A woman’s home is a big indication of her heart.
My husband’s company just finished a small development of quaint, custom homes in the same village where he has been building elaborate masterpieces for many years. This was our first time doing a whole neighborhood and I found the social dynamics very interesting. Because a woman’s home is a significant part of her identity, I feel it an appropriate topic for a blog on Confident Beauty.
You were custom built.
Some developments are cookie-cutter; each house is the same style. In our development there are six different styles. Because there are only eleven homes and the styles which are duplicated are either mirrored, turned or altered in some way, none of them look alike. Whether the house was purchased before, during or after completion, each home has details that are crafted specifically for the homeowner, increasing the variety even more.
There are only six different styles of feminine beauty and yet no two women are alike. You may be a short, full-figured, curly-hair blonde with a round face, blue eyes and a button nose, but that doesn’t mean you look anything like another woman of the same description. This is because we are each custom made.
You are unique.
While you may have the same image identity (Img.ID) as many other women, you may not look or act anything like them. While women of each style do tend to have a lot of similarities, it’s undeniable that even identical twins are each unique individuals.
I doubt that the homeowners in our development know the name of the style of the house they live in or what their neighbors style is, but as the builder’s wife (and bookkeeper) I have heard them comparing their homes to each other’s. “That house has a _____ why doesn’t mine?” At first I found this question odd. We hadn’t had these kinds of questions before because all our previous homes were built specifically for one individual family at a time. If we we built two homes side by side it was simply by coincidence.
Don’t compare yourself to others.
Why does it really matter what your neighbor has? Your house is built for you and their’s for them. You can admire what they have, but be careful not to covet. If you have a farmer’s porch, but wish your front entrance was sunny like your friends, then you must realize you have to give up the covered deck. If you covet your friend’s curves, you must realize that you may have to gain some weight.
Most women don’t know their own personal Img.ID, let alone the style of their friends, yet they compare themselves to each other as if their builder made a mistake. If my husband put all the best attributes of each style in one house, there would be problems. An open floor plan does not allow for small, sectioned rooms, you must decide which you want. Your creator knew what He was doing when He chose each attribute that He gave you.
You may have no idea which Img.ID you are, but I assure you that God does and He didn’t mess up. If you are dwelling on things you long to change about your body, I encourage you to stop it. You are insulting the fine craftsmanship of the One who carefully stitched you together in your mother’s womb. If you want to admire what your friends or sisters have, go right ahead, they are also fearfully and wonderfully made. They, too should be admired. In fact, why not tell them how beautiful they are! But their body was not custom made for you. Your body was. Perhaps it’s time to just take a breath, relax and enjoy all that you have because you, too, are absolutely beautiful!
As an author and speaker, Catrina’s passion is in helping women and girls overcome confidence conflicts, especially those involving rejection, betrayal and loss. After 30 years in the beauty industry as both a cosmetologist and an image consultant, Catrina now uses her profession, her own powerful stories and her training as a Biblical life-coach to reach the heart in a way that is relatable, encouraging and inspiring. Her message is balanced with both fashion and faith and is making a difference in the lives of women and girls all over! To be part of this movement, connect with her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Linked In, Goodreads and consider having her speak at your next event. Visit https://catrinawelch.com for more information.