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What Makes America Beautiful?

Denali_Sunshine_-_Mountain_-_Alaska

Katherine Lee Bates said it well: America the beautiful. Our spacious skies, fields and mountains certainly are majestic, not to mention the music-hearted seas that grace our beautiful shores-but really, every nation has some kind of beauty to be appreciated. Perhaps America’s greatest beauty is the very thing we celebrate this weekend: our independence.

When I was eleven, my family set out on an adventure to begin a new life in Maine. On my first day of school I had kids snubbing me because they thought I was rich (kind of ironic, don’t you think?). I remember going home and asking my mom, “why do they call me ‘rich girl’? We live in a tiny shack, I don’t even have my own room!” Mom’s response baffled me. “Honey, that’s because we come from Cape Cod. People travel from all over the world to vacation there.” Call me naive, but I had no idea I had grown up in a resort area.

 During my junior year of high school, we returned to the Cape and I found myself dumfounded at my friends’ lack of gratitude for our surroundings. I guess it’s not uncommon to take for granted the beauty that is right in front of us-until it’s gone.

I never intend to move off-Cape again; I enjoy every break in landscape that gives a glimpse of the water and I miss it even when I go away for a week.

But I take my country for granted all the time because I don’t know what it is like to live without all that America has to offer. Scenic views may be what draws tourists to places like Cape Cod, but it is the freedom to BE and LET BE that draws so many cultures to the USA. We would all do well to remember that this weekend, as we celebrate Independence Day, because God-forbid we should ever have to go without it.

Independence makes a country beautiful, but it also what makes you beautiful! To celebrate the Fourth of July, I am giving away a copy of my devotional book, Supreme MakeOver, to anyone who buys an autographed copy of Confident Beauty (from my website). Why? Because I was born on Independence Day and I want you to be able to declare your independence from all the Confidence Conflicts that you face, and these two books are designed to bring Confident Beauty, which doesn’t wear off like makeup does!

 

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

 

Finding Confidence in Knowing You are not Alone

Do you ever feel like you are completely alone because no one understands you?

not aloneAfter a few years of working full time as a hairdresser I began having back problems. Here I was in my prime of life ending each day in excruciating pain. I felt like such a wimp!  My co-workers and clients thought I was, too, because I would complain about my pain, but continue to work hard so I looked like a hypochondriac. If it was really that bad, why wouldn’t I stop?

Looking back, I can tell you that I was trying to prove to myself that I was stronger than I felt but at the time I didn’t understand myself or my pain. I just felt weak and foolish. In reality, I was desperate for comfort and validation. I needed to know I was not crazy, that my pain was real and that I would get better.

A doctor’s visit gave me the validation I needed–I wasn’t crazy, I had a ruptured disc in my neck. After reporting back to my boss, she told me how she, too, had blown a disc and had been on bed rest for a long time before she could work again.

I suppose her story could have scared me into giving up on my career, but it didn’t. Instead, it empowered me to begin treatment and get better. It gave me comfort to know someone understood my pain.

Sometimes we just need to know that we are not alone. If someone else can make it through what we are facing, so can we! Talking about our problems is not enough. Unless we are looking for answers, we may be looking like a hypochondriac. If you are in need of comfort or validation today, I encourage you to find someone who has made it through where you are, share your heart with her and remember, you are not alone.

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

How to Give Your Closet an Audit

simplifySix seconds. That’s how much time you have to make a first impression. It is important that your image represent you well. Now and then we each need to do a Wardrobe Rehab. The best way to start this process is to take an audit: Who are you? What do you wear? What you do have and need? Maybe you are a Casual Beauty living an Exotic life or perhaps your not working in a office any more but your closet still thinks you are. These are important factors to consider when assessing what to do with What’s in Your Closet. This first step in renovating your image is the most important. I want to encourage you to actually do it, so I have created a fun (& free!) worksheet to go along with this blog; click here to get it.

What kind of work do you do?

Your career choice is a great indication of which style (or Img.ID) you are because it represents your heart. Delicate Beauties don’t really enjoy office work like a Refined Beauty does. Glamorous Girls would be stressed out at any job a Gamine would choose. When you Know Who You Are, you know what you need.

What kind of coverage do you need?

What kind of formality is required of you at work? How many outfits do you need for workout, errand or at-home days? How often do you dress up and go out? Are accessories important to you and your look? (They are for some Img.IDs!) There is a wonderful freedom in knowing which part of fashion is the key to enhance your type of beauty. I have included the most import focus for each Img.ID in your worksheet.

What do you already have that works well for you?

Take this week to wear as many of your favorite items as you can. Take a picture of yourself in each completed outfit and use the chart in your worksheet to document what fits, flatters and makes you feel confident. Next week we will start weeding.

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker. As an image- and life-coach, her message is not simply What2Wear, it is also Know Who You Are. She uses her personal experience with overcoming rejection, betrayal and loss and her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach to help empower women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

 

What 2 Wear Hair Tips

As Memorial Day quickly approaches lots of women are ready for new summer hairstyles. For the past few Wednesdays my “What 2 Wear” tips have been about making good choices depending on your facial shape (and Img.ID of course!). So far we have gone over styles for the oval and square faces, but there are 7 shapes in all, so what if your face is:

oval faceOblong

Your hairdresser knows that the goal of giving a new style to an oblong face is to give the illusion of more width. This can easily be done for most types of beauty (and this facial shape could be any Img.ID) by adding fullness in the crown and side areas, the only time creating this illusion is a real challenge is if you are determined to keep your hair long–especially if you want it one-length. It is especially hard to create volume if you don’t want to use product or blow-dry your hair, which is not unusual for Naturals or Gamines. If this is you, and you do not want to budge on the long, one-length thing, then just be sure to focus on makeup and accessory tricks that add width to you face (that’s a blog for another day).

diamond faceDiamond

Any hairstyle on a diamond-shaped face should be designed to give the illusion of more width at the forehead and chin or of less width at the cheeks. Your hairdresser may suggest that your hair be mid-neck length and full at the chin or asymmetrical with no bangs swept to one side. Most women with this shaped face are Natural, Dramatic or Gamine. Naturals, I would not suggest going with the asymmetrical option since it is not a casual look, nor does it do well as a wash-n-wear. This side-style does do well on the other two Img.IDs as long as it is kept up.

heart faceHeart

The heart-shaped face is characteristic of the Romantic and the Ingénue, which are the two very feminine beauties. Both of these girls do well with wispy or curly hairstyles. In fact, they usually have very fine hair, which is often very curly or very straight. Because the heart-shaped face is wide at the forehead, your hairstylist knows to be careful not to create too much fullness at the crown. I would not recommend bangs, but ask your stylist. The length is the key factor in creating the illusion of more width at your narrow chin so be sure to take her advice on that as well. Mid-neck or chin-length are usually best, depending on how long your neck is.

Next Wednesday lets talk about the round and pear shaped faces.

If you missed my explanation of the various facial shapes and my tips for the oval or square faces, you can find them on my website. Click the topic “hairstyles

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

2 Important Factors in Finding a Great Hairstyle

It’s What-2-Wear Wednesday! As promised, I am writing this blog to help you find a great new spring style that’s “YOU.” Before making this big decision, it’s important to consider these important factors:

What is the shape of your face?

  • Oval (balanced, even, proportionate)
  • Square (as wide as it is long, angular jaw and forehead)
  • Oblong (long, narrow, balanced)
  • Diamond (narrow chin, brow; widest at cheeks)
  • Heart (widest at forehead, narrow chin, often widow’s peak hairline)
  • Round (balanced, fullest at cheeks)
  • Pear (widest at jaw, narrow forehead)

square face, Asymmetrical cut

By understanding your facial shape, you narrow your choices for hairstyles. While this concept may seem limiting, it is actually liberating. There are so many different ways you can wear your hair, wouldn’t you rather know (before trying it!) that certain options may not compliment your beauty? It is also important to understand the density and texture of your hair as well as your personal Image Identity (or what I call your Img.ID). Typically, you can trust your hairdresser to know your hair type, as we talked about last Wednesday, but unless you have had an image consultation, you may not have any idea what your Img.ID is. Your facial shape is a great hint to that answer.

Knowing your facial shape can help you determine your personal Img.ID:

  • Oval could be any Img.ID
  • Square could be Natural, Dramatic, Gamine
  • Oblong could be any Img.ID
  • Diamond could be Natural, Dramatic, Gamine
  • Heart usually Ingénue or Romantic
  • Round could be Natural, Ingénue, Romantic, Gamine
  • Pear could be Natural, Dramatic, Ingénue, Romantic, Gamine

We’ve already gone over the guidelines for an oval face, but what if your face is square?

If you have a square face: The goal of your hairstyle (and makeup, accessories, and the neckline of your blouse) should be to make your face appear longer. Your hairdresser might suggest an asymmetrical cut, a side part, or angled bangs. Each of these is great option for the Dramatic or the Gamine because of their strong and spunky personalities. But if you are a Natural, you may find yourself asking for a paper bag to cover your head before you leave the salon if your new look is anything except a wash-n-wear cut. Naturals with a square face should choose a simple side part if they want to feel confident. If a new part is not “new” enough (although Naturals don’t love change), try layering it up a bit more–especially if your hair has wave, bounce, or curl. Whatever you do, chose a style that compliments who you are. Remember, less is more on some gals!

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker whose personal experience with rejection, betrayal and loss–as well as her expertise as a cosmetologist, image consultant and Biblical life-coach–is empowering women to BE and LET BE.

Her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul, is now available in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

Finding a Hairstyle that Fits YOU

This is a great time of year for a new hairstyle, but asking your hairstylist for suggestions might not be wise.

beYOUtifulAfter many years behind the chair, creating styles to suits my clients’ desires, it became obvious to me that many women do not really know what they want–and if they do, their desires often contradict their personality. If they asked me, I would tell them what I learned in school.

Cosmetologists are educated on facial shape, we are taught to create hairstyles that balance the square, diamond, round, oblong, heart and triangular faces so that they give the illusion of the ideal facial shape: the oval. We understand the density and texture of a client’s hair and know if the style she wants is reasonable to keep up or not. Or goal is to sell the professional products and teach the tricks of the trade to each individual so that she can make her hair look just as good everyday as it did the day she came into the salon. The thing is, if we do not understand her personal preferences, lifestyle and personality, then we might suggest a style that does not allow her to feel confident because it isn’t “her.”

This is one of the reasons I choose to study the six different styles of beauty and become an image consultant. Women are never really comfortable with their hair (or makeup, clothing, accessories…) unless their style compliments who they are.

So what’s the secret to finding a new style this spring?

Over the next several Wednesdays I am going to break down the options for each facial shape and make suggestions for each clothing personality (Img.ID). In the mean time, start collecting different styles that you like–even if you are not sure you want to try it.

For now, here’s a teaser for the “ideal” (oval) facial shape.

Hair length: This facial shape has the most freedom to wear the length she wants well, but if she has a long neck, it is best to have length that falls at the middle of neck or to have angle/layers at the neck.

Hairstyle: almost any hairstyle will work for the oval face, but Bold, Exotic or Refined Beauties could try something sharp or asymmetrical to shake things up. Casual Beauties do best with simple styles (like wash and wear). Delicate and Glamorous Girls, do best with feminine, wispy or wavy styles.

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker who is using her 30 years in the beauty industry to help women understand their personal Image Identity (Img.ID) and overcome Image Issues that affect their Confidence. Her message is empowering women to BE and LET BE. You can now find her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

 

 

Finding Confidence in the Chaos

piled up laundryI love cleaning. Maybe it’s because I am so easily distracted, but I am far more engaged in a clutter-free environment that sparkles and shines. For me, cleanliness creates confidence.

I didn’t recognize my love for cleaning until I had my own home; before that I felt like it was a tedious requirement that I always failed at. When my husband built our home, I found that anything misplaced or dirty stood out like a sore thumb because everything was so new, but it also had a place to go so I could easily clean it up–especially since I was a stay-at-home mom then. Sustaining the beauty of my home became a rewarding challenge.

Now I work outside the home and my kids are older with busy social lives. With all the traffic and little downtime, it’s not as easy to maintain the laundry, dishes and paperwork. I’m sure you know what I mean. When life gets chaotic, we need to take some time to bring back the order so that we don’t become completely stressed over the little things–like finding sox.

Our soul is like our home. We cannot really shine with confidence or beauty unless we have a thorough cleaning. The reflection we see in our mirror, no matter how perfect, will always feel like a mess in our soul until we experience forgiveness.

  • We need to forgive ourselves for the mistakes we have made.
  • We need to forgive others who have wounded our hearts.

Unfortunately, most of us wait until there is so much to forgive (or clean up) that we don’t even know where to start–so we just keep going through life, making more messes.

I believe that the secret to lasting confidence and beauty is allowing God to do the major cleaning. When we take a moment to stop and accept the forgiveness that Jesus offers us, we are empowered to forgive all the little offenses that come daily. Try it. I bet you will find that sustaining the beauty of your soul is actually a rewarding challenge once everything is fresh and clean.

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Catrina Welch is an inspirational author and speaker who is using her 30 years in the beauty industry to help women understand their personal Image Identity (Img.ID) and overcome Image Issues that affect their Confidence. Her message is empowering women to BE and LET BE. You can now find her latest book, CONFIDENT BEAUTY: Reflecting the One Who Made You, with the Images in your Mirror and in your Soul in your favorite bookstores. Autographed copies of all her books are available on her website at www.CatrinaWelch.com

Letting Go When Babies Grow Up

It may not feel like spring yet, but those of us on Cape Cod, can’t allow the weather to keep us from preparing for the busy season of tourists and houseguests. In between weddings, graduations, proms, recitals and play-offs we must prepare for summer. Today I was filling out some applications for my children’s upcoming events when the reality of what’s happening in my life hit me.

CB launchesEvery time my husband and I send our kids to summer camp I consider being a counselor/leader. When my older ones ventured out from under my wing the younger ones needed me so I had to let them go without me and trust they would be safe. When it was time for my last one to go I ventured out to the woods of New Hampshire with her in an attempt to keep up with other crazy youth leaders who had a lot more strength and stamina than I just because I wasn’t ready to be without her. We had an amazing time together. In fact, after seeing how well run camp was, I had no problem releasing her the next year–but I didn’t. I went back several more years just because I wanted to.

This year Victoria is a teen. As I was filling out her papers today I realized that it’s time to leave the leader application alone and let her enjoy her time without mom around. That’s when it hit me: my newest baby, my book, needs me now.

Tomorrow Confident Beauty will be launched into the great big world as a new publication.

This summer I won’t be pulling floats stacked with kids across a rapid river racing against other counselors while my team cheers me on. Instead, I will be leading my “new girl” through the busy roads of Barnes and Noble, Amazon, Books a Million and all your favorite local bookstores and then releasing her to do what she was written to do. I want to personally thank you for joining me in cheering her on, “Go, go, change a life. Reach that girl, make a difference.”

Whether your spring is a time of letting go or holding on, may your season be full of purpose and power as you, too, do what you were designed to do.

 

Ecclesiastes 3:1, 5

To everything there is a season,
A time for every purpose under heaven:

A time to cast away stones,
And a time to gather stones;

A time to embrace, And a time to refrain from embracing;

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Losing our Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available in book stores this spring. All of these books are available now at www.CatrinaWelch.com

 

 

Is Fashion Foolish?

Confident Beauty respects herselfMy grandmother was known around Wellfleet as, “the lady with the hair.” She died at 67 still having a long, red mane, which was always tied back loosely with a simple scarf. As a little girl I was in awe of her confident beauty.

Some people think it is shallow, selfish or vain that so much of a woman’s confidence is rooted in her beauty. But how many of those people feel the same way about a man’s need for strength?

Men are respected for their desire to be strong. Women are expected to be beautiful, yet they are considered foolish for following fashion and assumed conceited when do they look good. This confusing message causes an inner turmoil that I call the “Beauty Battle” and it wages war within every feminine heart starting at a young age. The battle climaxes in our teens and twenties and continues throughout middle age, when we find on a means of coping with it. Some of us decide to hate our beauty and hide it, others strive to attain it, determined not to give up, but very few do not get hung up on it somehow. Studies show that most women don’t really feel confident until they are about 60 years old. It seems that maturity is the key that settles the heart and allows for a peaceful balance of emotions. Mature women no longer consider beauty:

  • So important that they are consumed with it.
  • So shallow or foolish that they are ashamed by it.

Instead, they enjoy beauty (even their own!), and respect the human nature with all its confusions.

Maturity releases the trap of comparison because life has a way of developing proper perspective on what really matters. No wonder wisdom teaches us to learn from our elders! I wish my grandma were still around to help me with my confidence conflicts.

If you have a confident woman in your life, be sure to invest some time with her. If you have experienced victory in the Beauty Battle, be sure to share your wisdom with the younger women in your life and have grace for them while they work their confidence out.

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Losing our Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available in book stores this spring. All of these books are available now at www.CatrinaWelch.com

 

5 Reasons Feeling Beautiful Affects a Woman’s Relationships

feeling beautifulConfidence is what makes a woman beautiful, but feeling beautiful is what makes her confident.

So, what makes you feel beautiful?

        • A) A professionally coordinated outfit
        • B) Being casual and comfortable
        • C) Makeup and accessories
        • D) Soft, flowing dresses or blouses
        • E) Finding something that fits!
        • F) Wearing strong colors, like black

The answer is different for each style of woman, but when you know, for instance, that completing your outfit with a little makeup will make you feel beautiful, then eyeliner becomes your key to self-confidence (at least until it wears off!). Understanding what makes you feel beautiful is helpful for other reasons as well:

  • If you feel beautiful, you are. Even on a bad-hair-day, you can leave a good first impression if your attitude shows no shame (and no need for apologies) because it shows that imperfection does not cause you to stumble or become self-consumed.
  • Confidence gives you moxie, which empowers you to step out of your comfort zone and get involved in people’s lives.
  • Self-confidence builds the confidence others have in you. If you don’t like you, why should anyone else?
  • People are less likely to misjudge you. If you feel beautiful, most likely you are dressing true to your character–unlike a bold woman dressed like a delicate girl–which means you are not giving mixed messages.
  • People are more likely to offer themselves to someone who is true to herself. If your beauty seems as if you are trying to be someone you are not, then others will put up their guard around you.

All this being said, relationships are what life is all about and if feeling beautiful is a factor in making our relationships good, then I think that taking care of ourselves is a win-win, don’t you?

If you don’t know which style of beauty you are, be sure to take my complimentary Image Identity (Img.ID) quiz on my website, or contact me for an individual or group image assessment.

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Catrina Welch is an image- and life-coach whose message is not as much “what not to wear” as it is, “Know Who You Are,” which is the title of her book of guidelines for your personal image identity. Catrina has also written a Bible study to help women overcome their confidence conflicts; it is titled Supreme MakeOver: a Rich and Refreshing Devotional Experience. Her other books include Footprints Through the Sand: a Consolidation of Life-altering stories about Loving and Losing our Trisomy-18 Baby and Confident Beauty: Reflecting the One Who Made You with the Images in Your Mirror and Your Soul, which will be available in book stores this spring. All of these books are available now at www.CatrinaWelch.com