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Shop Like a Man: Guilt-Free

Sales-tax-holiday-shopping-600x401I did it again!

I forgot to buy cereal, yet there I was trying to make the room for all the other groceries I didn’t need. I suppose I could get up early and make my kids eggs in the morning since now I have over two dozen!

Anyone with any knowledge of budgeting knows that shopping while your hungry is foolish–especially if you are hypoglycemic and get really confused when your blood sugars are low. Well, obviously I missed the Finance 101 course, because once again I have plenty of food but I’m not sure I can put together enough meals for the week because I let my cravings direct my purchases instead of my menu.

Some women shop for clothes while “hungry,” which will also blow the budget.

Can you relate? Have you ever Continue reading Shop Like a Man: Guilt-Free

Discover Personal Branding–Like Susan Boyle

susan boyleMore than 4,500 athletes, the Queen of England and 40,000 fans will all gather for tonight’s opening ceremony of the 20th Commonwealth Games in Glasgow city’s Celtic Park where Britain’s Got Talent‘s Susan Boyle will be one of the performers.

Remember when Susan’s audition shocked the world in 2009? As of today 154,079,130 people have viewed the youtube video of her amazing performance. I’ve personally watched it a number of times. In fact, I often use the video to illustrate the powerful affect of first impressions and the importance of branding your personal image. Susan had a dream to become known like Elaine Paige; now her fame exceeds her greatest expectations. When she walked onto that first stage the audience rolled their eyes and laughed at her; no one expected her to sing well at all. Now we all anticipate her performance with high expectations.

After her angelic voice was discovered, many image consultants wanted to give Susan a makeover. Why? Because her appearance did not represent her well, period. It was not that the girl was a mess–well, her hair and eyebrows needed some professional attention–but she was presentable. She was dressed up–high heals and everything. The problem was that she was out of character; she presented herself as a Romantic/Classic below the neck, and a Natural from the necklace up. Yet she is a Gamine. If this is confusing to you, it should be. I’ll put it another way: Susan’s branding was confused. She came across as a carefree, casual woman who was dressed like a sweet and sensitive, yet prim and proper beauty who spoke (and swung her hips) with boldness and courage (like a Gamine). No wonder no one had any confidence in her–she came across as a foolish phony simply because her image gave a mixed message.

No, we shouldn’t judge a book by it’s cover.

But we do.

Right or wrong, quick judgment is a fact of life and if we want to make a good first impression we should stop trying to insist it shouldn’t happen. When you Know Who You Are, it’s easy to make sure the image you portray represents you well. Following the guidelines for your personal Img.ID is a vital part of personal branding and giving others confidence in you.

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

 

What is Your Purchasing Theme?

shoesI love dark chocolate. If my secret stock of it ever starts getting scarce, I hit the market–immediately, before I run out and have a crisis. The funny thing is, I never lack chocolate because I buy it all the time and seldom allow myself the indulgence of eating it.

You may roll your eyes at my “skinny-girl-problem” and accuse me of having an eating disorder, but I can tell you that I am not alone. Most women have something that they feel they must have but don’t allow themselves to enjoy (or at least really wish they could have but don’t allow themselves to buy). In fact, I see evidence of this issue all the time when I enter a client’s wardrobe.

Every closet has a theme, which is a good indicator of which style of beauty that person is. It could be:

      • High quality clothing (Classics)
      • Comfortable clothing (Naturals)
      • Accessories (Dramatics)
      • Uncertainty / many themes (Ingénues)
      • Shoes (Romantics)
      • Black/ lack of color (Gamines)

I cannot tell you how many conversations I have had with women who have been excited by the idea that perhaps their purchasing theme represents their personal style (or Img.ID) and have been liberated by allowing themselves to BE who they desire to be and wear what they are attracted to.

It’s happened to me, too. I had plenty of accessories but seldom pulled them out because I felt that wearing them was showy or phony. Once I learned my Img.ID I felt like I had permission to BE myself, and wearing all the belts and bling that made me look and feel more authentic. Kind of ironic, don’t you think?

Perhaps there is something you are drawn to but don’t feel free to enjoy. Is there a certain theme in your closet? If you can relate to this, I’d love to hear from you. I want to encourage you to try wearing those [shoes] you loved in the store; who needs a special occasion? Make tomorrow special–and then go eat some chocolate!

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

When Weight Conflicts with Confidence

Confident Beauty doesn't fluctuate like weight does!

One of the leading causes for a chaotic closet is weight fluctuation. Who wants to wear clothing that does not fit correctly? Pulled and puckered fabric draws attention to bulges; loose and hanging clothing gives an impression of insecurity and inadequacy. Either problem creates a self-consciousness that can easily be prevented with properly sized garments.

I know what it’s like to hold onto clothes that you want to fit again, but I’ve found that when I finally return to the correct weight for that item, my subconscious mind still feels awkward or uncomfortable in it and I am better off just giving it away. Holding onto things that no longer fit hinders us from having a confident closet. My advice is not to keep your un-fit clothes in expectation of weight gain/loss because they tend to create chaos in your closet (or at least in your mind) when you are look for something to wear. Leave the past behind. Most weight change represents a life change, so even if you return to that weight you most likely will not want to return to that wardrobe. Allow this change in your life to bring forth a new beauty. Like a butterfly.

It is not always weight change that creates the chaos. Sometimes it is simply the poor choices we make when shopping because we don’t want to search the racks with the correct numbers on them. Don’t let a number keep you from finding clothing that fits you well. Once you are done shopping, who really sees the tag anyway? Being true to yourself means being true to your size. Cut it off after you purchase it if that helps. Just BE and LET BE. Here is the shopping advice I give my clients:

  • Choose a clothing store that carries your style.
  • Look within the size above and below what you think you are.
  • Pull out only clothing within your seasonal palette of colors.
  • Check over the lines, textures, patterns and pockets for traits that will flatter your figure.
  • Try on only items that meet the above criteria.
  • Buy only items that fit properly and make you feel comfortable and authentic while wearing them.
  • Keep them only as long as they continue to give you confidence.

This is the secret to having Confident Beauty, which doesn’t fluctuate like our weight does! 

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

Building a Confident Closet

shopping closetBy now, all that is left in your closet is clothing that fits, flatters and makes you feel confident. Congratulations! Now it’s time to create beautiful and complete outfits that represent you well.

As Americans we tend to think we need a lot more than we do–especially when it comes to clothing. In reality, a thinner wardrobe not only allows for a thicker wallet, it also relieves a lot of stress when it comes to deciding what to wear.

During your Closet Audit you decided how many outfits you need for a typical week. No matter how many casual, dressy or date-night outfits you decided is appropriate for your lifestyle and budget, that number should be your goal for building a confident closet.

Start creating your first outfit by taking a favorite base item (slacks, shorts or skirt) and trying it on with every top that could possibly go with it. Keep your mind open to combinations you have never worn. If they work well together, write down the combination. (I made a worksheet for you to make this simple, you can find it on my website.) Before you try on another top to go with that base, find accessories, footwear and even under and outer garments that are needed to make that outfit complete. Jot down all items in your worksheet.

Next, take a full picture of yourself in a mirror. These “selfies” will come in handy on days you cannot think of what to wear; they are also great for matching colors, etc. once you start shopping, so take pictures of incomplete outfits, too! Be sure to write a shopping list of anything (belt, tank top, seamless panties, etc.) you need for each outfit.

After you have exhausted all options for the first base item, move on to the next and repeat the same process. Include tops that worked with the first base, but be sure to consider that an extra outfit or it may be in the wash when you need it. After you have gone through all your garments, take your shopping list and your selfies to your favorite stores and begin your shopping spree–guilt-free because you have a plan to build a confident closet!

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

How to do a Wardrobe Weeding

Of all the outfits you wore last week, which one made you feel most confident and why? 

wardrobe weedingIf you followed my closet audit advice and picked out your favorite clothing items, did you notice any common traits between them? The color, pattern, fabric–what makes you feel good in what you wear? Is it the high-fashion statement pieces? Or do the comfortable jeans and simple tank tops give you the freedom to BE and LET BE? Do you tend to wear the same old tried and true outfits because you know how to accessorize them? Or did you struggle to complete an outfit at all?

Wherever your answers, I am excited to guide you in building a confident closet! I hope you used a pencil when filling in your worksheet last week, because now I am going to suggest that you erase any pieces of clothing in your chart that did not fit, flatter or make you feel confident.

And then remove them from your home.

This week’s goal is to weed out anything you wear that causes any kind of confidence conflict–slacks that ride up, blouses that slide down, sweatshirts that make you feel frumpy, T-shirts that make you grumpy. Anything that brings back bad memories or insecurities needs to go. Don’t start another day dressed to be stressed!

First, remove anything that could obstruct you from weeding out your wardrobe. An ironing board that blocks the door? Find another place for it. Laundry piled up again? Put it in the wash.

While the machine is washing, go through one drawer at a time and get rid of irrational or undesirable clothing that you dread wearing. One sox discolored? Get rid of them both! Why let such a simple thing hinder you from making choices in the morning. Weed out your hanging clothes, your shoes and accessories in the same way. Put any item that drains your energy or makes you feel uncomfortable or self-conscious  into one of three piles: give away, throw away or lay away (see this week’s worksheet for more details). Then go finish that laundry, pull out items that you didn’t feel confident wearing and hang up what is left on all those empty hangers. Don’t worry, we will rebuild your closet next week, but for now enjoy the simplicity of knowing that sometimes less is more.

To get my fun (& FREE) Wardrobe Rehab worksheets, visit my website and join my mailing list. 

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

 

 Worried about What to Wear?

Don't worry, be confidentPeople change. We change our size, weight, careers and opinions all the time. Why, then, is it so difficult to change our wardrobe? We don’t mind adding to  what we have but we are not nearly as eager to get rid of anything extra. We complain that we do not have all that we need but seldom do we recognize when we have too much.

Perhaps it’s our longing for more that gives us the lack of contentment. I’m all for shopping for new outfits, but we need to be careful not to let it make us stressed-out. Like grocery shopping while hungry and without a list, clothing shopping without a plan can be dangerous. Men may shop like they are hunting, but we women shop emotionally; we can easily end up with chaotic and crowded closets (or cupboards) full of items that are un-functional and incomplete.

It happens. A lot.

And then when it’s time for a wardrobe weeding, we would rather have teeth pulled! Why? Because we have grown attached to our clothing–even the poor choices. Think about it. Why don’t you like to get rid of your extras?

  • You haven’t worn it yet.
  • You plan to loose/gain weight and wear it again.
  • You have really good memories attached to it.
  • You love it and plan to find something that will go with it one day.
  • You intend to alter it.
  • You insist you will wear it when you finally find time to iron/sew it.

Really, it all comes down to worry, don’t you think? We don’t want to let go because we worry we will:

  • waste our hard-earned money
  • give up on our plan
  • forget a certain time in our lives
  • never be able to replace the item
  • seem ungrateful or un-resourceful

Granted, there are times when busyness is really the problem, but even then it is, it’s usually worry that drove our lives out of balance.

If your closet is crowded and chaotic and you are ready to start weeding, I encourage you to let go of worry and trust God.

Matthew 6:27-34 NKJV
Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature? “So why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin; and yet I say to you that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. Now if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is, and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will He not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? “Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.”

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

How to Give Your Closet an Audit

simplifySix seconds. That’s how much time you have to make a first impression. It is important that your image represent you well. Now and then we each need to do a Wardrobe Rehab. The best way to start this process is to take an audit: Who are you? What do you wear? What you do have and need? Maybe you are a Casual Beauty living an Exotic life or perhaps your not working in a office any more but your closet still thinks you are. These are important factors to consider when assessing what to do with What’s in Your Closet. This first step in renovating your image is the most important. I want to encourage you to actually do it, so I have created a fun (& free!) worksheet to go along with this blog; click here to get it.

What kind of work do you do?

Your career choice is a great indication of which style (or Img.ID) you are because it represents your heart. Delicate Beauties don’t really enjoy office work like a Refined Beauty does. Glamorous Girls would be stressed out at any job a Gamine would choose. When you Know Who You Are, you know what you need.

What kind of coverage do you need?

What kind of formality is required of you at work? How many outfits do you need for workout, errand or at-home days? How often do you dress up and go out? Are accessories important to you and your look? (They are for some Img.IDs!) There is a wonderful freedom in knowing which part of fashion is the key to enhance your type of beauty. I have included the most import focus for each Img.ID in your worksheet.

What do you already have that works well for you?

Take this week to wear as many of your favorite items as you can. Take a picture of yourself in each completed outfit and use the chart in your worksheet to document what fits, flatters and makes you feel confident. Next week we will start weeding.

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker. As an image- and life-coach, her message is not simply What2Wear, it is also Know Who You Are. She uses her personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss and her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach to help empower women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

 

Preparing for your Closet Audit

judge judyIf you are a business owner, you know how vital an audit is to your success. It’s important to assess the finances, inventory and/or policies that a company holds in order to avoid tragic mistakes.  I help my husband with his company’s insurance audits twice a year; it used to scare me to death because I really had no idea what I was doing. I felt like all the intimidating questions were geared at judging my record keeping, I was doing Ronny’s books out of love and convenience–the only qualification I had was in my pay-grade! The interrogation made me feel like a fraud until I began really understanding his business and what I needed to do for him. Insurance audits are not accusations like tax audits can be. Instead they are about fine-tuning the coverage you have so that it represents you well.

Kind of like a wardrobe assessment or “closet audit.”

I’ve done a lot of image consultations over the years, but seldom do I get invited into a home to do a “wardrobe weeding” unless the client is truly in a total transition or already quite confident and aspiring for excellence. It seems to me that most women feel like I did in the early years with my auditors. Its hard to evaluate what you have until you are sure of who you are.

Right now I am preparing for our workman’s compensation audit. I’ve gone through my reports and made sure nothing is missing. I’m ready to face what used to feel like judgment with the confidence of knowing IT IS WHAT IT IS. If things need changing we will change them–I don’t take it personally anymore. I know it’s more about tweaking our business to keep up with all the changing insurance laws than it is about me. It’s a bit like keeping up with the changes in fashion.

If you are ready to tweak your image so that you are properly represented, be sure to follow this series of coming blogs. Wednesday I will guide you through a closet audit and helping you answer questions like my auditor asks me:

 What kind of work do you do? 

What kind of coverage do you need? 

To be well prepared, take these next few days to be sure your laundry is caught up so that your favorite items are available for assessment when we consider:

What do you already have that is working well for you? 

In later blogs we will go over wardrobe weeding:

Does anything need tweaking so that it can be used again this year? 

What do you want to get rid of?

And then building a confident closet:

What needs to be purchased?

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker. As an image- and life-coach, her message is not simply What2Wear, it is also Know Who You Are. She uses her personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss and her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach to help empower women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

What’s in Your Closet?

nothing to wearStatistics show that 80% of a woman’s wardrobe is either uncomfortable, torn, stained, outdated, or impractical for her every day lifestyle. If this is your reality, I bet you are like most of us who stand before our crowded closets and say, “I have nothing to wear!” Men might think we are crazy and ungrateful, but the reality is that we are overwhelmed with so many items that we do not like (but do not want to get rid of!) or love (but do not–or cannot–wear!) that we cannot even see the choices that are good for us, never mind put them together as a complete outfit.

What you wear represents who you are. If putting together an outfit has you starting your day stressed, then it’s time to make some changes so that your closet is filled only with items that fit, flatter and make you feel confident.

I’ve helped a lot of women make these changes. It’s never an easy process unless she is truly ready emotionally; but if she is ready, this simple process can be very empowering.

I was just recently in that dreadful place of needing a wardrobe rehab myself. My usual practice is to do a seasonal weeding. Hey, I’m no different than the majority of you–it’s hard for us women to take care of ourselves–I’d rather get by with what I have then spend time or money on myself any day. Luckily, I get the family rate, so this time I did a complete clean out and became my own client. Throughout the process, I argued with myself just like my clients do, “but I really like that…” But in the end, I had a uncluttered, organized and ENJOYABLE closet filled with choices of completed outfits (head to toe, inner and outer wear, accessories and all) and it feels so liberating. Now I’m just dying to share the experience with you! For the next three Wednesdays, my blogs will walk you through a Closet Audit, Wardrobe Weeding and Building a Confident Closet all for the same family rate I paid: “on the house.”

Until then, think about this: What’s in your closet?

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com