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5 Checks for Confidential Beauty

It’s inevitable, whenever I speak to young ladies about beauty, that someone asks me to address the topic of modesty.  Personally, I prefer to use the term dignity, since the word “modesty” is often interpreted as stale, legalistic control that only spurs on rebellion in those who love fashion. In a recent discussion on the matter, a young man, who had overheard me talking with a group of girls, told his friend that we were discussing “confidential beauty.”

Immediately, I felt a blog coming on….

Modesty is not old and ugly; it is dignified and commands respect, like confidentiality.

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Beautiful Trophy

20140216-160001.jpgA beautiful girl walks into the room and all heads turn to spontaneously (and often subconsciously) do a quick assessment of confidence–the woman’s and their own.

“Wow, she is beautiful. She must have her act together. She’s so powerful; I bet she is popular, successful…”

Most spectators assume that a beautiful girl is confident and their decision to say, “hello” or not is dependent on their own level of confidence.

If, however, she is flaunting her beauty, the female spectators tend to assume that she is conceited, and ironically, they will snub her. Men, on the other hand, may gawk a bit at the girl’s immodest beauty but you may be surprised by their assumption.

Teens, please take note of this: Men tell us that we are hard to understand, but they are complicated too! They give one impression by gazing at your beauty, but “the purpose of a man’s heart are deep waters…” (Prover 20:5) Trust me, it is far more rewarding to impress a man’s heart than his eyes. Any girl can turn a guy’s head but what is running through his mind?

“Wow!”  “humm… Is she looking for attention? Do I want to give her mine?”

A girl flaunting her beauty (and body) appears to be more concerned with herself (and how she looks) than she is with others. The male spectators assume that she is insecure and are as impressed with her as they are with fireworks.

“Nice!” “What’s next?”

If you are looking for lasting love, you may find a good guy by “strutting your stuff” but more than likely he will be on a mission to help you feel more secure. Unfortunately, the majority of guys attracted to immodest beauty are insecure themselves and they prey on beautiful “trophies” to make them feel more confident.
Every girl wants to be a guy’s pride and joy, but if you freely give your beauty away without respecting yourself, you may soon be collecting dust on a shelf while he goes after his next trophy.

A girl with Confident Beauty does not ask for attention–she gives it and patiently waits to reap what she has sown.


Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Losing a Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available in book stores this spring. All of these books are available now at www.CatrinaWelch.com