When Weight Conflicts with Confidence

One of the leading causes for a chaotic closet is weight fluctuation. Who wants to wear clothing that does not fit correctly? Pulled and puckered fabric draws attention to bulges; loose and hanging clothing gives an impression of insecurity and inadequacy. Either problem creates a self-consciousness that can easily be prevented with properly sized garments.

I know what it’s like to hold onto clothes that you want to fit again, but I’ve found that when I finally return to the correct weight for that item, my subconscious mind still feels awkward or uncomfortable in it and I am better off just giving it away. Holding onto things that no longer fit hinders us from having a confident closet. My advice is not to keep your un-fit clothes in expectation of weight gain/loss because they tend to create chaos in your closet (or at least in your mind) when you are look for something to wear. Leave the past behind. Most weight change represents a life change, so even if you return to that weight you most likely will not want to return to that wardrobe. Allow this change in your life to bring forth a new beauty. Like a butterfly.

It is not always weight change that creates the chaos. Sometimes it is simply the poor choices we make when shopping because we don’t want to search the racks with the correct numbers on them. Don’t let a number keep you from finding clothing that fits you well. Once you are done shopping, who really sees the tag anyway? Being true to yourself means being true to your size. Cut off the tag after you make the purchase if that helps. Just BE and LET BE. Here is the shopping advice I give my clients:

  • Choose a clothing store that carries your style.
  • Look within the size above and below what you think you are.
  • Pull out only clothing within your seasonal palette of colors.
  • Check over the lines, textures, patterns and pockets for traits that will flatter your figure.
  • Try on only items that meet the above criteria.
  • Buy only items that fit properly and make you feel comfortable and authentic while wearing them.
  • Keep them only as long as they continue to give you confidence.

This is the secret to having Confident Beauty, which doesn’t fluctuate like our weight does! 

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at