Most of us would far rather glean ideas for improving our image by watching someone else’s transformation than by being put in the vulnerable position of undergoing the complete change ourselves. Wouldn’t you agree?
I used to call my image assessment parties “Extreme MakeOvers” before I understood how much the name contradicted what I do. The various ABC reality shows that feature the total transformation of body or home were very popular at the time and I thought the name was fun, but I am no surgeon or diet coach and it’s my husband that’s the builder, not me. I now call these coaching experiences “Supreme MakeOvers” because, really, I just help women understand and accentuate the beauty that God, the Supreme Stylist, already gave them. A woman’s style takes time to develop and need not be an alteration of her true self.
Dealing with resistance to change is part of being in the beauty–or building–industry. A woman’s image and her home are each a huge part of her identity; renovations can feel a bit like rejection. I respect that. Completely changing a home is one thing, but altering the physical attributes that God so careful designed on His child is not something I would ever want to do. Don’t get me wrong, I am not against cosmetic surgery like epicantoplastia that frees a woman from true physical and emotional challenges. But I have seldom seen women set free from their self-consciousness after investing so much into changing their appearance; far more often I see them become even more concerned with how they look than they did before their procedure.
I believe that beauty, no matter how perfect, does not bring confidence without authenticity. Again, I am not saying that surgery or services make a woman fake–that is another twisted-truth. If total transformation were wrong, would God have created the butterfly? But fixing what is the mirror does not fix what is in the soul. If you long to improve your image, and are considering something extreme, I encourage you not to worry so much about the weight of your body, the size of your attributes or even what’s in style. Instead, focus on what is YOUR style, learn how to accentuate the beauty you have (and you do have beauty! If you want help finding it, contact me.) and BE who you were designed to be.
Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.
Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com