Racial discrimination is a serious problem, but prejudice isn’t limited to color or culture. People always “judge a book by its cover,” this is a fact of life. If we are honest, we all make visual assessments and prideful assumptions based on personal experiences and preferences all the time.
- We choose our communities, caretakers or political parties according to our beliefs, opinions and needs.
- We use businesses, attend meetings and make friends only if we feel comfortable with those people.
- We decide which checkout line we will use according to our assumption of the cashier’s attitude and aptitude.
It is natural and normal to make decisions based on appearances. In fact, you and I decide if we like or trust a person, place or thing within six seconds. Is this wrong? Maybe, but this tendency to make quick judgments can save us time or keep us from danger.
Sometimes our first impressions are completely off, and we miss out on an opportunity or relationship that we may have enjoyed. Other times our assessments are completely inappropriate and we make harsh judgments based on personal opinions or experiences that have nothing to do with the reality of what–or who–we are criticizing.
It’s one thing to look through a library of books and only take home one or two that interest you, but how foolish it would be to reject a great book, not because of its topic or genre, but because the cover is a certain color!
Our nation is acting foolish right now. We are judging people by their black skin or blue uniform, without taking the time to understand each other individually.
Discrimination happens all the time, to all people.
As an image consultant, it is my job to help you make a first impression that is true to your authentic personality. It certainly easier to present yourself well and avoid being misunderstood when you know who you are.
First impressions is a big indicator of your Img.ID: C: Mature, controlling (The Classic) N: Self-controlled, carefree (The Natural) D: Passionate, demanding (The Dramatic) I: Youthful, naive (The Ingénue) R: Feminine, sensitive (The Romantic) G: Bold, strong-willed (The Gamine) Click the letter to learn more about that Image Identity, including What2Wear.
If there is one thing that invokes anger more than anything else in this world, I would have to say it is being judged unfairly. Right now, there are a lot of people responding to extreme judgments with return accusations, which is only causing more rage. When people judge us by what we are wearing and how we look, it’s hard not to be offended, but it’s best to take responsibility for proving our own character and not do the same to them.
Yes, there are people with ugly hearts, but even they need to be seen, heard and understood. God asks us to love our neighbors and our enemies. There is no way we can do that when we are consumed with angry, opinionated judgments of each other’s ethnicity and employment!
Perhaps the best solution to this forever problem of discrimination would be if we all would learn to take more than six seconds to assess each other’s character.
Catrina Welch is an image coach who unveils the power, purpose and potpourri of beauty. As a women’s ministry leader, author and speaker, she releases audiences to be and let be, overcoming their confidence conflicts for the glory of God. You can connect with her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Linked In, Goodreads and consider having her speak at your next event. Visit http://catrinawelch.com for more information. You can find her books on Amazon.