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Building Confidence by Keeping Christmas Unfair

“I found this on Flyp and just have to get this for little Tommy, he will just love it! Now I need to get something more for Suzzie or he will have more than she does.”

My parents didn’t keep Christmas fair for their five children. I’m sure they were tempted to, and I’m sure there were times when our complaints about the sibling who got the most gifts made them feel bad, but instead of giving into our (and society’s) pressure they responded with a non-apologetic, practical answer. “He needed the bike. You all already have bikes. This is his big year.” As children, we may not have known it, but we were learning powerful life-lessons from this response.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAI will never forget my junior year of high school, when my parents made that Christmas my “big year.” I felt extremely humbled as I opened the beautiful ring they bought me. I knew we were in a very difficult season financially and I couldn’t believe they spent the money on me. The only thing I remember my brothers opening was sox! I don’t know how my siblings felt toward me that year, but I do know that if they felt it was “unfair,” they didn’t show it. Instead they Continue reading Building Confidence by Keeping Christmas Unfair

Never Shop for Clothes Naked or Needy

5 Steps to Prevent Impulsive Shopping

It is never wise to grocery shop when you are hungry because your cravings can get the best of your budget. Your family may love all the junk food you bring home but, after the sugar high drops, they’ll be disappointed when you cannot put together a complete meal for them.

A desperate trip to the mall can produce the same disastrous results. 

You have a soon-coming wedding or special event and need a great outfit. Your closet is full of items that are tattered and worn so you find a moment to stop and shop, but money is as tight at time is, so you head straight to the clearance rack. From the wide variety of last season’s leftovers you may find a great deal but the real question is: Continue reading Never Shop for Clothes Naked or Needy

Shop Like a Man: Guilt-Free

Sales-tax-holiday-shopping-600x401I did it again!

I forgot to buy cereal, yet there I was trying to make the room for all the other groceries I didn’t need. I suppose I could get up early and make my kids eggs in the morning since now I have over two dozen!

Anyone with any knowledge of budgeting knows that shopping while your hungry is foolish–especially if you are hypoglycemic and get really confused when your blood sugars are low. Well, obviously I missed the Finance 101 course, because once again I have plenty of food but I’m not sure I can put together enough meals for the week because I let my cravings direct my purchases instead of my menu.

Some women shop for clothes while “hungry,” which will also blow the budget.

Can you relate? Have you ever Continue reading Shop Like a Man: Guilt-Free

When Weight Conflicts with Confidence

One of the leading causes for a chaotic closet is weight fluctuation. Who wants to wear clothing that does not fit correctly? Pulled and puckered fabric draws attention to bulges; loose and hanging clothing gives an impression of insecurity and inadequacy. Either problem creates a self-consciousness that can easily be prevented with properly sized garments.

I know what it’s like to hold onto clothes that you want to fit again, but I’ve found that when I finally return to the correct weight for that item, my subconscious mind still feels awkward or uncomfortable in it and I am better off just giving it away. Holding onto things that no longer fit hinders us from having a confident closet. My advice is not to keep your un-fit clothes in expectation of weight gain/loss because they tend to create chaos in your closet (or at least in your mind) when you are look for something to wear. Leave the past behind. Most weight change represents a life change, so even if you return to that weight you most likely will not want to return to that wardrobe. Allow this change in your life to bring forth a new beauty. Like a butterfly.

It is not always weight change that creates the chaos. Sometimes it is simply the poor choices we make when shopping because we don’t want to search the racks with the correct numbers on them. Don’t let a number keep you from finding clothing that fits you well. Once you are done shopping, who really sees the tag anyway? Being true to yourself means being true to your size. Cut off the tag after you make the purchase if that helps. Just BE and LET BE. Here is the shopping advice I give my clients:

  • Choose a clothing store that carries your style.
  • Look within the size above and below what you think you are.
  • Pull out only clothing within your seasonal palette of colors.
  • Check over the lines, textures, patterns and pockets for traits that will flatter your figure.
  • Try on only items that meet the above criteria.
  • Buy only items that fit properly and make you feel comfortable and authentic while wearing them.
  • Keep them only as long as they continue to give you confidence.

This is the secret to having Confident Beauty, which doesn’t fluctuate like our weight does! 

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com