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Want an Extreme MakeOver?

snow whiteWomen love makeovers… if they are watching them and not experiencing them, that is.

Most of us would far rather glean ideas for improving our image by watching someone else’s transformation than by being put in the vulnerable position of undergoing the complete change ourselves. Wouldn’t you agree?

I used to call my image assessment parties “Extreme MakeOvers” before I understood how much the name contradicted what I do. The various ABC reality shows that feature the total transformation of body or home were very popular at the time and I thought the name was fun, but I am no surgeon or diet coach and it’s my husband that’s the builder, not me. I now call these coaching experiences “Supreme MakeOvers” because, really, I just help women understand and accentuate the beauty that God, the Supreme Stylist, already gave them. A woman’s style takes time to develop and need not be an alteration of her true self.

Dealing with resistance to change is part of being in the beauty–or building–industry. A woman’s image and her home are each a huge part of her identity; renovations can feel a bit like rejection. I respect that. Completely changing a home is one thing, but altering the physical attributes that God so careful designed on His child is not something I would ever want to do. Don’t get me wrong, I am not against cosmetic surgery that frees a woman from true physical  and emotional challenges. But I have seldom seen women set free from their self-consciousness after investing so much into changing their appearance; far more often I see them become even more concerned with how they look than they did before their procedure.

I believe that beauty, no matter how perfect, does not bring confidence without authenticity. Again, I am not saying that surgery or services make a woman fake–that is another twisted-truth. If total transformation were wrong, would God have created the butterfly? But fixing what is the mirror does not fix what is in the soul. If you long to improve your image, and are considering something extreme, I encourage you not to worry so much about the weight of your body, the size of your attributes or even what’s in style. Instead, focus on what is YOUR style, learn how to accentuate the beauty you have (and you do have beauty! If you want help finding it, contact me.) and BE who you were designed to be.

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

My Struggle with Confident Beauty

My whole world was rocked the day my first husband left me. 

Pregnant and alone, his betrayal made me feel ugly, unwanted and self-conscious.

Before then, even though I was a hairdresser, I never really focused on my own appearance because, honestly, I was afraid of being shallow or vain. Suddenly it was a struggle to stand in front of a mirror all day; I became extremely aware of my image.

People sensed my lack of confidence, and since it’s easy to tell a pregnant woman she is beautiful–especially when they knew I was rejected by the man I adored–they told me,

“You’re adorable!” But what resounded in my mind was, “they know you are a throw-away-wife.”

I craved their compliments anyway–especially after my status changed to “single mom” and they were silenced because my big belly was no longer “cute”– so, I set out on a mission to prove myself worthy of attention again. After all, I knew all the tricks of the trade, I was a licensed cosmetologist:

the hair
the nails
the makeup and spa treatments.

but nothing changed how I felt about myself on the inside.

Cover ConfidentBeauty CVR-LGI call that time in my life the Beauty Battle.

Every woman faces an emotional battle over how she looks at some point in her life. But I didn’t know that, because not every woman handles her confidence conflicts the same way that I did.

I was striving for beauty, but some women hide under oversized sweatshirts, tattoos, or heavy makeup. Others de-value or laugh-off their pain, still others use stimulants, shut down their hearts, work real hard, or focus on everyone else’s needs but their own.

Some women get stuck in the battle with no weapon to fight. They may be determined, defeated, desolate or desperate but, like me, without confidence no matter how well she does her makeup, it’s not pretty.

Maybe you have someone in your life suffering like that and you wish you understood them?

When that was me, I didn’t even understand myself. But, after becoming a certified image consultant, and learning the six styles of beauty I began to recognize that I wasn’t alone, other women felt rejection as deeply as I did simply because not all women are alike.

Not in their appearance,
Not in their dreams or desires.

Understanding this helped me to stop comparing myself to other women (especially the new wife…) in fact it changed my whole outlook on life–especially how I help my clients. While beauty may be something women will spend a lot of time and money on, when it comes to the deep longing in their heart, “only her hairdresser knows for sure.” It’s a hard topic for women to talk about.

That’s why I wrote about it in Confident Beauty; it’s easier to read.

If you know someone who is caught in the Beauty Battle, would you tell them about my book? 

There is hope, and every woman deserves to know there is a power and purpose for HER beauty, no matter which style she is!

 This weekend the ebook edition of Confident Beauty is on sale for only $1.99, so be sure to download it onto your favorite electronic reading device before Labor Day Weekend is over.

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 Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

 

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

Discovering Self-Confidence Takes Self-Discovery

Life is a journey in search for significance. Our innate desire to be valued is apparent as soon as we enter this world. Newborns thrive when they feel loved; a neglected baby suffers not only emotionally but physically. Each of us is born with a strong desire to know who we are. A child is like a thirsty sponge, soaking up knowledge through experience, words, actions or expectations. It is only natural that she assumes that what she learns is truth. One experience can develop an entire belief system before she is mature enough to reason whether it is true, tainted or opinionated. Unless she revisits what she believes she may not even realize she is basing that area of her life on a lie.

girl twirlA little girl is applauded for dancing in her dress-up clothes. She believes she is worthy of attention and decides she must demand it. Another girl is condemned for the same foolish and frivolous way of showing off. She becomes embarrassed by her desire to look lovely and decides not to be vulnerable again.
 
A young lady finds it easy to turn heads. She believe the attention she gets is her worth any sacrifice she needs to make. Another girl feels invisible, she decides that attempting to look good is a waste of time.
 

As we develop our individuality we need to decide: do we accept our belief system, or rebel against it? I think most of us do a mixture of both–especially when we are teens–and then eventually we settle on what we want to believe. Some of areas of our life are easier than others:

A new wife offers a meal that her husband does not like. His comments make her believe she is a bad cook, but she continues to do her best anyway.
 

Unless she is attacked personally or has a big dream in that area (i.e.. cooking), most insults don’t rock a mature woman’s confidence. Tell her she can’t clean and she might laugh. Tell her she looks old or ugly and she might cry… or fight, or shut down emotionally. Whatever her response–even if it is stuffed away and hidden from sight–it will be strong if the area is her beauty, and helping her sort out what she believes may take a bit more effort than telling her you were just joking.

If you have ever battled with emotions about your image, I encourage you to take a look at what you believe about yourself. Discovering self-confidence takes some serious self-discovery. Dare to be like a child again. You have mature reasoning now, maybe it’s time to let go of some of the decisions you made when you were younger. For help walking through these questions, be sure to check out my Bible Study on this topic, Supreme MakeOver, a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. 

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

When Weight Conflicts with Confidence

Confident Beauty doesn't fluctuate like weight does!

One of the leading causes for a chaotic closet is weight fluctuation. Who wants to wear clothing that does not fit correctly? Pulled and puckered fabric draws attention to bulges; loose and hanging clothing gives an impression of insecurity and inadequacy. Either problem creates a self-consciousness that can easily be prevented with properly sized garments.

I know what it’s like to hold onto clothes that you want to fit again, but I’ve found that when I finally return to the correct weight for that item, my subconscious mind still feels awkward or uncomfortable in it and I am better off just giving it away. Holding onto things that no longer fit hinders us from having a confident closet. My advice is not to keep your un-fit clothes in expectation of weight gain/loss because they tend to create chaos in your closet (or at least in your mind) when you are look for something to wear. Leave the past behind. Most weight change represents a life change, so even if you return to that weight you most likely will not want to return to that wardrobe. Allow this change in your life to bring forth a new beauty. Like a butterfly.

It is not always weight change that creates the chaos. Sometimes it is simply the poor choices we make when shopping because we don’t want to search the racks with the correct numbers on them. Don’t let a number keep you from finding clothing that fits you well. Once you are done shopping, who really sees the tag anyway? Being true to yourself means being true to your size. Cut it off after you purchase it if that helps. Just BE and LET BE. Here is the shopping advice I give my clients:

  • Choose a clothing store that carries your style.
  • Look within the size above and below what you think you are.
  • Pull out only clothing within your seasonal palette of colors.
  • Check over the lines, textures, patterns and pockets for traits that will flatter your figure.
  • Try on only items that meet the above criteria.
  • Buy only items that fit properly and make you feel comfortable and authentic while wearing them.
  • Keep them only as long as they continue to give you confidence.

This is the secret to having Confident Beauty, which doesn’t fluctuate like our weight does! 

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

What Makes America Beautiful?

Denali_Sunshine_-_Mountain_-_Alaska

Katherine Lee Bates said it well: America the beautiful. Our spacious skies, fields and mountains certainly are majestic, not to mention the music-hearted seas that grace our beautiful shores-but really, every nation has some kind of beauty to be appreciated. Perhaps America’s greatest beauty is the very thing we celebrate this weekend: our independence.

When I was eleven, my family set out on an adventure to begin a new life in Maine. On my first day of school I had kids snubbing me because they thought I was rich (kind of ironic, don’t you think?). I remember going home and asking my mom, “why do they call me ‘rich girl’? We live in a tiny shack, I don’t even have my own room!” Mom’s response baffled me. “Honey, that’s because we come from Cape Cod. People travel from all over the world to vacation there.” Call me naive, but I had no idea I had grown up in a resort area.

 During my junior year of high school, we returned to the Cape and I found myself dumfounded at my friends’ lack of gratitude for our surroundings. I guess it’s not uncommon to take for granted the beauty that is right in front of us-until it’s gone.

I never intend to move off-Cape again; I enjoy every break in landscape that gives a glimpse of the water and I miss it even when I go away for a week.

But I take my country for granted all the time because I don’t know what it is like to live without all that America has to offer. Scenic views may be what draws tourists to places like Cape Cod, but it is the freedom to BE and LET BE that draws so many cultures to the USA. We would all do well to remember that this weekend, as we celebrate Independence Day, because God-forbid we should ever have to go without it.

Independence makes a country beautiful, but it also what makes you beautiful! To celebrate the Fourth of July, I am giving away a copy of my devotional book, Supreme MakeOver, to anyone who buys an autographed copy of Confident Beauty (from my website). Why? Because I was born on Independence Day and I want you to be able to declare your independence from all the Confidence Conflicts that you face, and these two books are designed to bring Confident Beauty, which doesn’t wear off like makeup does!

 

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

 

Finding Confidence in Knowing You are not Alone

Do you ever feel like you are completely alone because no one understands you?

not aloneAfter a few years of working full time as a hairdresser I began having back problems. Here I was in my prime of life ending each day in excruciating pain. I felt like such a wimp!  My co-workers and clients thought I was, too, because I would complain about my pain, but continue to work hard so I looked like a hypochondriac. If it was really that bad, why wouldn’t I stop?

Looking back, I can tell you that I was trying to prove to myself that I was stronger than I felt but at the time I didn’t understand myself or my pain. I just felt weak and foolish. In reality, I was desperate for comfort and validation. I needed to know I was not crazy, that my pain was real and that I would get better.

A doctor’s visit gave me the validation I needed–I wasn’t crazy, I had a ruptured disc in my neck. After reporting back to my boss, she told me how she, too, had blown a disc and had been on bed rest for a long time before she could work again.

I suppose her story could have scared me into giving up on my career, but it didn’t. Instead, it empowered me to begin treatment and get better. It gave me comfort to know someone understood my pain.

Sometimes we just need to know that we are not alone. If someone else can make it through what we are facing, so can we! Talking about our problems is not enough. Unless we are looking for answers, we may be looking like a hypochondriac. If you are in need of comfort or validation today, I encourage you to find someone who has made it through where you are, share your heart with her and remember, you are not alone.

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

How to Give Your Closet an Audit

simplifySix seconds. That’s how much time you have to make a first impression. It is important that your image represent you well. Now and then we each need to do a Wardrobe Rehab. The best way to start this process is to take an audit: Who are you? What do you wear? What you do have and need? Maybe you are a Casual Beauty living an Exotic life or perhaps your not working in a office any more but your closet still thinks you are. These are important factors to consider when assessing what to do with What’s in Your Closet. This first step in renovating your image is the most important. I want to encourage you to actually do it, so I have created a fun (& free!) worksheet to go along with this blog; click here to get it.

What kind of work do you do?

Your career choice is a great indication of which style (or Img.ID) you are because it represents your heart. Delicate Beauties don’t really enjoy office work like a Refined Beauty does. Glamorous Girls would be stressed out at any job a Gamine would choose. When you Know Who You Are, you know what you need.

What kind of coverage do you need?

What kind of formality is required of you at work? How many outfits do you need for workout, errand or at-home days? How often do you dress up and go out? Are accessories important to you and your look? (They are for some Img.IDs!) There is a wonderful freedom in knowing which part of fashion is the key to enhance your type of beauty. I have included the most import focus for each Img.ID in your worksheet.

What do you already have that works well for you?

Take this week to wear as many of your favorite items as you can. Take a picture of yourself in each completed outfit and use the chart in your worksheet to document what fits, flatters and makes you feel confident. Next week we will start weeding.

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker. As an image- and life-coach, her message is not simply What2Wear, it is also Know Who You Are. She uses her personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss and her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach to help empower women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

 

What 2 Wear Hair Tips

As Memorial Day quickly approaches lots of women are ready for new summer hairstyles. For the past few Wednesdays my “What 2 Wear” tips have been about making good choices depending on your facial shape (and Img.ID of course!). So far we have gone over styles for the oval and square faces, but there are 7 shapes in all, so what if your face is:

oval faceOblong

Your hairdresser knows that the goal of giving a new style to an oblong face is to give the illusion of more width. This can easily be done for most types of beauty (and this facial shape could be any Img.ID) by adding fullness in the crown and side areas, the only time creating this illusion is a real challenge is if you are determined to keep your hair long–especially if you want it one-length. It is especially hard to create volume if you don’t want to use product or blow-dry your hair, which is not unusual for Naturals or Gamines. If this is you, and you do not want to budge on the long, one-length thing, then just be sure to focus on makeup and accessory tricks that add width to you face (that’s a blog for another day).

diamond faceDiamond

Any hairstyle on a diamond-shaped face should be designed to give the illusion of more width at the forehead and chin or of less width at the cheeks. Your hairdresser may suggest that your hair be mid-neck length and full at the chin or asymmetrical with no bangs swept to one side. Most women with this shaped face are Natural, Dramatic or Gamine. Naturals, I would not suggest going with the asymmetrical option since it is not a casual look, nor does it do well as a wash-n-wear. This side-style does do well on the other two Img.IDs as long as it is kept up.

heart faceHeart

The heart-shaped face is characteristic of the Romantic and the Ingénue, which are the two very feminine beauties. Both of these girls do well with wispy or curly hairstyles. In fact, they usually have very fine hair, which is often very curly or very straight. Because the heart-shaped face is wide at the forehead, your hairstylist knows to be careful not to create too much fullness at the crown. I would not recommend bangs, but ask your stylist. The length is the key factor in creating the illusion of more width at your narrow chin so be sure to take her advice on that as well. Mid-neck or chin-length are usually best, depending on how long your neck is.

Next Wednesday lets talk about the round and pear shaped faces.

If you missed my explanation of the various facial shapes and my tips for the oval or square faces, you can find them on my website. Click the topic “hairstyles

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

2 Important Factors in Finding a Great Hairstyle

It’s What-2-Wear Wednesday! As promised, I am writing this blog to help you find a great new spring style that’s “YOU.” Before making this big decision, it’s important to consider these important factors:

What is the shape of your face?

  • Oval (balanced, even, proportionate)
  • Square (as wide as it is long, angular jaw and forehead)
  • Oblong (long, narrow, balanced)
  • Diamond (narrow chin, brow; widest at cheeks)
  • Heart (widest at forehead, narrow chin, often widow’s peak hairline)
  • Round (balanced, fullest at cheeks)
  • Pear (widest at jaw, narrow forehead)

square face, Asymmetrical cut

By understanding your facial shape, you narrow your choices for hairstyles. While this concept may seem limiting, it is actually liberating. There are so many different ways you can wear your hair, wouldn’t you rather know (before trying it!) that certain options may not compliment your beauty? It is also important to understand the density and texture of your hair as well as your personal Image Identity (or what I call your Img.ID). Typically, you can trust your hairdresser to know your hair type, as we talked about last Wednesday, but unless you have had an image consultation, you may not have any idea what your Img.ID is. Your facial shape is a great hint to that answer.

Knowing your facial shape can help you determine your personal Img.ID:

  • Oval could be any Img.ID
  • Square could be Natural, Dramatic, Gamine
  • Oblong could be any Img.ID
  • Diamond could be Natural, Dramatic, Gamine
  • Heart usually Ingénue or Romantic
  • Round could be Natural, Ingénue, Romantic, Gamine
  • Pear could be Natural, Dramatic, Ingénue, Romantic, Gamine

We’ve already gone over the guidelines for an oval face, but what if your face is square?

If you have a square face: The goal of your hairstyle (and makeup, accessories, and the neckline of your blouse) should be to make your face appear longer. Your hairdresser might suggest an asymmetrical cut, a side part, or angled bangs. Each of these is great option for the Dramatic or the Gamine because of their strong and spunky personalities. But if you are a Natural, you may find yourself asking for a paper bag to cover your head before you leave the salon if your new look is anything except a wash-n-wear cut. Naturals with a square face should choose a simple side part if they want to feel confident. If a new part is not “new” enough (although Naturals don’t love change), try layering it up a bit more–especially if your hair has wave, bounce, or curl. Whatever you do, chose a style that compliments who you are. Remember, less is more on some gals!

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

Finding a Hairstyle that Fits YOU

This is a great time of year for a new hairstyle, but asking your hairstylist for suggestions might not be wise.

beYOUtifulAfter many years behind the chair, creating styles to suits my clients’ desires, it became obvious to me that many women do not really know what they want–and if they do, their desires often contradict their personality. If they asked me, I would tell them what I learned in school.

Cosmetologists are educated on facial shape, we are taught to create hairstyles that balance the square, diamond, round, oblong, heart and triangular faces so that they give the illusion of the ideal facial shape: the oval. We understand the density and texture of a client’s hair and know if the style she wants is reasonable to keep up or not. Or goal is to sell the professional products and teach the tricks of the trade to each individual so that she can make her hair look just as good everyday as it did the day she came into the salon. The thing is, if we do not understand her personal preferences, lifestyle and personality, then we might suggest a style that does not allow her to feel confident because it isn’t “her.”

This is one of the reasons I choose to study the six different styles of beauty and become an image consultant. Women are never really comfortable with their hair (or makeup, clothing, accessories…) unless their style compliments who they are.

So what’s the secret to finding a new style this spring?

Over the next several Wednesdays I am going to break down the options for each facial shape and make suggestions for each clothing personality (Img.ID). In the mean time, start collecting different styles that you like–even if you are not sure you want to try it.

For now, here’s a teaser for the “ideal” (oval) facial shape.

Hair length: This facial shape has the most freedom to wear the length she wants well, but if she has a long neck, it is best to have length that falls at the middle of neck or to have angle/layers at the neck.

Hairstyle: almost any hairstyle will work for the oval face, but Bold, Exotic or Refined Beauties could try something sharp or asymmetrical to shake things up. Casual Beauties do best with simple styles (like wash and wear). Delicate and Glamorous Girls, do best with feminine, wispy or wavy styles.

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker who is using her 30 years in the beauty industry to help women understand their personal Image Identity (Img.ID) and overcome Image Issues that affect their Confidence. Her message is empowering women to BE and LET BE. You can now find her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com