Confidently Focused

imagesIt’s been about a month since I started wearing bifocals. I still can’t get used to them! The term “dizzy blonde” is taking on a whole new meaning for me. If you wear them I’m sure you understand. It’s a bit like being on a cruise ship: the world moves differently leaving you a bit woozy with the turn of your head.
The thing I’m really struggling with is my focus as I try to find the correct area of the lens to see near or far. Maybe my issue is more than the glasses-after all, focus has been an issue all my life. It’s not that I forget or can’t finish what I’m doing, it’s just that doing only one thing at a time does not satisfy my diverse nature. I like multitasking. They say it’s a girl thing, but my husband insists that men are good at it, too and I cannot argue with him. He’s a contractor so multitasking is what he does as he organizes all the details of building many homes at once and he does it well. I, on the other hand, am not so good at focusing on many things at once. I love it, it makes me feel productive, but I’m not so sure I am because I stress myself out.
Take Spider Solitaire for example. Ronny and I both love the game. I beat him nearly every time; but I’m not so sure I win. Here’s the thing: I am faster, but he is stronger because when I am done I’m anxious to play again and do better; he is content. I might complete the card stacks in less moves than him, but he is far more peaceful about it as he careful calculates the sequence of options he has. The game is a lot like life: there’s a lot of stacks to organize, but in the end-speedy of studious-you either complete the task or you don’t. The score really only matters if you’re trying to prove yourself.
When we are truly confident we don’t need to prove ourselves to anyone.
Maybe my struggle to focus is actually a lack of confidence and what I really need is peace and patience to take on one thing at a time. I don’t know, but I do know that my husband just started wearing bifocals too, and he seems to be adapting to them just fine.


Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Loosing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available in book stores this spring. All of these books are available now at

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