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Deadheading your Closet

By definition, anything natural is normal or ordinary and not made by humans. This defines the Casual Beauty very well, as this girl is most attractive when she keeps her image simple. Many of these girls consider themselves ordinary and boring, but others enjoy their unpretentious, uncomplicated understated authenticity.

Naturals appreciate beauty, but seldom get hung up on attaining it. In fact, most Image Issues roll off her back. Of course she would love to look beautiful, but she doesn’t love to dress up or wear makeup. Whenever she breaks her motto (Which is “less is more”), she feels–and looks–awkward and phony, so she often gives up on trying. She is strong enough in personality to let the social pressures of fashion roll off her back, but she is human and she, too longs to ” fit in” Yet  she’s not fancy and she never will be.

But she is beautiful.

Naturally.

When this girl learns how to accentuate her beauty without overstating it, she is one of the most attractive women at the gala because she is real and relatable. Authenticity is inspiring and that is what is beautiful and captivating.  Continue reading Deadheading your Closet

4 Criteria for Keeping your Clothes

“I’ve got nothing to wear!” his wife whined while she starred down the full racks of clothes in her closet. “Where what you have on… or one of the many you just tried on that are laying on that chair.”

Is there a woman in this world who has not faced this dilemma?

We may have a closet full of great clothes, but if they don’t work together or fit well, then we still have “nothing to wear.” I suppose it’s not as big of a problem for men because their bodies (and their fashions!) don’t change as quickly as our’s do. Perhaps that’s why they just don’t get it.

They have a valid point, though, when they question us on why we hold onto things we cannot wear.

I have helped a lot of women de-clutter their closet. It’s what I do.

Once you know your personal image identity, you want to rid your closet of any style that doesn’t compliment your authentic beauty. If you are a Bold Beauty and you wear lace, for example, you will not only feel awkward and frustrated, others will hesitate to trust you because the gentle impression that lace gives competes with your strong personality. This is the very reason you may put on a beautiful outfit that you love on the hanger (and your husband thinks “it’s fine, just wear that”) yet you cannot bring yourself to wear it out the door.

But why do you hang it back up in the closet? This is the question that we attempted to unravel in my last blog. Today I want to share with you the greatest trick I have learned in helping women let go of that which they don’t want to get rid of.

FullSizeRender 22I have never once completely succeeded at weeding another woman’s closet. Every single client I have ever had has had trouble letting go of at least one item that was not a good fit for her. She doesn’t want to throw away the item because it still has worth in her eyes. She doesn’t want to give away the item because it has an emotional attachment.  She doesn’t want to store away the item because she thinks her body will change again and doesn’t want to forget about it when she regains her figure.

I tend to be non-confrontational. I quince when I watch how Stacy London and Clinton Kelly handle this in What Not to Wear. I know what it’s like to be on a tight budget and I don’t offer the credit card to go shopping with when I do a Wardrobe Weeding, so I have had to come up with another method of helping women transform their image by creating a Confident Closet.

As promised (to introduce my new blog day) I am going to share this tip with you. Drum roll please…

WEAR IT

Yup. If you are having trouble getting rid of something in your closet for any reason, simply wear it for a day. This works for a number of reasons:

  1. It has to fit. If you cannot put it on and feel good about how it covers your body and you refuse to put it the Give Away, Throw Away or Store Away piles (which we do during a weeding) then hang it up in an annoying spot until you can–or until you are ready to pick your pile.
  2. It has to be in good repair. If it puckers or pulls; is ripped, stained or missing buttons; if it rides, falls or splits in anyway that will make you feel self-conscious, then leave it out until you can fix it. Do not put it away until you do, and once it is in good condition, wear it. If you feel confident, keep it. If not, pick your pile.
  3. You have to complete the outfit. If you do not have anything to go with it, put it out somewhere annoying and do not put it back until you either find something to go with it, or you decide it’s time to let it go.
  4. You have to feel confident. If this item you love meets all the requirements above, then leave it in your closet, but wear it on the first opportunity you get. Make a commitment to yourself to decide by the end of the day if you are keeping that item or not.

These are the questions you should ask yourself throughout the day:

Am I comfortable? Or am I fidgeting with the fit? 
When I catch a glimpse of myself do I pull my shoulders back or drop them? 
How is my energy level? Do I feel empowered and aware of those around me or do I feel awkward and self-conscious?
Is this “me” or do I feel like my mother?

What you wear is an explanation of who you are. It’s your brand. Even if you do not know your Img.ID, try this trick with each item in your closet. Systematically go through your entire wardrobe. With each outfit you wear, ask yourself the questions above. At the end of the day, divide your laundry into four piles: Throw Away, Give Away, Store Away and Put Away. Before you know it, your closet may be scares, but everything in it will be a good option and your husband will no longer laugh at you for having “nothing to wear.”

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose passion is empowering women and girls to BE and LET BE. Her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach, as well as her personal experiences with abandonment and grief make her message relatable to anyone dealing with rejection, betrayal or loss.

CoversSidebar280x150-1Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, will soon be available as an audiobook. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

Is your Clothes Closet like your Kitchen?

It’s part of every woman’s innate nature to desire beauty. Creating beauty, on the other hand, is not necessarily every woman’s forte.

Every woman likes eating, too, but not all of us like to cook!

Personally, I could go either way on when it comes to cooking. I like creating a meal for my family to enjoy, as long as I’m not too hungry to think and I have all the ingredients on hand to cook with. I love to go out to eat, too. It’s wonderful to have someone else create a scrumptious meal and place it right in front of me all prepared. At a restaurant they even do the clean up!

Creating an outfit is a lot like cooking. Just as Continue reading Is your Clothes Closet like your Kitchen?

7 Steps to Branding your Image like Mark Zuckerberg

Mark Zuckerberg has the twitter world in an uproar over his difficult decision of What2Wear. Tens of thousands of people are commenting on this internet entrepreneur’s approach to fashion. Some called him creepy, obnoxious, arrogant, weird…. some even question whether he might be a psychopath! All because he has branded his image with extreme simplicity.

Wearing the same attire daily is not an unusual thing, especially Continue reading 7 Steps to Branding your Image like Mark Zuckerberg

Never Shop for Clothes Naked or Needy

5 Steps to Prevent Impulsive Shopping

It is never wise to grocery shop when you are hungry because your cravings can get the best of your budget. Your family may love all the junk food you bring home but, after the sugar high drops, they’ll be disappointed when you cannot put together a complete meal for them.

A desperate trip to the mall can produce the same disastrous results. 

You have a soon-coming wedding or special event and need a great outfit. Your closet is full of items that are tattered and worn so you find a moment to stop and shop, but money is as tight at time is, so you head straight to the clearance rack. From the wide variety of last season’s leftovers you may find a great deal but the real question is: Continue reading Never Shop for Clothes Naked or Needy

6 Steps to Creating your Personal Dress Code

children-602967_640Many moms have joined with Staples in celebrating this back-to-school-season as “the most wonderful time of the year.” 

Especially, the moms of students with dress codes. It may have been a challenge to hunt down the khakis or figure out sizes after a summer of growth, but  it’s all worth it once the morning routine starts and the  wardrobe choices are extremely simplified.

My kids have always had a dress code for school and of course they would tell you they did not like it, but honestly I think each of them appreciated that they didn’t have to struggle with options early in the morning. It’s natural for kids to complain that they can’t wear what they want, but when they arrived at school they can be sure that they will fit in with all their peers and their common frustration creates a bond between them. After awhile most them realize it is more fun to dress up occasionally than to have the pressure of creating an impressive outfit every day.

As a mom, I honestly think that dress code is brilliant. Part of the brilliance of keeping a “code” is that you can mix and match various pieces and come up with multiple outfits because they are all designed to go together. This is also why following your Img.ID guidelines is so affective; it is like following your own personal dress code.

  • CB vase Transparent-Bgrnd_Bouquet copyIf you are a Classic, then your code is “professional.”
  • If you are a Natural, then your code is “casual.”
  • If you are a Dramatic, then your code is “fashionable.”
  • If you are an Ingénue, then your code is “youthful.”
  • If you are a Romantic, then your code is “feminine.”
  • If you are a Gamine, then your code is “spunky.”

Your code makes shopping simple.  If each item in your closet “speaks” your code, then they will compliment and complete each other. Whereas if you have a closet full of a variety of styles, you may find yourself often frazzled as you try to put pieces together.  This is also why combination Img.IDs take a little more effort in creating a wardrobe that speaks your authentic style. For example, a professional top doesn’t easily compliment a youthful skirt, if you are a Classic/Ingenue you may want some coaching. For more on this, see my blogs on branding.

One important factor to any dress code is color. We all know that some color combinations fight with one another and should “never” be worn together. (Yet for a Gamine with a combination Img.ID this may be a great choice! But that’s a blog for another day.) This is why all school dress codes are simple colors.

As a color analysis, I think most schools should make some changes. Navy and Burgundy are strong and empowering colors, but they drain the color out of the face of anyone except the Winters. Unfortunately, I have no authority in the schools to make the suggestion of having four undertones of the colors they choose, but as an image coach I can assist you in making correct color choices for your own personal dress code. If every item in your wardrobe compliments the chemical make up of your natural coloring they will not only help you always look your best, but they will compliment each other making your choices each morning much more simplified.

It’s not just the school kids that like to express their individuality; we all do. The problem is, color has such a deep tie into our emotions that we often choose the colors we wear by the mood we are in. The good news is, though, that if we choose colors that compliment our hair and skin tones they will not only empower our mood, but they will influence the mood of those we are talking with.

So, how do you simplify you or your student’s wardrobe if there is no dress code? Create one. Here’s how:

  • First, learn your personal Img.ID (including your seasonal palette of colors).
  • Second, shop in stores that follow your code (above).
  • Third, pull out only items that are your size and are within your seasonal palette.
  • Fourth, assess that item: does it “say” your code?
  • Fifth, try on only–and (be brave!) ALL–items that meet these criteria.
  • Sixth, purchase completed outfits. If you find an item you love but cannot complete it, keep shopping until you do–even if that means bringing that item with you when you shop the next time. Keep it in the bag with the tags on and hold onto that receipt because if you cannot complete it, you will not wear it and should not waist it. (That’s the Natural side of me advising the practical.)

 

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7 tips for Finding a Great Outfit Quick

shopping-311924_640 (1)Most women make shopping an experience. We enjoy going with our girlfriends and try on lots of potential pieces for our wardrobe. Even if we have no need for clothes. The dressing room halls become our runway as we model for each other’s opinions before we make our decision: to spend or not to spend–this is the question. Whether we walk away with the accomplishment of Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman or we leave the store empty handed, every true “shopping experience” includes a Starbucks, Red Robbin or something of the like to celebrate the victories or console the defeats.

Men shop like they hunt.

Men, on the other hand, go shopping with one mission on their mind: bag it and drag it home. No party, no opinions, no turmoil over the price tag.

No fun. Continue reading 7 tips for Finding a Great Outfit Quick

3 Significant Signs of Baby Jesus’ Wardrobe

manger sceneWhat was all the fuss about Jesus’ attire the night He was born? Doesn’t every baby wear swaddling cloths at birth?

Surely when the angels proclaimed that the shepherds would, “recognize him by this sign: You will find a baby wrapped snugly in strips of cloth, lying in a manger.” (Luke 2:12) it was the manger-sign that was so unusual, right? I mean, really, shepherds who “keep watch at night” saw babies born in stables all the time–but not human babies! I imagine these rough, outdoorsmen were amazed at this Christ child’s birth; after all, when there’s an emergency birth in an unusual place today it makes headline news! Why wouldn’t the Bethlehem shepherds leave that stable and share the “glad tidings” over the hills and everywhere?

Luke 2: 17-20  Now when they had seen Him, they made widely known the saying which was told them concerning this Child. And all those who heard it marveled at those things which were told them by the shepherds. But Mary kept all these things and pondered them in her heart. Then the shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things that they had heard and seen, as it was told them.

But what about the other sign? Was the newborn’s wardrobe really that big of a deal? I think so! Yea, wrapping a newborn baby snugly is proper What2Wear fashion, but if we look at theses strips of cloth through the eyes of the shepherds, we see three significant reasons why what Jesus wore was a sign of who He was:

  1. These “strips of cloth” were saturated in oil and burned for light.
  2. Jewish travelers wore these cloths around their waist when traveling in case they were to die along the way; they were used to wrap the body for burial. (Perhaps it was Joseph’s waist band that Jesus was wrapped in?)
  3. Shepherds would wrap newborn lambs in these strips of cloth IF they were the firstborn male and had no spot or blemish. Other lambs were put out to pasture right away, but these special lambs were set apart to be kept pure and secure because they would be sacrificed as an atonement for the sins of God’s people.

Yes, Jesus’ wardrobe was very significant. I’m sure Mary would have preferred to swaddle her baby in a beautiful soft blanket and lay Him in a crib, but sometimes we need to trust that God is doing something more significant than we can understand at the moment. The shepherds understood the signs, and all those who heard about it marveled, but Mary–whether she understood the signs or not–pondered them in her heart.

If your life is feeling chaotic and confusing this Christmas, I encourage you to do like the virgin mother, and simply take it all in with great expectation. Your circumstances may not make sense right now, but one day they will and then you, too, will marvel at how God was actually keeping His promises!

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

Can You Inherit Confidence?

I had just begun my journey as a single mom when my grandmother died. I’d been working hard to build a business to support myself and my son and felt like I was getting no where. Winter was coming and I had two new bodies to clothe–my newborn and my new figure. That was long before I became an image consultant, but it was when my mom taught me one of the most important rules of image.

“You need a good, quality overcoat.” She said as she took me shopping with her inheritance money. I know Gram didn’t leave much but my mom was spending what she had on me and I felt so loved. Together we picked out my “statement piece” that would cover my misfit outfits and help me look professional.  Mom taught me that “first impressions are lasting impressions” and she was right. It didn’t matter how much I hated the outfit underneath, my new overcoat made me feel confident enough to keep meeting new people when I was in such a difficult season of feeling ugly and unwanted. It wasn’t just the quality and fit of my coat that gave me confidence, it was the emotions attached to it. Mom–and Gram–had wrapped me in love.

The coat didn’t fit me long because I lost the baby weight, and with the turmoil of my divorce I went from a size 12 to a size 4, so the next winter the coat that once brought me confidence instead made me feel dumpy because it hung loosely. For awhile I would still wear it because I cherished my mother’s gift and I didn’t want to seem ungrateful by replacing it.

Clothing often has an emotional attachment, but emotions change and so should our wardrobe. Perhaps you have some items in your closet with an emotional attachment like my beautiful coat. If the thing that once made you feel good inside now makes you feel guilty for not wearing it, don’t leave it hanging there bringing you shame for years like I did. Instead, give it away! I know that sharing my blessing with a new friend who was also in need of a coat of confidence, was a truly satisfying feeling. My grandmother’s inheritance went a lot further than I bet she ever dreamed it would have.

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com