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How Discomfort Creates Confidence

If you have ever been in an uncomfortable situation, you know that your confidence is the first thing affected. Think about the last time you found yourself shaking in your boots. What made you feel self-conscious, was it when:

  • You were physically, emotionally or spiritually challenged?
  • You received personal, unwanted feedback regarding something you need to improve?
  • You did, said or dressed inappropriately?

There will always be times in our lives when we step out–or are pushed out–of our comfort zone. The key to success is embracing these times so that they create something new in us instead of squelching us. Last week I shared with you how my new assistant coaching position has challenged my confidence. I wish I could say I have it all figured out now and I’m feeling like a Confident Beauty. But I haven’t, and I don’t. But I am loving the challenge. It’s physically strenuous, emotionally daunting and honestly spiritually challenging (my pride is really struggling!). I’m definitely not the victor in all arenas, but I have to say, Continue reading How Discomfort Creates Confidence

3 Ways to Deal with Back to School Blues

For many girls all over the world, this week is the most difficult one of their lives. After Labor Day Weekend, they must go into new territory and face many challenges and insecurities. New Schools, new teachers, peers. studies, sports and activities.

Not to mention new outfits!

Fear of the unknown is one of the strongest Confidence Conflict we will ever face.

I am personally challenged by the unknown this season. As the new assistant coach to daughter’s volleyball team, I find myself in a familiar position of awkwardness. Having little understanding of the sport and very weak skills, I feel in adequate and unqualified. It has been several decades since I have been in high school, yet I find myself battling the same Confidence Conflicts as the kids I am coaching.

Yesterday, the head coach was showing us a funny, dance-like move to spike the ball with power. The first attempt at practicing it was half-hearted and hysterical. Laughter is a great way to hide our embarrassment–at least we don’t feel alone.

Or at least we don’t look like we feel alone.

After the first run through the drill, coach asked our players how many of them felt like they “got it.”

No one did.

My wise, new friend helped the players realized they were not alone in struggling with their new skill. Once they believed that, they were able to forget about how silly they looked and focus on giving it some real effort. It was astounding how much better they were with their second run through the drill!

If you have ever had to learn a new skill, taken on a new position, entered a new environment or had to make new friends, then you know that awkward feeling of not knowing what to do. This can be exceptionally difficult if you do not know who you are or where you stand. Whether you are starting school or a new job, when you don’t know the building, the people, the plan or the requirements, there's a number of ways you could respond: 

C:volleyball-1531786_640 Study hard and figure it out.

N: Play it cool, stay quiet, watch those around you to find a way.

D: Feel defeated, become consumed by your failures.

I: Quietly shut down and pretend there is no problem.

R: Encourage everyone else–while feeling stupid and beating yourself up.

G: Take charge, point out other people's mistakes and try to hide your own.
 
Note: These choices represent the typical responses of each Image Identity. Click the letter to learn more about that style, including What2Wear. 

We cannot master anything we do not understand and only a heart that is humble is teachable.

Self-talk is the key to succeeding at anything. Every one of us will feel stupid and out of place many times in our lives, especially when facing something new. It doesn’t matter how old we are or what we have accomplished, there will always be something we haven’t done before.

Like volleyball for me. I thought I was bringing some amazing life skills to encourage the team with, instead I am receiving them because these girls are the ones encouraging me!

Whether we think we can or think we can’t, we are right.

Like the follow-through of any ball we throw, hit, spike or putt, our thoughts determine the direction of our confidence. Basically, we have 3 choices:

  1. Ignore or down-play the challenge to hide our feelings of inadequacy–but hinder our ability to improve.
  2. Exaggerate the challenge to disguise our inadequacy–but give it the power to consume us or leave us feeling defeated and desolate.
  3. Accept the challenge for what it is–empowering us to learn and improve.

If you are heading off to a new environment or position this week, I encourage you to join me in stepping out of the fear of the unknown and taking on the challenge with confidence. Anything new is awkward for a little while. Let’s give ourselves time. If we stay humble enough to be teachable, all our fears will be replaced with confidence as we realize we are not alone. We are not stupid or inadequate; we are learning and we are improving and that is nothing to feel embarrassed about.

Go Eagles!

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As an “Image consultant without the shopping obsession,” I help women and girls overcome confidence conflicts by unveiling the power and purpose of their personal Image Identity (Img.ID) and teach them to accentuate their authentic beauty so they can forget about their appearance and think about others. Please consider me as a speaker for your next event. You can find me on Facebook, TwitterLinked In, Goodreads. For ideas of What2Wear, find me on Pinterest where I have a board for each personal Img.ID.

You Know You Are a Glamorous Beauty if…

Character: The Romantic woman is sensual in her appearance and in nature. She naturally gives great attention to the elements of taste, smell, touch and especially visual appeal.

Like the orchid, this woman’s beauty is luscious and captivating, but sometimes hard to bring to bloom. Orchids will not share their astonishing flowers with the world if they are not cared for properly. They need sun and water like any other flower, but caring for them is very intricate. They are a tropical flower that needs warmth but must have a change in climate or they will not bloom. They need to be in the sun but cannot take direct sunlight; they need to be watered slowly and precisely because too much or too little water will shut down their blooming. Some of them like to be root-bound in order to bloom; others like the freedom and drainage of a larger pot. You need to study this flower if you are going to succeed in drawing out its amazing qualities. The Romantic’s beauty is delicate like that. Both the plant and the woman will endure poor conditions, but neither will share the beauty they have to offer. An Orchid will fill its pot with its large leaves and empty stems; the Romantic woman will fill her life with serving others but never really be able to offer her whole self because neglect causes her to shut down and stuffs away her own needs and desires.

Transparent-Bgrnd_OrchidIt is not unusual for Romantics to Continue reading You Know You Are a Glamorous Beauty if…

Which Style of Clothing Suits You?

If you have ever taken a personality test, you know the value of understanding yourself and the people in your life on a deeper level. Getting along with other people can be difficult, especially when their perspective on the world is so different than yours. Relationship-oriented people can frustrate task-oriented people with their lack of respect for the details, and those who focus on the relationships can be overwhelmed, or even offended, by the pressures of those who care so much about the things that seem trivial to them.

We have more tolerance for others once we see a glimpse into their heart.

My second child was three months old before I finally realized that he didn’t want to be rocked to sleep like my first boy did. One day I let the frustration of his overtired fussiness get to me. In my exasperation, I decided to just lay him in his crib so I could calm myself down. To my amazement the child stopped fussing and immediately fell asleep. Suddenly I saw his heart. From then on, I simply prepared him for bed and tucked him in. Wow, was my life easier!

Rejection is less painful when we recognize that there are different perspectives. 

Sometimes we take other people’s personal preference as an insult. Part of my frustration with my baby’s fussiness was his lack of desire to cuddle with his mommy at nap time. Until I understood that he simply preferred to be left alone, I was interpreting his desire as a personal rejection.

When someone has a different outlook than ours, they may very well disapprove of our choices, but they are not necessarily out to get us. I doubt my baby was trying to hurt my feelings. Understanding that others see the world differently has a way of putting their opinion into proper perspective.

http://wp.me/p480pL-1g6An image assessment empowers you in the same way. 

Your personal Image Identity (Img.ID) is stemmed from your clothing personality. Just as a job “suits” you well because it “fits” with your personality (when you are task-oriented you do well with office jobs that deal with administration or accounting; when you are relationship-oriented you do well in service jobs that deal directly with people) so do certain clothing styles “suit” you well because they compliment your personality.

If you are a Classic, you are a woman of prestige, clothing that is professional and classy will suit you well.

If you are a Natural, you are a woman of simplicity, clothing that is casual and comfortable will suit you well.

If you are a Dramatic, you are a woman of excellence, clothing that is detailed and fashionable will suit you well.

If you are an Ingénue, you a woman of elegance, clothing that is fine and delicate will suit you well.

If you are a Romantic, you are a woman of compassion, clothing that is soft and glamorous will suit you well.

If you are a Gamine, you are a woman of power, clothing that is strong in coloring and cut will suit you well.

If you find yourself frustrated trying to compete–or comply–with someone else’s style, I encourage you to first clarify your own perspective by having an image assessment done and learning your Img.ID, then take a glimpse into the heart of the women around you and realize that they may have a completely different perspective; and that’s ok. BE and LET BE.

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Catrina Welch in an Inspirational Author, Speaker, Image- and Life-Coach. Her passion is to help women and girls discover Confident Beauty, which doesn’t wear off like makeup does!  Her latest book, Confident Beauty, Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul is now available as an audiobook.

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Catrina will be hosting a Branding your Image Supreme MakeOver on TOMORROW Saturday, May 14th from 9-11am This is a great opportunity to get an image assessment done for the cost of one item of clothing in excellent condition. To learn more and to save your seat, please click here or contact Catrina today.

3 Ways Women Seek Significance

They say there are two types of women in the world:

  • the ones who walk into a room and say, “Here I am!”
  • the ones who walk into a room and say, “Oh, there you are!”

Of course we would all prefer to be the second type, but in reality, most of us are not.

When I think of the woman who says, “Here I am!” I feel embarrassed for her–you may feel something stronger. How childish to demand attention! How vain and selfish! We don’t want to be like that. Yet if we are honest, we must admit that deep within us, there’s a little girl’s heart that would also love to be noticed.

Instead, we feel invisible.  Continue reading 3 Ways Women Seek Significance

Do You Know Who You Are?

No two women look alike, but there are only six styles of feminine beauty.

Look at all the women around you and you will see a huge variety of shapes and sizes. If you are in Asia, a majority of them may be petite figures with angular features. In Sweden you will find that most of the women have fair coloring. In America we have a melting pot of styles, although they often cluster together, like birds of a feather.

Culture and genetics are major influences on a woman’s image.

Every woman fits into one or two of the six different styles of feminine beauty. Discerning which style you are is not always easy as knowing your background, but learning your style does something to a woman that is much like learning about her family’s history.

Discovering your style is understanding your heart. 

Like discovering your heritage, unveiling your personal Image Identity (Img.ID) can empower you with more confidence to BE who you were designed to be. We don’t always see ourselves the way others see us, so  as much as any analyzation can seem as if you are being put into a box, in actuality knowing which “box” you fit into breaks the walls of confusion that can hold you back from being your best. Just as understanding why you were brought up the way you were can help you move on.

Knowing your Mother’s style will help you understand yours.

mother-and-daughter-1439686-639x424When we are young, the female influencers in our lives help us form our opinion of beauty. Very often we emulate our influencers in our opinions and preferences. My mom, for example, considered fashion foolish. She is a Natural. She looks her best in casual clothes and she prefers comfort. I prefer comfort too, Natural is my secondary Img.ID. But my physical stature is a Dramatic (and therefore my primary Img.ID) and I love fashion; these two Img.IDs can conflict with each other. It took me awhile to understand myself and find a good balance, but once I did, I was liberated from trying to be someone that I only partially resembled. I gained great confidence when I stopped squelching my Dramatic self.

What’s your Img.ID?

Your primary Img.ID is determined by your physical attributes:

  • Are you tall, short or average height?
  • Is your frame curvy or straight?
  • Do you have a broad, petite or average bone structure?
  • What is your facial shape and what kind of facial features do you have?

Your secondary Img.ID is determined by your personal preferences:

  • Are you sensitive or strong?
  • Are you socially outgoing or privately personal?
  • Are you detailed, creative or carefree?
  • Is image important to you or not?

A woman’s heart will either confirm the Img.ID that her physical attributes indicates, or it will reveal that there is a second Img.ID.

I love the response I get from women when I guess their personal preferences after a physical assessment. Very often they drop their jaw and ask if I am physic. I laugh and say, “no,” of course, because to me it’s no different than knowing which “style” of dog would guard a house or greet me as a guest. I’m more likely to pet a Golden Retriever than I am a PitBull.

 

Appearance often indicates personality.

  • A tall, straight figure with long, strong facial features is typically a sensitive, private girl who is very creative and loves fashion. (see Dramatic)
  • A tall, broad figure with blunt facial features is typically a strong, carefree girl. (see Natural)
  • An average figure, who’s physical attributes are well balanced and proportionate is likely a strong, private girl who doesn’t care much about image but loves the details. (see Classic)
  • A short, straight figure who’s facial features are delicate is often very sensitive and compassionate and loves to be creative. (see Ingénue)
  • A short, curvy figure who’s facial features are full and feminine, is likely to be very sensitive and compassionate as well. This girl loves serving others. (see Romantic)
  • A short figure with strong, animated features, (who could be any stature) is likely very strong in nature and opinions. She is a hard worker and a lot of fun as long as she is in agreement with what she is involved in. (see Gamine)

If you feel the need to understand yourself more, you don’t need a physic to help you, you just need to Know Who You Are. Please visit my website to learn more. Follow me on Pinterest to see example of What2Wear for each Img.ID

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose passion is empowering women and girls to BE and LET BE. Her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach, as well as her personal experiences with abandonment and grief make her message relatable to anyone dealing with rejection, betrayal or loss.

You can find her book of guidelines for your Img.ID titled, Know Who You Are on Amazon.  Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

The Beauty of Branding your Image 

It’s not just Hollywood that sets fashion trends. With so many of us bloggers posting opinions on which fashions to follow, it’s no wonder so many women deliberate over what to wear! In one day’s feed you may find a number of blogs that contradict each other. We can relate to some new styles when the models “wear it well” but is hard to figure out fashion on a hanger or in a flat photo.

Following Fashion Could be Destroying your Image. 

This “Fashion Friday,” for example, one popular blog promoted the latest trends with great enthusiasm. Every item displayed was beautiful; without a doubt most readers loved them all. The problem is, not every style is suitable for every fan.

Just as the front desk staff at a medical facility knows they are not required to wear scrubs (even though that’s the “trend” of their co-workers!), so should you be able to discern between which fashion to follow and which ones to leave for your colleagues. After all, wouldn’t you feel mislead if the secretary at your doctor’s office had a stethoscope hanging around her neck? Imagine asking her  for advice regarding your intimate ailments only to have her reply, “Oh, I’m sorry, I have no idea what to tell you, I’m not a doctor or nurse.” Wouldn’t that flair up a bit of frustration? Her image was deceptive!

Some fashions are very defined.

Everyone knows that certain uniforms are only for certain professions. A uniform, badge, color, style, etc defines a person’s identity. Certain outfits command immediate authority. When we are in need of help, we don’t even question the character of the person under the “branded” uniform (like the military, rescue, police…) we simply trust that they are qualified to meet our needs.

Anyone wearing a uniform without the qualifications to play that role will certainly offend others. There are other fashion rules that are also well defined–or at least they used to be. These rules, however, may be considered to be more like upper class edict. For example :

  • Never clash certain colors like pink and red.
  • Don not mix patterns like plaids and polka dots.
  • Only wear white after Memorial Day or before Labor Day.
  • Never wear all-black or all-white to a wedding.
  • Do not dress casually for church or court.

In today’s society (at least in America), fashion edict is no longer highly valued or respected. It’s more of an “anything goes” world now, but the thing is, even if we are not offending each other, all this freedom makes it easy to loose our identity.

You cannot brand a broad identity. 

If you are a professional or business woman, or even a single uneducated gal who is looking to “sell yourself,” then you must define who you are. No client, patron, patient or potential partner is going to be impressed with an image that contradicts what you are selling. If you are a doctor, then do not dress like the secretary. If you are artsy, don’t dress professionally. Being someone you are not will never win over any type of business, it will only make people loose their trust in you.

Granted, trust can be won over. Like an undercover cop in street clothes, you, too, can change other people’s first impression when you pull out your “badge” of qualifications. But first impressions are lasting impressions and if you want to lighten your workload, I highly recommend figuring out how to make your first impression tell the truth about who you are.

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Not all professions have uniforms or dress codes. You may have total freedom with what to wear, but in order to build people’s trust in you, I highly recommend staying true to your style (or your personal Img.ID) and creating a brand for yourself:

• If you are a Classic: Your image should be classy and professional. It should say something about your elegant and refined nature.

• If you are a Natural: Your image should be simple and casual. It should say something about your practical and unpretentious personality.

• If you are a Dramatic: Your image should be exotic and extravagant. It should say something about your creative and exciting character.

• If you are an Ingénue: Your look should be soft and delicate. It should say something about your graceful and sweet nature.

• If you are a Romantic: Your look should be glamorous and alluring. It should say something about your sensitive and charming personality.

• If you are a Gamine: Your look should be bold and strong. It should say something about your fun and animated character.

Stay tune for more on the topic as I continue writing a new book for professional and business women!

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Confident Beauty available on audio soon!

Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose passion is empowering women and girls to BE and LET BE. Her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach, as well as her personal experiences with abandonment and grief make her message relatable to anyone dealing with rejection, betrayal or loss.

 

 

Should you Say Yes to the Dress?

An estimated 198,000,000 roses were given out this week to women all over the country. My daughter and I each got a dozen of them. Her’s are white, mine red.  My husband teased us as we debated over which vase we would each use to display their beauty.

It’s not only size that matters.

It is important that all the flowers fit properly into a vase; the stems must be supported without being crowded. But it’s more than that. The color should compliment the flowers and accentuate the best parts of the arrangement.

Choosing the wrong size or color vase is not the only thing that could take away from the beauty of a bouquet.

Style is key.

Roses are a classic representation of beauty. Throughout the years have  become accepted as pleasing in all sorts of vases. Perhaps it is their simplicity and versatility that makes them so desirable no matter what they “wear,” but without a doubt this refined flower is most stunning in a classy, well-finished vase.

Imagine a simple bouquet of wild flowers in that high-quality vase. A little awkward don’t you think? How about an exotic, tropical arrangement in a earthen vessel? Some styles just don’t compliment each other well, instead they compete with each other.

Choosing the wrong size or color vase is not the only thing that could take away from the beauty of a bouquet.

Your beauty is like that. 

Like flowers, women come in all sorts of styles and what we wear is what holds us up with dignity, like a vase. When we chose outfits that do not compliment our authentic style (our personal Img.ID) our image is actually competing with our beauty.

Yes, a bouquet of flowers in a vase which is completely opposite its style can still make a beautiful statement, but the statement that a woman makes when wearing an outfit that doesn’t compliment her style isn’t usually favorable.

An outfit that competes with your personality makes an awkward statement  

I’ve witnessed a lot of these unfavorable statements this week as I have been out prom-dress shopping.

Just because you like a style doesn’t mean it likes you.

This statement may be hard to hear, but understanding it will make your life easier. The girls I was shopping with knew their Img.ID; they tried on half as many dresses as the girls we saw going into the changing rooms excited and coming out disappointed, frustrated and exhausted.

The secret to dressing for any formal occasion is knowing who you are: 

  • Like the rose, the Classic Beauty should dress in high-quality attire with well-finished touches, keeping her focus on traditional looks and avoiding any extremes.
  • Like a daisy, the Natural Beauty should dress casually; when she is required to be more formal she should keep her look very simple and be sure to include texture (nothing too smooth).
  • Like the tropical flowers, the Dramatic Beauty should dress in high-fashion, especially for formal occasions, keeping her lines straight and avoiding frills.
  • Like the baby’s breath, the Ingénue Beauty should dress in youthful, feminine looks in lightweight fabrics. She should include frills, lace or tucks.
  • Like the orchid, the Romantic Beauty should dress in soft, sophisticated, feminine looks that flow over her curves. She should avoid anything tight, revealing or low quality and consider floral or feathery patterns.
  • Like the calla lily, the Gamine Beauty should dress in sleek styles with tailored edges and bold, contrasting colors (at least three). She should avoid rough textures and anything sheer, flimsy, delicate or plain.

For visual ideas on What2Wear (for formal or everyday wear as well as hair, makeup, accessories, etc), be sure to visit my Pinterest page and click on the board that represents your Img.ID. You can find it at https://www.pinterest.com/catwelch

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose passion is empowering women and girls to BE and LET BE. Her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach, as well as her personal experiences with abandonment and grief make her message relatable to anyone dealing with rejection, betrayal or loss.

CoversSidebar280x150-1Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, will soon be available as an audiobook. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

7 Steps to Branding your Image like Mark Zuckerberg

Mark Zuckerberg has the twitter world in an uproar over his difficult decision of What2Wear. Tens of thousands of people are commenting on this internet entrepreneur’s approach to fashion. Some called him creepy, obnoxious, arrogant, weird…. some even question whether he might be a psychopath! All because he has branded his image with extreme simplicity.

Wearing the same attire daily is not an unusual thing, especially Continue reading 7 Steps to Branding your Image like Mark Zuckerberg

6 Steps to Creating your Personal Dress Code

children-602967_640Many moms have joined with Staples in celebrating this back-to-school-season as “the most wonderful time of the year.” 

Especially, the moms of students with dress codes. It may have been a challenge to hunt down the khakis or figure out sizes after a summer of growth, but  it’s all worth it once the morning routine starts and the  wardrobe choices are extremely simplified.

My kids have always had a dress code for school and of course they would tell you they did not like it, but honestly I think each of them appreciated that they didn’t have to struggle with options early in the morning. It’s natural for kids to complain that they can’t wear what they want, but when they arrived at school they can be sure that they will fit in with all their peers and their common frustration creates a bond between them. After awhile most them realize it is more fun to dress up occasionally than to have the pressure of creating an impressive outfit every day.

As a mom, I honestly think that dress code is brilliant. Part of the brilliance of keeping a “code” is that you can mix and match various pieces and come up with multiple outfits because they are all designed to go together. This is also why following your Img.ID guidelines is so affective; it is like following your own personal dress code.

  • CB vase Transparent-Bgrnd_Bouquet copyIf you are a Classic, then your code is “professional.”
  • If you are a Natural, then your code is “casual.”
  • If you are a Dramatic, then your code is “fashionable.”
  • If you are an Ingénue, then your code is “youthful.”
  • If you are a Romantic, then your code is “feminine.”
  • If you are a Gamine, then your code is “spunky.”

Your code makes shopping simple.  If each item in your closet “speaks” your code, then they will compliment and complete each other. Whereas if you have a closet full of a variety of styles, you may find yourself often frazzled as you try to put pieces together.  This is also why combination Img.IDs take a little more effort in creating a wardrobe that speaks your authentic style. For example, a professional top doesn’t easily compliment a youthful skirt, if you are a Classic/Ingenue you may want some coaching. For more on this, see my blogs on branding.

One important factor to any dress code is color. We all know that some color combinations fight with one another and should “never” be worn together. (Yet for a Gamine with a combination Img.ID this may be a great choice! But that’s a blog for another day.) This is why all school dress codes are simple colors.

As a color analysis, I think most schools should make some changes. Navy and Burgundy are strong and empowering colors, but they drain the color out of the face of anyone except the Winters. Unfortunately, I have no authority in the schools to make the suggestion of having four undertones of the colors they choose, but as an image coach I can assist you in making correct color choices for your own personal dress code. If every item in your wardrobe compliments the chemical make up of your natural coloring they will not only help you always look your best, but they will compliment each other making your choices each morning much more simplified.

It’s not just the school kids that like to express their individuality; we all do. The problem is, color has such a deep tie into our emotions that we often choose the colors we wear by the mood we are in. The good news is, though, that if we choose colors that compliment our hair and skin tones they will not only empower our mood, but they will influence the mood of those we are talking with.

So, how do you simplify you or your student’s wardrobe if there is no dress code? Create one. Here’s how:

  • First, learn your personal Img.ID (including your seasonal palette of colors).
  • Second, shop in stores that follow your code (above).
  • Third, pull out only items that are your size and are within your seasonal palette.
  • Fourth, assess that item: does it “say” your code?
  • Fifth, try on only–and (be brave!) ALL–items that meet these criteria.
  • Sixth, purchase completed outfits. If you find an item you love but cannot complete it, keep shopping until you do–even if that means bringing that item with you when you shop the next time. Keep it in the bag with the tags on and hold onto that receipt because if you cannot complete it, you will not wear it and should not waist it. (That’s the Natural side of me advising the practical.)

 

For more information on my image assessment workshops, parties or retreats, please visit http://catrinawelch.com/image-coaching/