If you have ever taken a personality test, you know the value of understanding yourself and the people in your life on a deeper level. Getting along with other people can be difficult, especially when their perspective on the world is so different than yours. Relationship-oriented people can frustrate task-oriented people with their lack of respect for the details, and those who focus on the relationships can be overwhelmed, or even offended, by the pressures of those who care so much about the things that seem trivial to them.
We have more tolerance for others once we see a glimpse into their heart.
My second child was three months old before I finally realized that he didn’t want to be rocked to sleep like my first boy did. One day I let the frustration of his overtired fussiness get to me. In my exasperation, I decided to just lay him in his crib so I could calm myself down. To my amazement the child stopped fussing and immediately fell asleep. Suddenly I saw his heart. From then on, I simply prepared him for bed and tucked him in. Wow, was my life easier!
Rejection is less painful when we recognize that there are different perspectives.
Sometimes we take other people’s personal preference as an insult. Part of my frustration with my baby’s fussiness was his lack of desire to cuddle with his mommy at nap time. Until I understood that he simply preferred to be left alone, I was interpreting his desire as a personal rejection.
When someone has a different outlook than ours, they may very well disapprove of our choices, but they are not necessarily out to get us. I doubt my baby was trying to hurt my feelings. Understanding that others see the world differently has a way of putting their opinion into proper perspective.
Your personal Image Identity (Img.ID) is stemmed from your clothing personality. Just as a job “suits” you well because it “fits” with your personality (when you are task-oriented you do well with office jobs that deal with administration or accounting; when you are relationship-oriented you do well in service jobs that deal directly with people) so do certain clothing styles “suit” you well because they compliment your personality.
If you are a Classic, you are a woman of prestige, clothing that is professional and classy will suit you well.
If you are a Natural, you are a woman of simplicity, clothing that is casual and comfortable will suit you well.
If you are a Dramatic, you are a woman of excellence, clothing that is detailed and fashionable will suit you well.
If you are an Ingénue, you a woman of elegance, clothing that is fine and delicate will suit you well.
If you are a Romantic, you are a woman of compassion, clothing that is soft and glamorous will suit you well.
If you are a Gamine, you are a woman of power, clothing that is strong in coloring and cut will suit you well.
If you find yourself frustrated trying to compete–or comply–with someone else’s style, I encourage you to first clarify your own perspective by having an image assessment done and learning your Img.ID, then take a glimpse into the heart of the women around you and realize that they may have a completely different perspective; and that’s ok. BE and LET BE.
Catrina Welch in an Inspirational Author, Speaker, Image- and Life-Coach. Her passion is to help women and girls discover Confident Beauty, which doesn’t wear off like makeup does! Her latest book, Confident Beauty, Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul is now available as an audiobook.
GREAT OPPORTUNITY FOR WOMEN ON CAPE COD:
Catrina will be hosting a Branding your Image Supreme MakeOver on TOMORROW Saturday, May 14th from 9-11am This is a great opportunity to get an image assessment done for the cost of one item of clothing in excellent condition. To learn more and to save your seat, please click here or contact Catrina today.