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Romantic, the Glamorous Beauty

Some women are sensual in appearance and in nature, meaning they give great attention to the elements of taste, smell, touch and visual appeal. These are the kind of women you want to be around when you need comfort because they care deeply and they have a gift of hospitality.

Like the orchid, this woman’s beauty is glamorous and captivating, but sometimes hard to bring to bloom. Orchids will not share their astonishing flowers with the world if they are not cared for properly. They need sun and water like any other flower, but caring for them is very intricate. 

This tropical flower generally needs warmth but must have a change in climate or they will not bloom. They need to be in the sun but cannot take direct sunlight. They need to be watered slowly and precisely because too much or too little water will keep their flowers from showing. 

Vulnerability makes or breaks the Romantic’s beauty

The beauty of the Orchid and of the Romantic are unmistakable. With round, luscious features and bright coloring, this Beauty / flower will take your breath away when in full bloom.

You need to study the Orchid if you are going to succeed in drawing out its amazing qualities because some like to be root-bound in order to bloom; others like the freedom and drainage of loose soil. The Romantic’s beauty is particular as well. Both the plant and the woman will endure poor conditions, but when on the defense, neither will share the beauty they have to offer. An Orchid will fill its pot with its large leaves and empty stems; the Romantic woman will fill her life with serving others without really offering her heart to them.

It is not unusual for Romantics to fall prey to abuse. Perhaps their compassionate and giving nature makes them more apt to believe that others are gentle and generous like them; or perhaps it’s their selflessness that makes them a naive target. I don’t know, but many Romantics have been deeply wounded by those who have mistreated them and when this Image Identity shuts down, she may still become hardhearted and guarded. When the Glamorous Beauty stuffs away her vulnerability, she hides the deepest, most beautiful part of her.

The Orchid is another example of how environment affects beauty.

This is why it’s important to understand our children’s Img.ID. How we raise our children will influence their confidence, strength and beauty –but more on that to come.

Bitterness will change a heart–especially a sensitive heart. Whether you are a Romantic or not, I encourage you to consider how you respond to confidence conflicts. Do you feel the need to control something in your life? Do you let your feelings control you? Are you aggressive or passive? We each deal with life according to our experiences, personalities and the coping mechanisms that we have learned. Whether you shut down, feel defeated, discouraged or desperate, your response is a good indicator of what your personal Image Identity , (or Img.ID) is.

To take my FREE quiz and learn your  Img.ID, click here.

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience and is designed to help you bring her main message (found in: Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul) to heart.  

To connect with Catrina, find her on FacebookTwitter PinterestLinked In, Goodreads  or visit http://catrinawelch.com

Ingénue video

Often mistaken as naive, young or innocent, the Ingénue is actually a very strong woman. She may have a girlish figure and a high voice, but don’t let that be confused for youth or ignorance! Like the Baby’s Breath that first appears to be a small flower but is actually a very strong bush, the Ingénue is an amazingly tenacious woman. The flower is used to covers the stems in a bouquet of flowers. This girl also completes others with her beautiful creativity and encouraging heart.
Ingénues need to be true to their authentic personality or they may lose their confidence. This is also true with their image. When the Delicate Beauty dresses in heavy fabrics or dark colors (unless she is a combination), her look is overpowered and she may come across as a little girl trying to look grown up.
If you are an Ingénue, pay careful attention to your fabrics and prints. Shop for lightweight clothing during the warmer seasons and embrace soft, flowing looks with your makeup and hair. You have a kind and caring nature and everything about your image should reflect your sweet and gentle nature.

If you are an Ingénue, or know of one, who is struggling with confidence, consider what image-coach Catrina Welch talks about in this video about the Beauty Battle.
For more information on the Ingénue and the other clothing personalities, visit www.catrinawelch.com and take her FREE Image Assessment Quiz.

To take my FREE quiz and learn your Image Identity, click here.

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience and is designed to help you bring her main message (found in: Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul) to heart.  

To connect with Catrina, find her on FacebookTwitter PinterestLinked In, Goodreads  or visit http://catrinawelch.com

 

Romantic Beauty

In honor of Valentine’s Day, I post a quick overview of the Romantic Clothing Personality, which I call the Glamorous Beauty.

To take my FREE quiz and learn your  Image Identity, click here.

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I call my image consultations “Supreme MakeOver” (or SMO) because it changes so much more than a person’s appearance; it teaches them who they are and sets them free from all that comparison. If you would like to have or host a SMO, or if you want to help me launch my next book, Know Who You Are-for Kids!, then please contact me. I can be found on FacebookTwitter PinterestLinked In, Goodreads  and my website is http://catrinawelch.com

 

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Abnormal, or Impressive? 

When a new baby arrives into this world, there are two very important numbers that are included in the birth announcement: weight and length.

Does size really matter?

  • Perhaps we announce the size of our child because the pounds and inches tell the story of labor and delivery. 
  • Perhaps the numbers are important because they give some kind of identity to those who have not met the newborn.

It seems the large babies give one impression, and little ones another, but the sizes in between are not as impressive, why is that?

 Children that are little at birth usually have a  petite bone structure and will likely remain short all their lives.

Continue reading Abnormal, or Impressive? 

Is Woman Inferior to Man?

Your world view is greatly determined by the way you answer this important question.

  • Men and women are equal.

This world view may show itself in a lot of striving to prove our equality. When favoritism is shown or life seems unfair, it is only natural to fight for our rights. Any weaker party should be given to and any stronger party should be taken from in order to level the playing field. 

Do differences (in gender, strength, appearance, gifts, talents, success…) make life unfair?

  • Women are inferior.

This world view is often confused. When men see women as less than, or when women see themselves as less-than, it is only natural for the genders to conflict. A man trying to prove himself may mistreat the women he wants to overpower. A woman feeling down on herself may accept abuse that she does not deserve. Continue reading Is Woman Inferior to Man?

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3 Reasons Why Image is Such an Issue for Women

According to David Garner’s survey on Body Image in America as reported in Phychlology Today:

  • 56% of all women say they are dissatisfied with their overall appearance.
  • 84% of women report dieting
  • 14 % of women have been diagnosed with eating disorders- the majority  being underweight.
  • 1.5% of women say they vomit for weight control, yet do not feel they have an eating disorder. 3%  use laxatives for weight loss and feel that is not a concern.
  • 67% of women report that being around thin women makes them feel insecure.  45% say that models make them feel angry or resentful.

There are many reasons why beauty has such a stronghold on our hearts:

1. Beauty is an important part of the feminine heart.

The desire for beauty is not shallow or selfish; it is our reflection of the One who created us. Just as man was designed to glorify God with his strength, so was woman designed to draw others to Him with her beauty.

Unfortunately, our desire to be lovely can get the best of us if we focus on it too much. I suppose anything we give too much attention to can mess up our lives, but let’s think this through.

The desire to be strong or  successful, is encouraged by society.

The desire for beauty, on the other hand, is not as socially acceptable.

Wether we pursue strength or beauty, we may be confronted with jealousy from time to time, but seldom will we be put to shame for such desires as to do well or be strong.

2. Beauty has different social standards.

Continue reading 3 Reasons Why Image is Such an Issue for Women

Helping Kids Find Confidence

I was only in third grade when my ministry to girls with Image Issues began. I remember coming home from school broken-hearted because one of my friends was being picked on for her weight.

So what if some kids are heavy? I was skin and bones, is that wrong, too? Why are kids so mean? I don’t get it. I was baffled as a eight year old and I’m still baffled today. No two people look exactly alike, so what kind of logic says that differences are defects or deficiencies? And why should anyone be ashamed of how they look?

Variety is beautiful

A sneak peak into Know Who You Are–for Kids!

I seldom got judged for being skinny, but It was that same year that the kids teased me because of how I dressed. I used to wear little bobby sox and apparently they weren’t “in style” (because children know these things!). I was the brunt of cruel jokes day after day until I finally told my mom. I was hoping she would take me shopping for long sox so that I could fit in.

I was wrong. Continue reading Helping Kids Find Confidence

One Woman’s Journey to Find her True Image Identity

Most women HATE, HIDE or get HUNG UP on their image at one point in their lives. For many, this is during the teenage years, but for some it’s at a very young age, for others it comes later in life.

When we are hurting and our self image is down, we may lash out at others, blame them, or become consumed by their needs while neglecting our own. Whether you punish yourself,  shut down your heart, or try to numb the pain is a big indicator of what your personal Image Identity (Img.ID) is.

Click here to take my FREE IMAGE ASSESSMENT QUIZ

Continue reading One Woman’s Journey to Find her True Image Identity

3 Secrets to Avoiding Clothing Moths

Some say the secret to storing your fine sweaters is to put them in a cedar closet or use cedar wood aromatic oils or the dreaded mothballs, the Bible says to:

Store your treasures in heaven, where moths and rust cannot destroy, and thieves do not break in and steal. -Mathew 6:20 

Is the Bible saying we should live in the moment and not stress out about holding onto treasures for ourselves? Maybe; but there are many clothing items that we put away for a season that we will be needing again. What then?

If we have been blessed with nice clothing like silks, cashmere or wool, then we should be good stewards of what we have, right? Last year I lost one of my most expensive cashmere sweaters to moths. Wardrobe Weeding may be my thing, and cedar closets may be my husband’s, but anyone can become immune to the cautions they frequently deal with. Lest you, too, think that moths will never happen to you, allow me to share the wisdom of ages:

1. Keep a clean, fresh closet.

Moths like to live and lay eggs in places where it’s dark and they’re undisturbed.  Frequently  vacuum the floors and drawers, wipe shelves down, move your clothes around, turn on lights, open windows.

Always clean any used clothing before bringing it into your closet. If one item  was in storage for long, there’s a good chance it may have moth eggs.

2. Keep your clothing clean.

When the eggs hatch, the larvae like to feed on organic fabrics. To avoid this wholey problem,  keep your clothing clean. A hot dryer (or freezer if you have a real problem) can fix this, but most of the fabrics that moths love need to be dry-cleaned, so be sure to have that done before you put your clothes in storage.

Always remove your dry-cleaned items from the plastic bags when you bring them home to allow the chemicals to leave the garment before it breaks down the fibers.

3. Check on your storage.

Adult moths live for about 75 to 80 days, and eggs hatch into larvae after 4-10 days, so you are wise to check for evidence of moths at least once after putting them away for the summer. It’s not uncommon for moth eggs to make their way into the storage undetected and  you may come back to ruined clothing months too late. Like I did.

Cedar wood, cinnamon, cloves, and lavender are all good options for keeping moths away without the harsh, dangerous fumes of mothballs.

All in all, yes, we should just get rid of the things that are going to sit in our closets undisturbed because we do not wear them. But when there are items which we will once again wear when the climate changes, we should take care in storing them so that nothing is wasted.

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If you found this blog helpful, would you share it with someone? Post it to your facebook wall, tweet about it, email a friend. We are all in this together and together we can conquer the secret little things that cause us Confidence Conflicts so that we can become women of Confident Beauty. If you haven’t yet, be sure to check out my Img.ID quiz to learn your personal style and then follow me on FacebookTwitter  Linked In, Goodreads and Pinterest, (where I have a board for each style). Also, consider having me give your friends a Supreme MakeOver at your next event. Visit http://catrinawelch.com for more information.

 

The Secret to Confidence: Understanding Yourself

Every child wants to be loved. Little girls long to be seen and heard and to belong to something greater than themselves. We need to know we are valued. Boys do, too. They need adventure and challenge. They long to be strong and courageous and to be needed.

Yet we all have image issues at times. And some “times” last longer than others.

Am I lovely?

Am I strong?

Do I even matter in this world?

Continue reading The Secret to Confidence: Understanding Yourself

What to Wear for the Exotic Beauty

The Dramatic woman is just that: passionately expressive. Conversations with her are very deep and theatrically infused with emotional word-pictures. She’s a rather private person, but somehow doesn’t mind the spot light. In fact, many Dramatics take up their profession in the fine arts and are often found in the theaters or on television. These girls (and guys) put their whole heart into their performance and their long, lean physique is easy on the camera.

For the same reasons, many Dramatics are Continue reading What to Wear for the Exotic Beauty

What to Wear for the Delicate Beauty

There’s something very attractive about the innocence of a child. Just being around a joyful little girl enjoying her playtime can lift the dreariest of attitudes and encouraged the depressed. That’s what it’s like to be around a Confident Ingénue.

ingénue | ˌanjəˈno͞o, ˈänjəˌno͞o |
noun
an innocent or unsophisticated young woman, especially in a play or film.

The Delicate Beauty has a sweet, gentle way about her. She’s considerate and kind and she has a positive outlook on life–at least until someone takes advantage of her and she finds herself in a Beauty Battle. Because of her petite frame and soft voice, she is often an easy target for a “big bully” and because this girl feels things so deeply, when she is mistreated it may very well send her into an identity crisis. Continue reading What to Wear for the Delicate Beauty