Passionately Private

The woman with a Dramatic Img.ID tends to have a majestic personality that attracts others, but it is hard for them to get to know her on an intimate level since she is so private. It takes a determined and confident person to pursue a healthy and lasting relationship with her unless she comes to understand that her independent nature makes others feel inadequate and she decides to consciously make herself available to them emotionally. Unfortunately, this girl is often the lonely one in a crowd. She has plenty of popularity, but few true friends. She longs to have intimate relationships to live her life with, but her impatience usually keeps her from taking the time to understand herself or others.

alone-in-a-crowd-girlDramatics love fashion and makeup and they tend to have a gift for doing creative things with excellence. Doing a makeover each morning is not a chore to these girls, it’s something they enjoy doing, and they like to look beautiful. They have an eye for detail, so they tend to do the extras like eye shadow and liner and all the accessories. They also like their house and children to look beautiful, which sometimes comes across to others as controlling or obsessively concerned with other people’s opinions, but that is not necessarily the case.

Dramatics don’t bare their soul very easily; perhaps that is why they can be so misunderstood. Sometimes they are assumed to have it all together or to be full of wisdom, simply because they are spare with words. Other times they are misunderstood to be disapproving or snobbish, because though they may not be using their voice, their body language is very strong.

When these women do speak up they do it with such passion and drama that others listen intently (unless, of course, they go on and on, which is a way they sometimes hide from intimacy), but again they may be misunderstood to be very upset or extremely excited when inside they are simply stating facts (with flare!)

Look at Hannah for example. You can find her story in 1 Samuel 1-2.

God had caused Hannah to be barren, which was a terrible stigmatism in her day. Most women can relate to the deep longing for a child, and many can relate to the consuming agony of waiting for conception. With each menstrual cycle the woman faces a very real grief. The longer infertility goes on the more life-consuming it is. Imagine adding to that personal struggle the brutal judgment of a society that believes you are cursed by God, and then add to that torment the worse kind of rival you could imagine: having your husband’s other wife, who has had many sons and daughters, severely provoking you just to make you miserable (1:6). This was Hannah’s life, and she couldn’t get away from her rival; they shared the same residence, they traveled the same roads, they ate the same meals.

At one point (1:7) Hannah’s heart was so sick she couldn’t eat. Did anyone comfort her? No. Even her husband made it worse. He made her feel like she was unreasonable and ungrateful. He laid his words of guilt (“aren’t I enough for you?”) onto her already anguished heart (1:8).

Elkanah should have known Hannah best; he loved her. Yet he seemed to see her as a whiner and complainer who was more concerned about other people’s opinion of her than of enjoying the life he was providing her.

What would a Dramatic do in that kind of a situation?


Because she’s a control freak?

No, because she is sensitive and passionate. I’ll address that in my next blog.


Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Loosing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available in book stores this spring. All of these books are available now at

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