and simple self-care.

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As an author and speaker, Catrina’s passion is in helping women and girls overcome confidence conflicts, especially those involving rejection, betrayal and loss. After 30 years in the beauty industry as both a cosmetologist and an image consultant, Catrina now uses her profession, her own powerful stories and her training as a Biblical life-coach to reach the heart in a way that is relatable, encouraging and inspiring. Her message is balanced with both fashion and faith and is making a difference  in the lives of women and girls all over!  To be part of this movement, connect with her on FacebookTwitter PinterestLinked In, Goodreads  and consider having her speak at your next event. Visit http://catrinawelch.com for more information.

Why Wearing Black Could be Killing your Confidence

I can almost hear you protesting my blog already…

If you’re like most women, you love to wear black and it is the dominate color of your entire wardrobe and my suggestion that black could be killing your confidence already has you irate, doesn’t it?

“If you take my black away, I will have nothing to wear!”

This is, by far, the biggest push back I get as an image-coach.

There are many reasons people love to dress in dark, dull clothing:

Black is seen as professional

Continue reading Why Wearing Black Could be Killing your Confidence

Are you Thankful for Your Beauty?

A woman’s home is a big indication of her heart.

My husband’s company just finished a small development of quaint, custom homes in the same village where he has been building elaborate masterpieces for many years. This was our first time doing a whole neighborhood and I found the social dynamics very interesting. Because a woman’s home is a significant part of her identity, I feel it an appropriate topic for a blog on Confident Beauty.

You were custom built.

Some developments are cookie-cutter; each house is the same style. In our development there are six different styles. Because there are only eleven homes and the styles which are duplicated are either mirrored, turned or altered in some way, none of them look alike. Whether the house was purchased before, during or after completion, each home has details that are crafted specifically for the homeowner, increasing the variety even more.

There are only six different styles of feminine beauty and yet no two women are alike. You may be a short, full-figured, curly-hair blonde with a round face, blue eyes and a button nose, but that doesn’t mean you look anything like another woman of the same description. This is because Continue reading Are you Thankful for Your Beauty?

Transitioning Your Wardrobe for the New Season

For those of us in New England, it’s time to transition the wardrobe. Although we are still having some fair weather, the light summer clothing is just not going to do it much longer.

As Autumn sets in and you pull out last year’s warmer wardrobe, do you find yourself excited to wear those items again? If not, it may be time to do the dreaded weeding. Theoretically, the things you put away last year should only be things that you love, are in good condition and still fit… or at least still fit last spring. Yet in reality, most of us throw last season’s clothing into our storage area without considering if we will ever wear it again or not. Now, as the weather demands we pull them out again and restock our closet, we look at our options and feel this looming dread and frustration over What2Wear.

There is plenty of choices hanging before us, yet we cry out, “I have nothing to wear!”

 

What would you do?

It’s a cool autumn day and you need a light jacket, so you go through what you have only to find that last year’s favorite is now a bit snug, has a stain and is missing a button. There's a number of ways you could deal with this Image Issue:

C: Bring it to the drycleaner and seamstress and wear it for a few more years.

N: Keep your chin up and wear it anyway.

D: Leave it in your closet and go buy a cute new jacket and tell your husband you’ve had it forever.

I: Leave it in your closet and go without a jacket.

R: Leave it in your closet and wear a favorite sweatshirt instead.

G: Same as D, but tell your husband (and anyone else who questions or comments) that you got an amazing deal.


Note: These choices represent the typical responses of each Image Identity. Click the letter to learn more about that style, including What2Wear.

dresses-53319_640Science has proven over and over again that we are more confident about making any decision if there are fewer choices. Yet for some reason our nature reasons that we should “keep our options wide open” and not throw out anything we already possess.

 

The guilt over waste

Since early childhood we have been trained not to waste. After all, there are starving, naked children all over this world. Everyone knows that good people should be resourceful and respectful with what they have. We live in a greedy, materialistic society, but if we want to be honorable citizens, we should be content with that which we have. Right?

But isn’t sharing our hand-me-downs with Salvation Army more resourceful and respectful than hording our unwanted items in our cluttered closet? And isn’t clinging to things we don’t even want more of an indicator of materialism than it is of contentment? Honestly, I think the real issue is more about fear than it is values. I know I’m guilty of being afraid that, if I give away that stupid jacket, I will wish I still had it. Have you ever been afraid you won’t find something else to replace your worn out favorite? Or that you will forget the memory it represents… or that the person who gave it to you will find out you don’t really like it. Yet there’s a good chance they don’t even remember, because they haven’t seen you wear it in years anyway.

Take a picture of it.

Just saying.

When we get right down to the matter, I think we hold onto things because we are afraid we are being wasteful or ungrateful or that mom will find out we are no longer frugal.  We are afraid of what other people think.

Maybe it’s time we get over our fears and begin to weed out anything in our wardrobe that holds us back from being a Confident Beauty.

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As an “Image consultant without the shopping obsession,” I help women and girls overcome confidence conflicts by unveiling the power and purpose of their personal Image Identity (Img.ID) and teach them to accentuate their authentic beauty so they can forget about their appearance and think about others. Please consider me as a speaker for your next event. You can find me on Facebook, TwitterLinked In, Goodreads. For ideas of What2Wear, find me on Pinterest where I have a board for each personal Img.ID.

How Discomfort Creates Confidence

If you have ever been in an uncomfortable situation, you know that your confidence is the first thing affected. Think about the last time you found yourself shaking in your boots. What made you feel self-conscious, was it when:

  • You were physically, emotionally or spiritually challenged?
  • You received personal, unwanted feedback regarding something you need to improve?
  • You did, said or dressed inappropriately?

There will always be times in our lives when we step out–or are pushed out–of our comfort zone. The key to success is embracing these times so that they create something new in us instead of squelching us. Last week I shared with you how my new assistant coaching position has challenged my confidence. I wish I could say I have it all figured out now and I’m feeling like a Confident Beauty. But I haven’t, and I don’t. But I am loving the challenge. It’s physically strenuous, emotionally daunting and honestly spiritually challenging (my pride is really struggling!). I’m definitely not the victor in all arenas, but I have to say, Continue reading How Discomfort Creates Confidence

You Know You Are a Glamorous Beauty if…

Character: The Romantic woman is sensual in her appearance and in nature. She naturally gives great attention to the elements of taste, smell, touch and especially visual appeal.

Like the orchid, this woman’s beauty is luscious and captivating, but sometimes hard to bring to bloom. Orchids will not share their astonishing flowers with the world if they are not cared for properly. They need sun and water like any other flower, but caring for them is very intricate. They are a tropical flower that needs warmth but must have a change in climate or they will not bloom. They need to be in the sun but cannot take direct sunlight; they need to be watered slowly and precisely because too much or too little water will shut down their blooming. Some of them like to be root-bound in order to bloom; others like the freedom and drainage of a larger pot. You need to study this flower if you are going to succeed in drawing out its amazing qualities. The Romantic’s beauty is delicate like that. Both the plant and the woman will endure poor conditions, but neither will share the beauty they have to offer. An Orchid will fill its pot with its large leaves and empty stems; the Romantic woman will fill her life with serving others but never really be able to offer her whole self because neglect causes her to shut down and stuffs away her own needs and desires.

Transparent-Bgrnd_OrchidIt is not unusual for Romantics to Continue reading You Know You Are a Glamorous Beauty if…

You Know You are a Delicate Beauty if…

Character: The Ingénue has a sweet, innocent nature that brings with it a quality of freshness that does not threaten others, but uplifts them and inspires them.

This woman, like the flower I chose to represent her, may be small, but she is a breath of fresh air. The Ingénue, like the Baby’s Breath, is the kind of beauty that completes those around her. The flower is often used to cover the stems and fill the spaces in a bouquet. The Ingénue has a creative and complimentary nature that makes her friends all look and feel more complete when she is with them. She may appear to be dainty and delicate, but this woman is strong and sturdy, like the flower that is able to survive environments most flowers cannot endure. In fact, as long as this flower has a mostly-sunny environment and well-drained soil that is not acidic, the Baby’s Breath can thrive and grow into great foliage that covers any area it is given. This young lady is like that: She will do whatever you need her to, and she will do it with joy. Unless she has poor soil. This beauty needs to be able to let the rain run off her back, so to speak, if her soil is too heavy and acidic, she cannot thrive, and in her desperation to survive she may not be able to bloom at all.

Ingénues have a special way of drawing out masculinity in a man. Even when they are fully matured they Continue reading You Know You are a Delicate Beauty if…

You Know You are a Classic Beauty if…

Character: The Classic woman is the epitome of elegance, especially if she is a Summer or Spring; although she can be any season.

Classic women are very refined and poised. They are thinkers and planners. They watch what is going on around them, they study, they gain wisdom and they act on their knowledge without concern for their reputation. They do what is right even if others do not understand them. In fact, once they are convinced of something it is very hard to get them to change their mind.

Classics live a balanced life, they tend to eat right and exercise, they work hard and take the vacation time they earn. The Classic is not only organized and orderly, but she needs to be; in fact, chaos will quite often bring out the worst in her. When things get out of control she may get stressed, but rarely does she get caught up in the moment. She may be emotional by nature, but she is controlled and rational in mannerism.

RoseI use the rose to represent the Classic because she is a refined beauty. She is dignified and sophisticated and stable in all her ways. She is graceful and conservative and a pleasure to look at. She has a balanced figure and proportionate features and tends to have her professional look all together, with everything coordinated and accessorized, (though it may be outdated).

This woman is hard to get close to. Like the rose, she has a guard about her. In her younger years she is tight and withdrawn and a bit protective of her heart and habits. When she is upset she may speak with sharp words, but she doesn’t have to say much. People respect her. As she matures she opens up and those willing to risk knowing her can easily remove her thorns. Her wisdom and skills are often a sweet aroma to those who need her.

We all need a Classic in our lives; they make great mentors. Unfortunately, many Classics are left to pursue their great ambitions alone because those who don’t understand her passion to make things better may consider her critical, or stuck in her ways, but those that know her will agree that her stability brings security and her wisdom and administrative skills are valuable.

If you are a Classic, I encourage you to remember that you elegant beauty is best enjoyed when it is complimenting other types of beauty. A single rose in a vase is lovely but a rose properly placed in a bouquet, or surrounded by baby’s breath is captivating and inviting. Most women guard their hearts by determining to not need others. As a Classic, you may need to fight the tendency to stand alone even more than most women. Others need what you have to offer, and, honestly, you need others to accentuate what you have to offer.

One example of this is in home decorating. You may very likely be a Classic if your home has high quality furnishings but is missing the finishing touches and decorative details. Most Classics have excellent, detailed dreams and ambitions but often their efforts are left incomplete. If this is you, I encourage you to trust others to complete you. No one is good at everything, you are not less of a person when you allow others to finish what you are so good at starting. In fact, being vulnerable makes you more enjoyable–like a rose that can be embraced without fear of getting pricked.

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As an “Image consultant without the shopping obsession,” Catrina’s passion is in helping women and girls overcome confidence conflicts by unveiling the power and purpose of their personal Image Identity (Img.ID) and teaching them to accentuate their authentic beauty so they can forget about their appearance and think about others. Please consider having her as a speaker for your next event. You can find her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Linked In, Goodreads

You Know Your a Natural Beauty if…


Character:
The Natural woman is the epitome of casual beauty; she is a sporty, outdoors kind of gal who makes others comfortable around her, because she is comfortable with herself.

She is like a wild flower, this style of beauty is simple and playful. The Natural’s bright cheer brings life to any occasion, making a formal affair even more fun and a casual event more inviting. Like a simple flower which only requires basic care and sunlight, the Natural’s carefree nature should not be overdone with too much attention to details. She is strong and sturdy and able to endure most environments as long as she is not overwatered or placed where there is no sun. The one area of concern the Natural does need to pay attention to is in maintaining her beauty. The flower needs to have old blossoms removed or they will suck the life out of the plant’s ability to bloom more. This woman needs to do the same with her wardrobe. She has her favorite items of clothing and may continue to wear them even after they are worn out or stained, which will drain the life out of her beauty.

Natural beauties aren’t as concerned for themselves as they are others. I know of many women like this who put up with abuse for years, but when someone else was in danger, they don’t put up with it at all. These gals don’t really care about what other people think; they care about helping people. They are dependable and loyal women who are not afraid of work. They will do whatever it takes to encourage those they love.

natural daisySome assume she lacks motivation. By nature a Natural is faithful and supportive; when she hears of the needs of others, she wants to meet them. Yet when someone hurts or neglects her, she let’s it roll off her back, knowing that they are the ones with the problem, not her. Most Naturals have good people skills. They know how to handle other people’s foolishness without dishonoring them. To others, however, this attitude may appear to be a lack of respect for concern for life. While the Natural does have a way of making things “no big deal” she is far from lazy or unconcerned with life.

Very often co-dependent women take responsibility for the wrongdoing of others, and try to cover up their mistakes, especially when they are abused. Naturals, however, when they do this, they do so with wisdom and boundaries.

If you are a woman in a difficult situation, I encourage you to get around a Natural. These Casual Beauties have a way of having a healthy codependency. Perhaps this is because most of them have a lot of faith. They are simple, realistic people, but they tend to lean toward optimism no matter how bad life can be. We would all do well to remain calm, cool and collected our circumstances get out of control. Of course, this is a lot easier if we, too, have faith that that all things will work to our good in the end.

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose passion is empowering women and girls to BE and LET BE. Her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach, as well as her personal experiences with abandonment and grief make her message relatable to anyone dealing with rejection, betrayal or loss.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available as an audiobook. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

The Beauty of Branding your Image 

It’s not just Hollywood that sets fashion trends. With so many of us bloggers posting opinions on which fashions to follow, it’s no wonder so many women deliberate over what to wear! In one day’s feed you may find a number of blogs that contradict each other. We can relate to some new styles when the models “wear it well” but is hard to figure out fashion on a hanger or in a flat photo.

Following Fashion Could be Destroying your Image. 

This “Fashion Friday,” for example, one popular blog promoted the latest trends with great enthusiasm. Every item displayed was beautiful; without a doubt most readers loved them all. The problem is, not every style is suitable for every fan.

Just as the front desk staff at a medical facility knows they are not required to wear scrubs (even though that’s the “trend” of their co-workers!), so should you be able to discern between which fashion to follow and which ones to leave for your colleagues. After all, wouldn’t you feel mislead if the secretary at your doctor’s office had a stethoscope hanging around her neck? Imagine asking her  for advice regarding your intimate ailments only to have her reply, “Oh, I’m sorry, I have no idea what to tell you, I’m not a doctor or nurse.” Wouldn’t that flair up a bit of frustration? Her image was deceptive!

Some fashions are very defined.

Everyone knows that certain uniforms are only for certain professions. A uniform, badge, color, style, etc defines a person’s identity. Certain outfits command immediate authority. When we are in need of help, we don’t even question the character of the person under the “branded” uniform (like the military, rescue, police…) we simply trust that they are qualified to meet our needs.

Anyone wearing a uniform without the qualifications to play that role will certainly offend others. There are other fashion rules that are also well defined–or at least they used to be. These rules, however, may be considered to be more like upper class edict. For example :

  • Never clash certain colors like pink and red.
  • Don not mix patterns like plaids and polka dots.
  • Only wear white after Memorial Day or before Labor Day.
  • Never wear all-black or all-white to a wedding.
  • Do not dress casually for church or court.

In today’s society (at least in America), fashion edict is no longer highly valued or respected. It’s more of an “anything goes” world now, but the thing is, even if we are not offending each other, all this freedom makes it easy to loose our identity.

You cannot brand a broad identity. 

If you are a professional or business woman, or even a single uneducated gal who is looking to “sell yourself,” then you must define who you are. No client, patron, patient or potential partner is going to be impressed with an image that contradicts what you are selling. If you are a doctor, then do not dress like the secretary. If you are artsy, don’t dress professionally. Being someone you are not will never win over any type of business, it will only make people loose their trust in you.

Granted, trust can be won over. Like an undercover cop in street clothes, you, too, can change other people’s first impression when you pull out your “badge” of qualifications. But first impressions are lasting impressions and if you want to lighten your workload, I highly recommend figuring out how to make your first impression tell the truth about who you are.

levis-brand-1472514-640x480Can street clothes be branded?

Not all professions have uniforms or dress codes. You may have total freedom with what to wear, but in order to build people’s trust in you, I highly recommend staying true to your style (or your personal Img.ID) and creating a brand for yourself:

• If you are a Classic: Your image should be classy and professional. It should say something about your elegant and refined nature.

• If you are a Natural: Your image should be simple and casual. It should say something about your practical and unpretentious personality.

• If you are a Dramatic: Your image should be exotic and extravagant. It should say something about your creative and exciting character.

• If you are an Ingénue: Your look should be soft and delicate. It should say something about your graceful and sweet nature.

• If you are a Romantic: Your look should be glamorous and alluring. It should say something about your sensitive and charming personality.

• If you are a Gamine: Your look should be bold and strong. It should say something about your fun and animated character.

Stay tune for more on the topic as I continue writing a new book for professional and business women!

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Confident Beauty available on audio soon!

Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose passion is empowering women and girls to BE and LET BE. Her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach, as well as her personal experiences with abandonment and grief make her message relatable to anyone dealing with rejection, betrayal or loss.