As you surf you social medias for ideas and inspiration to decorate your home, are you feeling pressured an overwhelmed by all the alternatives? Dressing your home can be just as intimidating as creating a beautiful wardrobe.
It can also be just as empowering.
Like Goldilocks, we may not know exactly what we want, but once we try it out, we are certain if it is “too hard” or “too soft.” It takes most of us many years of testing and trying before we find the style that is “just right” but once we do–wether it’s the style of our home or our clothing–we discover a certain peace and power that can be summed up in one word: CONFIDENCE.
You know when you meet a woman with confidence. She isn’t shy or timid, but she isn’t threatening or condescending, either. She isn’t showing off, nor is she hiding because she isn’t concerned with your thoughts about her. She is simply at peace with herself and that makes you feel at peace around her.
You know when you enter the home of a woman with confidence because you feel the same thing: peace. As you look around at how she has decorated her personal space, you understand her more. Whether it is open and inviting or quaint and intimate, her home (just like her wardrobe) should indicate her personality. If her style contradicts her character, her guests will not feel at ease in her home.
The secret is knowing who you are.
As you have been scrolling through Pintrest, how many times have you said, “I love that. But it’s not me.” You know you have found a style that suits you well when your heart jumps and you say, “oh, wow, that’s nice! I want to do that.” Once you find that perfect fit, the feeling of overwhelm drops and confidence rises up in you, empowering you with a peace that is able to enjoy other styles because it has found its own.
The style that makes your heart jump is a big indicator of your personal Image Identity: C: Elegant, traditional (The Classic) N: Rustic, simple (To the Natural) D: Extravagant, exotic (The Dramatic) I: Sentimental, sweet (The Ingénue) R: Welcoming, nostalgic (The Romantic) G: Fun, festive (The Gamine) Click the letter to learn more about that Image Identity, including What2Wear, also, find me on Pinterest (I have one board for each of the 6 Img.IDs).
As you prepare to decorate your home for the holidays, remember that it takes time to discover your personal style (or “Img.ID”), so enjoy the process. We all start out like Goldilocks, testing and tasting everyone else’s style until we find our own, but we don’t have to be invasive or obsessive like she was by trespassing (thanks, Pinterest!). As your personal Img.ID is being slowly unveiled, be careful not to let your heart be stressed and striving. When you go to a house party this season, enjoy getting to know the host by observing the style of decorations. As you understand yourself more, you will be released from the trap of comparison. After all, if a rude and critical intruder can fall asleep in the home of three bears in the woods, then you, too, can let your guard down and rest in the home of another confident woman, because you will be one as well.
As an author and speaker, Catrina’s passion is in helping women and girls overcome confidence conflicts, especially those involving rejection, betrayal and loss. After 30 years in the beauty industry as both a cosmetologist and an image consultant, Catrina now uses her profession, her own powerful stories and her training as a Biblical life-coach to reach the heart in a way that is relatable, encouraging and inspiring. Her message is balanced with both fashion and faith and is making a difference in the lives of women and girls all over! To be part of this movement, connect with her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Linked In, Goodreads and consider having her speak at your next event. Visit https://catrinawelch.com for more information.
4 thoughts on “The Secret to Decorating your Home for the Holidays”
Catarina, thank you for these wonderful articles that provide useful information and practical advice to help beautify our world. My question to you is can an Ingenue remain one throughout her life and not morph in to a Romantic? In your opinion, are there mature ingenues say in their 50’s?
Monica, There are absolutely Ingénues who mature into old age (to be sure, I am not saying 50 is old age, I’m nearly there myself 🙂 ). While every Romantic was once an Ingénue before she became full figured, not all Delicate Beauties (Ingénues) lose their youthful appearance and become Glamorous Beauties (Romantics). One strong indicator is your youthfulness; if people often assume you are way younger than you actually are (no matter which stage of life you are in), then there’s a good chance you are an Ingénue (which I also call the Youthful Beauty).
Thanks so much for asking. This is a question that comes up often.
Thanks Catrina. Would you recommend any adult Ingenue role models for style tips. Spring season would be helpful.
Some examples of Ingénues in the public eye are Cameron-Diaz and Jennifer Lawrence. An excellent example of a more mature Ingenue is Julie Andrews.